Standing up after a Fall.
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Hello All
As some knew, i just had a hard time with my relationship. The time has come for us to split, but she is
still holding on to her end. Anyway this is not the issue I wish to address.
As I travelled, a book appeared, teaching me stuff which I should learn. This book has lifted my
spirit and brought me back to my feet. For the singles who are feeling down, do ponder over the points
a little, cheer up and bring yourself back on your feet.
There are several chapters, but I will just summarise.
1) Assessing yourself
You are better than you think!
Recognise your capabilities
Don't be afraid to change
Don't be afraid to try
2) Facing Reality
Don't Regress
Stop the Pity Party
Don't try to impress peope with Make-believe
Adapt to the present
Let our expectations be real
3) Self Esteem
Do not think you are the loser
Think positive
Never See yourself as inadequate
4) Love and Friendship
Do Something about that Lonely feeling.
Make yourself Visible
Don't Precipitate Rejection
Just be yourSelf
Accept What Cannot be Changed
Stick with the Winners
I will just keep it short for now.
Perhaps some will flame me and question me about the points above. They are just
merely lifted from a book, and I say it does help me alot. Might not be able to
answer any questions regarding the points, but I will try defending.
It's pretty hard for people to get over a couple's day alone. I had went through this
and I know that feeling. For those who are single, cheer up. Life will get better, ok?
: )
Have a good week everyone! -
well its good that u can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and its great to see that there are still ppl hu are willing to share their learning and thoughts with others.. u shudn't worry abt ppl flaming u though.. what worked for u may or may not work for others.. if it works for them as well, u've saved 1 more.. if not, they will hafta help themselves.. what matters is u tried and shared.. cheers to u=)
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Originally posted by purpledragon84:
well its good that u can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and its great to see that there are still ppl hu are willing to share their learning and thoughts with others.. u shudn't worry abt ppl flaming u though.. what worked for u may or may not work for others.. if it works for them as well, u've saved 1 more.. if not, they will hafta help themselves.. what matters is u tried and shared.. cheers to u=)
the light at the end of the tunnel might be a train
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Well, if can pick up the pieces after the train wreck, then it would be even better!!!!
hahaha, not easy, but still possible!
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shrekho,
If most of us can do it, so can you.
We are not saints nor angels, not super humans nor aliens.
Are you not one of us , mere mortals ?
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nice sharing!
i feel that its quite useful to read about all these when one needs it e most..
however..most of e time, when we are feeling down, we seem to forget everything, and go right down to pity ourselves...
still, wish you have a smooth sailing yr ahead!
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On self Esteem..i feel that..it is good to add that it is good to be humble even as you think u are not the loser..however thinking as a winner too often, makes u big headed
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Hi Alfa and jo
We are mere mortals, with given lifespan, subjected to conditions given by nature and environment.
Since we are just humans, we should life ourselves up as quickly as possible. Limited lifespan leh!When I made the firm decision, I was worried with lots of things. Will I be old and lonely when I
touch 40? But hey, don't worry about the future things that is not going to happen yet. It just makes
you unhappy. Think present and plan future, not worry for both. Take a step at a time man.
Anyway puppy, I am not talking about self esteem of loud mouth muther fukers, I am talking bout
those who wish to be kept alone on side, and preferably invisible to others.Honestly, those loud mouth people might also be suffering from low self esteem too. They are
just covering up their low self with fake confidence and make believes!Take Charlie Brown and Lucy. Imagine.....
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Originally posted by purpledragon84:
well its good that u can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and its great to see that there are still ppl hu are willing to share their learning and thoughts with others.. u shudn't worry abt ppl flaming u though.. what worked for u may or may not work for others.. if it works for them as well, u've saved 1 more.. if not, they will hafta help themselves.. what matters is u tried and shared.. cheers to u=)
Don't be so positive. The light in the tunnel could be a train.
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Originally posted by aiglosicicle:
the light at the end of the tunnel might be a train
Same thinking as me sia! 
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
Don't be so positive. The light in the tunnel could be a train.
well, im always glad the that the light in the tunnel is a train.. means i can board the mrt n get to my destination.. (who the hell told u to stand on the tracks to wait!?!?! stand at the platform la!)