Desperate for help........
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Yesterday was my gf and i 3rd month together....
She came over to my place.... Her mother knows...
I guess i was at fault too.... i shouldn't had given her a lovebite on the neck..... Her mum found out..... got real mad and rang me up interrogating me..... I told the truth and everything... she then said that if i ever got close to her again... she would report me to the police.... I was never to see her from now on.... she also said... 'u may look innocent.... but u have disappointed me alot... i never knew u would be so wild'
WTF did i do to deserve this! Furthermore its on our 3rd month together.....
I don't wanna lose her.......
I did not argue with her because i do not want my girlfriend to get hurt more... (her dad punched her)...... I don't know why the mother f*toot* her parents treat her own daughter like this.....
They call her a slut who sleeps around with other guys just because she was forced upon earlier this year by a jerk and got pregnant.... she went for an abortion..... from then on. the insults began and never ended... Everytime they quarreled over small things... her mum would bring up the topic...
she was sobbing alot last night when i called her up.... I wan to take her out of this hellhole she's been in for 19 years...
Please can someone offer some help to me? -
This is family violence, and al u can do is to bring her to some of the Social service centres and make a report.
The parents might be going through a stage of denial..a love bite on daughter's neck made them mad as they hav had gone through a painful period of her abortion, and they wan no peace.
Use your sincerity to touch her parents...
Get some help from the social services first, to warrant any further violence that may happen again.
Good luck and let us know how u are doing.
Rgds
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her father punched her? thats enough cause of a personal protection order.
she was raped? was there a police report? seems like family very concious of loss of face?
like what sgboy2004 said, its denial from parents, some consuelling would hopefully help.
i am not sure if you can *take her in to live with you* since shes only 19. i would assume that at age 21 u are able to with or without consent of girls parents to move in.
lastly u are with her for 3 months, how true is the love, think of long term. -
the girl cant do anyting..cos her family so strict....ask her to study hard ....when she grow up gt money then can b independent liao lor
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if u knew all this then why still give her a love bite???????Originally posted by Moonstriker:Yesterday was my gf and i 3rd month together....
She came over to my place.... Her mother knows...
I guess i was at fault too.... i shouldn't had given her a lovebite on the neck..... Her mum found out..... got real mad and rang me up interrogating me..... I told the truth and everything... she then said that if i ever got close to her again... she would report me to the police.... I was never to see her from now on.... she also said... 'u may look innocent.... but u have disappointed me alot... i never knew u would be so wild'
WTF did i do to deserve this! Furthermore its on our 3rd month together.....
I don't wanna lose her.......
I did not argue with her because i do not want my girlfriend to get hurt more... (her dad punched her)...... I don't know why the mother f*toot* her parents treat her own daughter like this.....
They call her a slut who sleeps around with other guys just because she was forced upon earlier this year by a jerk and got pregnant.... she went for an abortion..... from then on. the insults began and never ended... Everytime they quarreled over small things... her mum would bring up the topic...
she was sobbing alot last night when i called her up.... I wan to take her out of this hellhole she's been in for 19 years...
Please can someone offer some help to me?
anyway if she got punched i think you should go over to their house and punch her dad.... and then take your girl get some money and run away together....preferably to another country.....
or if that is too much just run away with her -
wat bull shit...oops..i forgot u are a cowOriginally posted by Wild_Cow:if u knew all this then why still give her a love bite???????
anyway if she got punched i think you should go over to their house and punch her dad.... and then take your girl get some money and run away together....preferably to another country.....
or if that is too much just run away with her
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you can try this site and get help from them
http://www.mcds.gov.sg/web/home_main.asp
Please get her help fast b4 any thing happens. U can email to them or call them to seek their advice first before taking any action.
good Luck
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aqcutaly she is above 16 so u give her love bite...and she is willing..so even they report police...u r nt in wrong aso mah...they in the wrong..cos they punch their own kid...
i hate parents who like to hit their children...n then like to find old debts to tok about..! -
ahahahaha......i trying to help him 1.......the words just came out bad ahahahahahahOriginally posted by sgboy2004:wat bull shit...oops..i forgot u are a cow
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i am a good good boy in a good good world. Mi cool dude man.
he gets the idea.... i will rephrase
if u r man and u love her u will get her out of that situation.....
if u are coward just run away and forget that u started the whole trouble with ur stupid love bite -
her parents are protective because of what had happened to her last time. your love bite made her parents mad because they have always seen u as a innocent guy. And what u have did now is actually just a love bite but they thought was something bad .
Try to talk to her parents nicely when they have cool down. talk nicely.
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Mind if I ask how old are you...? Though she might be very IMPORTANT to you now... But SERIOUSLY.... How well do you really know her and her parents...? 3 months...? It's not a very long time from the way I see it....Originally posted by Moonstriker:Yesterday was my gf and i 3rd month together....
She came over to my place.... Her mother knows...
I guess i was at fault too.... i shouldn't had given her a lovebite on the neck..... Her mum found out..... got real mad and rang me up interrogating me..... I told the truth and everything... she then said that if i ever got close to her again... she would report me to the police.... I was never to see her from now on.... she also said... 'u may look innocent.... but u have disappointed me alot... i never knew u would be so wild'
WTF did i do to deserve this! Furthermore its on our 3rd month together.....
I don't wanna lose her.......
I did not argue with her because i do not want my girlfriend to get hurt more... (her dad punched her)...... I don't know why the mother f*toot* her parents treat her own daughter like this.....
They call her a slut who sleeps around with other guys just because she was forced upon earlier this year by a jerk and got pregnant.... she went for an abortion..... from then on. the insults began and never ended... Everytime they quarreled over small things... her mum would bring up the topic...
she was sobbing alot last night when i called her up.... I wan to take her out of this hellhole she's been in for 19 years...
Please can someone offer some help to me?
Quarrels and treatments... Different families have different ways of handling it.... At her age, her parents exercise RIGHTS over her control and freedom.... But your gf exercise RIGHTS for sex and things to do in a relationship.... Heading it HARD-ON would only create TROUBLE for BOTH you and your gf... UNLESS you wanna bring your gf from 'hell' and 'escape' from her parents forever...? Don't mind me REMINDER you again... You're ONLY 3 months for now.... Why don't you stay a little longer and see....?
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If you know that she has been to such a situation before... the more you should take cautious and great care in seeing that the parents will not presume that you were like the previous jerk in her life. Parents cares for their children, and when things happens, they will assume that if the conditions for it to happens occurs again... it WILL happen. But of course, condition for it to happen can be made to *seemed* like it is not happening.Originally posted by Moonstriker:Yesterday was my gf and i 3rd month together....
She came over to my place.... Her mother knows...
I guess i was at fault too.... i shouldn't had given her a lovebite on the neck..... Her mum found out..... got real mad and rang me up interrogating me..... I told the truth and everything... she then said that if i ever got close to her again... she would report me to the police.... I was never to see her from now on.... she also said... 'u may look innocent.... but u have disappointed me alot... i never knew u would be so wild'
WTF did i do to deserve this! Furthermore its on our 3rd month together.....
I don't wanna lose her.......
I did not argue with her because i do not want my girlfriend to get hurt more... (her dad punched her)...... I don't know why the mother f*toot* her parents treat her own daughter like this.....
They call her a slut who sleeps around with other guys just because she was forced upon earlier this year by a jerk and got pregnant.... she went for an abortion..... from then on. the insults began and never ended... Everytime they quarreled over small things... her mum would bring up the topic...
she was sobbing alot last night when i called her up.... I wan to take her out of this hellhole she's been in for 19 years...
Please can someone offer some help to me?
The lovebite is a great catalysis that sparks that whole argument. You ought and got to learn that and have to prevent such thing from happening, so that her parents have zero excuse to even suspect you. You love your gf don't you? So the *MORE* you should protect her from such harm that may befall on her.
The solution for your problem is time. Only time can really tell who you are - remember not to let her stay with you too late, no more lovebites, she cannot get drunk, etc, because all these impression goes to YOU. You are responsible to create and generate a better picture and to make her parents feel safe to put their daughters in your hands. All these takes time. Once you prove them with time that you are DIFFERENT - you will still win this battle.
Astrological Insight - more time and patient needed for Capricorn, Leo, Taurus, Aqurius or Scorpio parents.
Cheers -
Although i've been with her for only 3months and one day.... I know very well what her parents will say in their next sentence...
I know her in and out.... i know what she likes and what she doesn't... Her mind is not on sex and all the stuff that some of u said earlier.... She juz wans to live life like a normal teen gal around us... I know her parents are concerned for her... I understand that they got mad and i noe they have every right to... but.... haiz....
It was accicental abt the bite.....
I want to protect her..... but at the same time.. i do not want to sow discord and break up her family... Goin for a protection order will cause this....
I am 18.... some of u mite react with 'OMG! so young' rite?
I've gone through love hate joy pain... I know what is right and wrong.
I wanna prove to them i am not like that jerk...
but i just don't know what to do.......
Some things i did in life which i thought was the correct thing to do.. turned out ugly....
3months may not be a long time... but we could've met each other 2 years ago... we could had known each other through her frens who happen to be my own friends whom i often hang out with...
There were lots of times in which we could've known each other.... she's in my school... i walk past her lotsa times.. and we still don't know each other was there..
ARgHz......... -
I did not know this would happen.......Originally posted by Wild_Cow:if u knew all this then why still give her a love bite???????
anyway if she got punched i think you should go over to their house and punch her dad.... and then take your girl get some money and run away together....preferably to another country.....
or if that is too much just run away with her -
mi joking wif u lahOriginally posted by Wild_Cow:ahahahaha......i trying to help him 1.......the words just came out bad ahahahahahah
he gets the idea.... i will rephrase
if u r man and u love her u will get her out of that situation.....
if u are coward just run away and forget that u started the whole trouble with ur stupid love bite
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Read the above... Also, don't be too defensive against her parents though you wanna protect your girl... Always try to see from their point of view too from time to time....Originally posted by Yunhaier:The solution for your problem is time. Only time can really tell who you are - remember not to let her stay with you too late, no more lovebites, she cannot get drunk, etc, because all these impression goes to YOU. You are responsible to create and generate a better picture and to make her parents feel safe to put their daughters in your hands. All these takes time. Once you prove them with time that you are DIFFERENT - you will still win this battle.
2 MAIN cards you should be playing over period of TIME....
1. RESPECT for her parents.
2. REAL CARE and CONCERN for their daughter.
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i do respect her parents.... and i want to protect my girl.....
Anyway..... now i am just giving all involved a cooling period...
Would it be a good idea if i asked her parents and mi gal out for a lunch? On mi treat of course....
I dun expect myself to be forgiven by her parents.... but i wanna sincerely apologise for wad had happened.... -
You can trial and error on various methods you might wanna use... Just don't move things too harshly and keep your cool...?Originally posted by Moonstriker:i do respect her parents.... and i want to protect my girl.....
Anyway..... now i am just giving all involved a cooling period...
Would it be a good idea if i asked her parents and mi gal out for a lunch? On mi treat of course....
I dun expect myself to be forgiven by her parents.... but i wanna sincerely apologise for wad had happened....
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yeah i think they still mad over the incident that such things happened to her dotter. imagine a parent's feeling when their dotter still so young but went thru abortion.if my dotter like that ah.....%^#$%@$#%#$%Originally posted by sgboy2004:This is family violence, and al u can do is to bring her to some of the Social service centres and make a report.
The parents might be going through a stage of denial..a love bite on daughter's neck made them mad as they hav had gone through a painful period of her abortion, and they wan no peace.
Use your sincerity to touch her parents...
Get some help from the social services first, to warrant any further violence that may happen again.
Good luck and let us know how u are doing.
Rgds
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i'll try out some methods.....