SOS ! I suspect my good friend is a gay
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He seemed like every other normal boy out there, y'know ..
So I was quite pleasantly shocked when I heard the news - Well I don't mind having gay friends but it didn't occur to me that I would have one this soon.
Point here is he is still Secondary 4 !
P.S Yeah he made "remarks" to me. :/
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hehe..u interested in him?
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Did you ask your friend if he have watched Brokeback Mountain before?
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Originally posted by dbowie:
He seemed like every other normal boy out there, y'know ..
So I was quite pleasantly shocked when I heard the news - Well I don't mind having gay friends but it didn't occur to me that I would have one this soon.
Point here is he is still Secondary 4 !
P.S Yeah he made "remarks" to me. :/
sec 4 then cannot be gay? must have a specific age?
You dont have to do anything, just accept him for who he is. Ok??
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So u are normal and he is abnormal?
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did he see your penis?
or did you see his penis?
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Having him as a friend means accepting whatever he is. Although, you may not support a gay's lifestyle, you need to understand that changes cannot be brought about by you alone - the other party has to accept the fact and change within him.
I am not dampening your spirit here but I'd rather that you be a friend - just like how you would treat others in a well and carefree attitude.
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How many times must I reiterate, I do not have homophobia or something like that ( Whatever you spell it ), I am just wondering is there any way to support/help him. I appreciate all comments above. Thanks. (:
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yuck.
i dont like gays. not one bit. same way some people hate drug users.
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Originally posted by dbowie:
How many times must I reiterate, I do not have homophobia or something like that ( Whatever you spell it ), I am just wondering is there any way to support/help him. I appreciate all comments above. Thanks. (:
Help?
What kind of help?
'Convert' him to 'normal'?
Is that the kind of 'help' you are talking bout? Why do you assume he needs help? (just because he likes guys??)
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Originally posted by OO_OO_OO:
yuck.
i dont like gays. not one bit. same way some people hate drug users.
I dislike ignorants too. not one bit.
So are you linking homosexuals as drug users?
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You think you can help? The only thing that you can do is to accept him for who he is... unless you want him just for you?
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yes iam.
both are doing things that are unnatural and morally wrong.
might as well say you condone beastiality. its the same thing.
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think that whether gay or straight is not realli choice if he is borm with the tendency. I believe that he had also faced a lot of societal pressure.If you think you still want to maintain a good relaionship with him as a friend, try to accept him as who he is. Dun give him the extra pressure lol...
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I reckon from your post u arent gay yourself. Hopefully u will not presume that gay friends definitely have a thing for all their male friends. Its not true and as i used to have a gay friend, they can be in fact one of the best and fun tobe with friends you could ever have.
In short, as long as it is clear to the both of you that romance will never blossom and just like platonic friendships btw a guy and a gal, imho you should maintain the friendship. Hope you wont judge and ostracise a gay just because for the sake he is gay.
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Originally posted by the Bear:
"gay" is an adjective, not a noun...
therefore, it is "you are gay" and definitely not "you are a gay"
btw.. so what if he is gay?
then he had to watch help him to watch his back.
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Originally posted by ^tamago^:
You'll get used to it, though you might want to tell him that you're never interested in guys.
Yep, make it clear before things get too complicated. But don't sound too offensive or try to convince him to become straight for now. It's still possible to maintain a platonic friendship with him.
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Originally posted by Midlusionz:
Seriously speaking like wat others said.. They are humans. Some of them really damn funny .. Nice ppl to hang out with but well not the twisted way tho
Because getting drunk with them is a great idea.
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you don't have to do anything special 'to support him' other than just continue to treat him as a friend like how you always treated him. and of course you should respect his privacy and not tell other people about this if he doesn't want you to do so.
i have quite a few female friends who like gals too but we have perfectly normal friendships no different from my friendships with straight friends. its not like they will surely hit on you just because you are female (or in your case male) too. gay people can also have normal friendships with people of the same sex.
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seriously, wad everyone has said makes sense. gays are normal ppl. they dun nd any help. y do some ppl think tt being gay is a mental problem? like caleb said: "accept him for who he is". treat him as a normal being.