Help on divorce..

• purple-ice

  23 Feb 08, 02:10

  My dad got affairs. Helping my mummy to ask on divorce. Please help..

  If you or your fren hv experience on divorce and willing to share.. Please PM me.. Thank you so much..

• Devil1976

  23 Feb 08, 03:30

  Having affairs is a valid ground for divorce. If filed, wait for 2 years of separation then can divorce.

   

  What else do you wish to know?

• Ed11790

  23 Feb 08, 04:21

  why divorse?

• FireIce

  23 Feb 08, 04:51

  find a lawyer.

• xavier1979

  23 Feb 08, 10:50

  Seek a legal opinion, please.

• noopi

  23 Feb 08, 10:55

  some CCs provide legal advise
  call around and see where have
  last time i remember marine parade CC have

  when you all know what to do oredi
  then engage lawyer

• Master -_-

  23 Feb 08, 10:56

  Hire PI..

   

  Get the necessary photographs..

   

  File for a writ of divorce and a statement of claim and particulars from the Family Court.

   

  Family court will oversee your writ whether it is justifiable under s95 of the Women's Charter...

• purple-ice

  24 Feb 08, 23:16

  Thanks everyone.. Do we have to prove the affairs? To hire PI?? Or straight away go find lawyer?

  If you all have any cheap PI or lawyer to reco, please PM me.. thank you so much.. :)

• Guardx

  24 Feb 08, 23:20

  You should read some of this posting in this forum.

  They are the experts in this type of problems

  http://www.singaporebrides.com/forumboard/messages/5/5.html

• Fatum

  24 Feb 08, 23:35

  Originally posted by purple-ice:

  Thanks everyone.. Do we have to prove the affairs? To hire PI?? Or straight away go find lawyer?

  If you all have any cheap PI or lawyer to reco, please PM me.. thank you so much.. :)

  there's a write up on honey traps in today's straits times ... it's an interesting read ... your mommy may be able to pick up something from there ...

• rlsh07

  25 Feb 08, 01:51

  Originally posted by purple-ice:

  My dad got affairs. Helping my mummy to ask on divorce. Please help..

  If you or your fren hv experience on divorce and willing to share.. Please PM me.. Thank you so much..

  ur mum already decided on divorce? ur dad knoe abt it? the house that ur staying in is under ur dad or mum's name? is it a joint ownership? then the kids custody will be with ur mum? there are a lot of things to consider for a divorce though.

   

  therefore before walking to that stage, does ur dad knoes that ur mum knoes abt his affairs? does he show any remorse or does he want to salvage the relationship with ur mum though? because ultimately divorce is a painful process, emotionally affecting the parties invovled.

• cApitaland

  25 Feb 08, 02:55

  Hi TS may I know you old are you. I hope you are not too affected by it

• mancha

  25 Feb 08, 03:30

  There is only one ground for divorce: Irretrievable breakdown of marriage.

  You must prove that the marriage has broken down and cannot be tollerated any more.

  The cause of this breakdown is of minor importance. Usually it is extramarital affairs, money problems, personality differences, violence, etc, can be anything.

  Just proving an affair is not enough. You must prove that because of the affair (or whatever), you cannot live in peace together anymore. The wife must say she cannot tollerate the husband anymore. Also add in that continued staying together would damage her health or be detrimental to her.

  Get a lawyer.

  He will try reconciliation first. If he sees really no hope, then he will proceed with the divorce. He will know what to do.

  Don't forget to claim her share of matrimonial assets  Don't give chance..

   

   

• areusure

  25 Feb 08, 11:10

  Iti is indeed most unfortunate that a divorce is last resort.

   

  Hope you will continue to be the beacon of your mum hope. The procedure can be stressful. Do advise your mum to seek counselling or medical advice should there be need and not let anyhting fester to point health is compromised.

   

  Take care to the both of you.

• Devil1976

  26 Feb 08, 08:57

  Originally posted by purple-ice:

  Thanks everyone.. Do we have to prove the affairs? To hire PI?? Or straight away go find lawyer?

  If you all have any cheap PI or lawyer to reco, please PM me.. thank you so much.. :)

  
  Depends on what your mum and you (if you don't have other siblings) are after in the divorce and how strong a case you wish to fight for.

   

  If it's not the last straw yet, can always opt for family counselling.

   

  In extramarital affair, sometimes it's worth to wait a while to see how the situation might change.

   

  Of course, it'll be hard for us to gauge without much of your background. Even then, it'll still be more advisable to go for proper family counselling channel to help your family. Legal-wise, you can try Legal Aid Bureau of SIngapore. http://app.minlaw.gov.sg/lab/default.asp?r=2.

• bleuwhale

  26 Feb 08, 13:15

  Does  Legal Aid Bureau help with representations in Divorce cases???    hm...  I don't quite recall that...

• Devil1976

  26 Feb 08, 13:34

  Originally posted by bleuwhale:

  Does  Legal Aid Bureau help with representations in Divorce cases???    hm...  I don't quite recall that...

  You can at least just ask for more professional advices from lawyers stationed there...

   

  Yes, they do help with representation in divorce cases if you're applicable.

• maxsee

  26 Feb 08, 22:26

  From wat i know hor...last time i got a friend whose wife got affair....he consult lawyer...lawyer say if dun want to pay maintenance hor...must hire PI to get evidence...if got evidence hor...can straight away divorce and no need separation...and also no need pay maintenace....if evidence not strong...can at most get divorce on unreasonable behaviour...which in this case must pay maintenance woh....