Troubled & confused
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Hi all,
Like to seek advice in this forum.
I know a guy for 2 mths. We have liking for each other. He used to call and sms me daily. However, now he hardly call or sms me. When I msged him, he didn't reply to me sometimes.
I really don't know what had happened to him. By the way, he is working in overseas right now. Could it be the long distance phone costs that prevent him from contacting me right now ? His co is paying for his hp usage.
He is making me confused. He told me that something in his heart that tells him that he will fall in love with me.Yet he says that he need to be finanically stable in r/s What does the guy want actually ? I know that career is impt to a guy. I am not forcing him to have a r/s with me. I just want a definite ans and not indecisive ans or inexplicable ans that is misleading. Then he told me he is coming to sg for awhile that was either ytd or today.Ytd he didn't call me. I assumed that he is most likely to be in sg today. It is an agony to wait for his phone call. I really want to have a heart to heart talk with him to sort things out.
I really wonder if i should give up or keep waiting for him for something to happen ???
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time will tell....dn worry so much....maybe he need to sort out his feelings...think u dn tink so much...jus do other tings to make urself occupy ....take tings as nature
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Originally posted by thg7:
you already got the answer. i think u should do what is highlighted.
Hi all,
Like to seek advice in this forum.
I know a guy for 2 mths. We have liking for each other. He used to call and sms me daily. However, now he hardly call or sms me. When I msged him, he didn't reply to me sometimes.
I really don't know what had happened to him. By the way, he is working in overseas right now. Could it be the long distance phone costs that prevent him from contacting me right now ? His co is paying for his hp usage.
He is making me confused. He told me that something in his heart that tells him that he will fall in love with me.Yet he says that he need to be finanically stable in r/s What does the guy want actually ? I know that career is impt to a guy. I am not forcing him to have a r/s with me. I just want a definite ans and not indecisive ans or inexplicable ans that is misleading. Then he told me he is coming to sg for awhile that was either ytd or today.Ytd he didn't call me. I assumed that he is most likely to be in sg today. It is an agony to wait for his phone call. I really want to have a heart to heart talk with him to sort things out.
I really wonder if i should give up or keep waiting for him for something to happen ??? 
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firstly : ask urself deep in the heart !!!Originally posted by thg7:Hi all,
Like to seek advice in this forum.
I know a guy for 2 mths. We have liking for each other. He used to call and sms me daily. However, now he hardly call or sms me. When I msged him, he didn't reply to me sometimes.
I really don't know what had happened to him. By the way, he is working in overseas right now. Could it be the long distance phone costs that prevent him from contacting me right now ? His co is paying for his hp usage.
He is making me confused. He told me that something in his heart that tells him that he will fall in love with me.Yet he says that he need to be finanically stable in r/s What does the guy want actually ? I know that career is impt to a guy. I am not forcing him to have a r/s with me. I just want a definite ans and not indecisive ans or inexplicable ans that is misleading. Then he told me he is coming to sg for awhile that was either ytd or today.Ytd he didn't call me. I assumed that he is most likely to be in sg today. It is an agony to wait for his phone call. I really want to have a heart to heart talk with him to sort things out.
I really wonder if i should give up or keep waiting for him for something to happen ???
do u enjoy the times with him?
do u dun sleep well every night?
do u dream abt him?
when u do something...Did anything remind u when u busy?
secondly : how much time u spend with him?
thirdly : do u know him well?
finally : actually we can't help much !!!
It's depend on u !!!
But i think u should spend ur time indulge in other activity at the mean time and stop thinking abt him !!!
Coz u never know when he will ever contact u...
I suggest the best thing is u go oversea look for him if u have his address !!!
Better than sitting down thinking why and why ?
The answer will never appear to u if u carry on thinking !!
Solution : either u stop thinking abt him...Put his matters aside or u go oversea look for him !!! -
It needs not to be calling each other everyday, just like mi and XLN.Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:time will tell....dn worry so much....maybe he need to sort out his feelings...think u dn tink so much...jus do other tings to make urself occupy ....take tings as nature
if u miss him, give him a call then to wait and wait...else can send u to the zoo 2 b the giraff
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/me screammm
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U go and sign the cert at http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=30523&page=277Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:/me screammm
ok, dear.
Luv -
/me chop u into 10000 piecesOriginally posted by sgboy2004:U go and sign the cert at http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=30523&page=277
ok, dear.
Luv -
Thanks for all of yr replies.Appreciate it.
Will try to see how things go. -
Originally posted by startrightnow:
Wah you the good. Got my Zhuo Feng.
firstly : ask urself deep in the heart !!!
do u enjoy the times with him?
do u dun sleep well every night?
do u dream abt him?
when u do something...Did anything remind u when u busy?
secondly : how much time u spend with him?
thirdly : do u know him well?
[b]finally : actually we can't help much !!!It's depend on u !!!But i think u should spend ur time indulge in other activity at the mean time and stop thinking abt him !!!
Coz u never know when he will ever contact u...
I suggest the best thing is u go oversea look for him if u have his address !!!
Better than sitting down thinking why and why ?
The answer will never appear to u if u carry on thinking !!
Solution : either u stop thinking abt him...Put his matters aside or u go oversea look for him !!![/b]
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AgreedOriginally posted by www:you already got the answer. i think u should do what is highlighted. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Wah you the good. Got my Zhuo Feng.
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just shun qi zi ran..Originally posted by thg7:Hi all,
Like to seek advice in this forum.
I know a guy for 2 mths. We have liking for each other. He used to call and sms me daily. However, now he hardly call or sms me. When I msged him, he didn't reply to me sometimes.
I really don't know what had happened to him. By the way, he is working in overseas right now. Could it be the long distance phone costs that prevent him from contacting me right now ? His co is paying for his hp usage.
He is making me confused. He told me that something in his heart that tells him that he will fall in love with me.Yet he says that he need to be finanically stable in r/s What does the guy want actually ? I know that career is impt to a guy. I am not forcing him to have a r/s with me. I just want a definite ans and not indecisive ans or inexplicable ans that is misleading. Then he told me he is coming to sg for awhile that was either ytd or today.Ytd he didn't call me. I assumed that he is most likely to be in sg today. It is an agony to wait for his phone call. I really want to have a heart to heart talk with him to sort things out.
I really wonder if i should give up or keep waiting for him for something to happen ??? 
time will tell everything... u just have to be patient and watch and observe how things go.. before u decide on what to do next. dun worry too much k? lai ri fang chang..and u guys still need to get to noe each other better..2 months is too short a time to judge everything.. good luck!! -
do u hav some reserves? go tother guys like u or not...just in case..
So wat do u think u will do? -
Firstly, you have known this guy for 2 months only. One thing I can be sure is that the preception of *YOU* liking and going head over heeds with is only your preception. I am confident to say that his love for you is different form from you - in other words, not like you. Therefore you cannot assume the same thing to you.Originally posted by thg7:Hi all,
Like to seek advice in this forum.
I know a guy for 2 mths. We have liking for each other. He used to call and sms me daily. However, now he hardly call or sms me. When I msged him, he didn't reply to me sometimes.
I really don't know what had happened to him. By the way, he is working in overseas right now. Could it be the long distance phone costs that prevent him from contacting me right now ? His co is paying for his hp usage.
He is making me confused. He told me that something in his heart that tells him that he will fall in love with me.Yet he says that he need to be finanically stable in r/s What does the guy want actually ? I know that career is impt to a guy. I am not forcing him to have a r/s with me. I just want a definite ans and not indecisive ans or inexplicable ans that is misleading. Then he told me he is coming to sg for awhile that was either ytd or today.Ytd he didn't call me. I assumed that he is most likely to be in sg today. It is an agony to wait for his phone call. I really want to have a heart to heart talk with him to sort things out.
I really wonder if i should give up or keep waiting for him for something to happen ???
What do I mean by different form? Your case is a classic case of fundamental studies between man and woman. To a woman, who is a emotional, spirtual thinker - a call, a small kiss, a hug, a small note, simple I miss you - does wonders for your day. Love to a man (in general), tend to overlook such details because their mind and heart has another meaning of love - to protect, provide, security and enjoyment. This explain the part of his need to be financially stable and I bet you will be thinking 'does love cost a shit? Oh well, I guess its a man thinking,' kind of empathy.
Since it has only been two months - I doubt his liking has reached to your point of insane madness, where you feel the sorrow when his call is not here. He said something in his heart will fall in love with you - he a small casual remark on a small liking on his part - which doesn't even represent touch of love. He said *WILL*, didn't say he has fallen in love and ask you to be together.
My suggestion is that, pick yourself up first. If he doesn't call then forget it and lead your normal life. Come and think of this, if he is so irresponsible and hack care - even when he is with you - do you think that will change? We *NEED* a talk with him - you said it yourself, but before that happens, you have to pick yourself up and be stable. For a guy, if lets say a woman comes meeting me and spoke with such emotions - its difficult to communicate - I believe the same for your man.
What must you ask?
Intention...
Actions...
etc...
but most importantly... a DECISION. Remember to tell him, even if cannot be together, be friends you also happy. Its a decision, not a dead end and a decision is settle 'old score' (wrong usage of words) and leave it dust to dust.
Prays -
thanks for yr views. I know wat you mean.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Firstly, you have known this guy for 2 months only. One thing I can be sure is that the preception of *YOU* liking and going head over heeds with is only your preception. I am confident to say that his love for you is different form from you - in other words, not like you. Therefore you cannot assume the same thing to you.
What do I mean by different form? Your case is a classic case of fundamental studies between man and woman. To a woman, who is a emotional, spirtual thinker - a call, a small kiss, a hug, a small note, simple I miss you - does wonders for your day. Love to a man (in general), tend to overlook such details because their mind and heart has another meaning of love - to protect, provide, security and enjoyment. This explain the part of his need to be financially stable and I bet you will be thinking 'does love cost a shit? Oh well, I guess its a man thinking,' kind of empathy.
Since it has only been two months - I doubt his liking has reached to your point of insane madness, where you feel the sorrow when his call is not here. He said something in his heart will fall in love with you - he a small casual remark on a small liking on his part - which doesn't even represent touch of love. He said *WILL*, didn't say he has fallen in love and ask you to be together.
My suggestion is that, pick yourself up first. If he doesn't call then forget it and lead your normal life. Come and think of this, if he is so irresponsible and hack care - even when he is with you - do you think that will change? We *NEED* a talk with him - you said it yourself, but before that happens, you have to pick yourself up and be stable. For a guy, if lets say a woman comes meeting me and spoke with such emotions - its difficult to communicate - I believe the same for your man.
What must you ask?
Intention...
Actions...
etc...
but most importantly... a DECISION. Remember to tell him, even if cannot be together, be friends you also happy. Its a decision, not a dead end and a decision is settle 'old score' (wrong usage of words) and leave it dust to dust.
Prays
anyway, i feel much better aft went out to enjoy myself with friends.
Won't sit at home and think abt this matter.
If he wants to call, he will call anyway. -
seriously speaking, i dun know wat to do if there are guys like me.Originally posted by sgboy2004:do u hav some reserves? go tother guys like u or not...just in case..
So wat do u think u will do?
There is a guy who likes me.
But i dun like him. -
i think this is always the case lehh..very hard to find someone where the feelings is mutual..not that easy...Originally posted by thg7:seriously speaking, i dun know wat to do if there are guys like me.
There is a guy who likes me.
But i dun like him. -
if can ever find some1where feelings r mutual, then you are considered yrself very luckyOriginally posted by yErN:i think this is always the case lehh..very hard to find someone where the feelings is mutual..not that easy... -
btw, i had taken initiative to call him.
He sounds so happy duh....
Then aft that saying i m the nicest gal he ever met......what is the use haiz -
why? your feelings for him has ease down?
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wat u mean feelings for him has ease down ?Originally posted by kohanson:why? your feelings for him has ease down? -
thg7, what ko means is that has your feelings for the guy diminished?
and you think too much. Don;t read too much into things which may not have any meaning in the first place. You give yourself unnecessary anxieties and mental torture.
and yunhaier, for a guy, you gave pretty sound advice.
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