I have lost it
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TS, i've learnt that the best motivation is from within your heart.. None of anyone that u know even your very best fren can help u obtain your very own motivation. Never feel like your fren doesnt concern bout u, cuz they cant help much in this except for giving u the same advice as u heard from others.
U just neeed to know, that you're not alone in this world having all those painful experience. Some are worst than your condition now that u couldnt even think bout. Dont spend time alone doing nothing cuz that will make matters worst.. try to find something to get busy or get a comedy or do your hobby stuffs. PLay game or watching porn will be good too. Tough life but once u know how to handle, its a piece of cake in some duration.
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Get a doctor
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Originally posted by Zarks:
I believe shes just cheating u. Wtf with some1 who feel pressure and simply break up ? lol. its more like she knew other guy ya. What a stupid excuse that she gave u. Even if its the truth, dont u feel glad that shes the play-play type in r/s, doesnt want to get too serious in r/s ? If i were u, i should be glad. One day u will realise that.check properly what's wrong with the r/s...dun simply think so naive that she needs a break or somethi..she might be cheating on u....i totally agree with Zark..if she did..just move on with u life..u definitely deserve someone better than her...
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its common nowdays, jus tell yrself if the old one dont go the new one wont come in.
Yr fate with her lasted till that day already, time to move on and get a new girl.
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Bad things are parts and puzzles of life... don't worry too much.
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dun worry, u will feel better - time will heal your wounds.
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Originally posted by setokaiba:
I did cried. A few times today.
I cried like that too when my puppy lover and I were over; for days - couldnt eat for days; put one grain of rice into my mouth and I started crying; sat on the bus and started crying; cried myself to sleep; stared in the space and cried. Admit that you are going thru' a difficult phase. U will be fine.
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do whatever these people above me said, and if all else fails, you need
METAL IN YOUR LIFE.
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I forgot to mention that we work in the same company and same department. I have to face her everyday.
I still love her. Very much.
I feel the pain and my heart hurts. Very much.
Even if it means that I have to take this pain forever, I will.
I could not bring myself to hurt her or just pretend that nothing ever happened.
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Originally posted by setokaiba:
Hi all,
I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.
I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.
This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.
My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).
I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.
I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?
I forese in 3months time, I'll be like you~
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To TS and all souls who are facing relationship problems, go out and have fun. Listen to your favourite music, do what you want to do.
This song empowers me again and again when I face problems,hope it helps you too. be strong!
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I don't really know what to do.
I really love my gf and can't bear to let her go.
Should I tell her about how I feel now?
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if you do that, you're lowering yourself and making yourself look despo and needy, which is a big turn-off for girls.
just let her go or change job if need to.....if you face her everyday, the problem is very hard to solve and even time cannot heal you if that's the case.
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you were like me the last time when i had depression.. appetite loss is normal... and weight loss is even more obvious.... could rem tat i think i lost abt 5 kg in a month or so.. couldnt eat, drink, nor sleep....
I made myself tired by doing alot of things, be it housework, etc... den i fell asleep without knowing, flat on my bed.. spent a few months like this.... but well, the problem remains unsolved...
Now jus waiting for things to happen.... good or bad, i guess i have to be brave enuf to face the aftermath...
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Don't be too sad.
Try to put things behind , treat this as a lesson ,
Things has already happened ,
Live on bravely. Take a step outside your house ,
Tell yourself , Its going to be a brand new day .
Time heal everything . Cheer up -
i am quite sure shes not cheating on me. neither she has known few guys. cuz i knw if she does, she will tell me honestly.
she is a girl not many poeple, in fact all cant understand her. she has a problem in handling stress. n she gets stressed up v easily.
and when she doesnt knw how to handle. she takes it out on our rs.
maybe this rs is giving her a lot of stress n pressure. that makes her unable to concentrate.
ive do what i can. really am v nice to her. well, good person dies faster.
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Originally posted by Nikar 3:
if you do that, you're lowering yourself and making yourself look despo and needy, which is a big turn-off for girls.
just let her go or change job if need to.....if you face her everyday, the problem is very hard to solve and even time cannot heal you if that's the case.
I am not sure if time can heal me.
For me right now, the only way to really heal would be hoping something can happen so that we could be back together.
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Go IMH 2 find a psychiatrist. Now u nid therapy. If possible, take leave 2 hv a gd rest. U nid a break now.
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Originally posted by Lefti68:
Go IMH 2 find a psychiatrist. Now u nid therapy. If possible, take leave 2 hv a gd rest. U nid a break now.
I have an appointment at IMH at the end of the month.
I cant take leave. The work place ppl will bully her if I am not around and there will be no one to help her.
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if u cannot healed urself , how can you expect urself to protect anyone?
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In moments like this, when we should be at our strongest, inevitably we feel at our weakest. It isn't her fault that she treats you like a friend, and it isn't your fault if you misconstrued it as something more. But think about it this way, off hand, that if she were to become your girlfriend, you wouldn't be comfortable since if she could be like that to you, if she goes out with her friends and they are males, she could behave like that with them as well and send out wrong messages. What you have is freedom, choice, and a healthy bank account. The only thing standing in the way is your mind. Consider carefully if certain sacrifices are indeed worth making. Its not the easiest thing in the world, but do try.
For depression, please refrain as much as you can from taking anti-depressants. Most people do get hooked on it and rely too much on chemical solutions rather than develop a strength of their own. On the extreme, if you feel suicidal, think about why you like her and if that aspect is really worth us losing a person like you. I have no doubt you're nice.
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Originally posted by Noughticated:
In moments like this, when we should be at our strongest, inevitably we feel at our weakest. It isn't her fault that she treats you like a friend, and it isn't your fault if you misconstrued it as something more. But think about it this way, off hand, that if she were to become your girlfriend, you wouldn't be comfortable since if she could be like that to you, if she goes out with her friends and they are males, she could behave like that with them as well and send out wrong messages. What you have is freedom, choice, and a healthy bank account. The only thing standing in the way is your mind. Consider carefully if certain sacrifices are indeed worth making. Its not the easiest thing in the world, but do try.
For depression, please refrain as much as you can from taking anti-depressants. Most people do get hooked on it and rely too much on chemical solutions rather than develop a strength of their own. On the extreme, if you feel suicidal, think about why you like her and if that aspect is really worth us losing a person like you. I have no doubt you're nice.
To me, every sacrifice is worth it even if the rest of the world does not think so. Even if it does take my everything and I end up with nothing, I would still feel worth it because simply I love her.
I did not take any medicine for the past few days as I also know I did not want to rely on it. Anyway, I do not have anti-depressants to take. I only have some kind of a relaxant which helps me sleep better at night. Doesnt work as I will still wake up in the middle of the night.
I like her because she is her. She is unique and special. She loves her parents, siblings very much and is helpful. I like her for who she is.
I place myself as 2nd importance because she is 1st. But am I really doing so?
Thanks for saying I am nice but being nice is of no use because nice guys finish last and no one appreciates them the way they are. You say say its false but after what I been through, its a fact for me.
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I understand what you're saying. I'm a hopeless romantic as well and I sacrifice everything for my partner. Its not easy but when you do, you feel somewhat at your best even though it leaves you high and dry. But these are the consequences, and I have no doubt nice guys do finish last.
You might be upset perhaps because you can't understand why even after all those immense sacrifices, the relationship still ended even though you thought it never could since you've been giving so much?
(Glad to know you arent taking extreme medication)
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Originally posted by Noughticated:
I understand what you're saying. I'm a hopeless romantic as well and I sacrifice everything for my partner. Its not easy but when you do, you feel somewhat at your best even though it leaves you high and dry. But these are the consequences, and I have no doubt nice guys do finish last.
You might be upset perhaps because you can't understand why even after all those immense sacrifices, the relationship still ended even though you thought it never could since you've been giving so much?
(Glad to know you arent taking extreme medication)
My mind is going crazy at this rate. I might just go nuts if this goes on.I do not know what to do. Should I just give up and move on?
Should I change myself and then chase her back to show her my sincereity?
Since nice guys finish last, why bother to be one?
Yes I do not understand why? Why do people fail to see how much you have put in and be touched by it or get affected by it?
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Your pain will go soon, bad things always happen,just try and move on