bleah suicide is a word that i hate. thrown around so frivolously. like his death won't affect anyone like that.
if he really wanted to suicide, he can swallow a bottle of thinner and throw a lighted match into his mouth.
Originally posted by ChiBet:
If sucide is a criminal offence in Singapore, let your friend know that he maybe jailed and canned for successfully commiting sucide.this may disuade him from doing so
i don't think he cares. if he was successful
People who want to commit suicide, would have done so without notifying anyone of their intentions. Obviously he doesn't want to die. Encouragement becomes pointless at this stage. You need to smack sense into him. As in, get harsh and give it to him in the face. Too much sympathy and encouragement will only make him more dependant on external forces to keep him alive. He needs to develop his own will power and reason to live and try to be happy.
Originally posted by extra one:
dont get cocky just because you have favourable circumstances that make you "matured"
did i say i am mature?
Originally posted by annoy-you-must:
I used to have the same mentality, thinking that 'immature' people deserves more scoldings than help. I even felt disgusted at those schooling teens posting on Aunt Agony dying or whatever over bgr problems when instead, all of us know that there are much bigger and important things in this world to worry about. Wars, injustice, disasters, etc.But later I came to realise that I've been through that phase before...spent the whole year emo-ing because of a girl, among other lame 'problems'. So I guess everyone needs to learn how to grow up, and there's no harm trying to help these people see the world outside of their own.
After all, if such people really do something foolish at the end of the day, don't we as part of the society have a role in it? Besides, who define 'maturity'? For all we know, mankind could be the most immature animal on earth.
yeah thats what i mean
its the same as parents with their kids
if you're soft hearted, they'll crawl over you, and gg
At the end of the day, one's conscience has the loudest voice.
At the end of the day, one's conscience has the loudest voice.
Originally posted by annoy-you-must:I've got this friend whom I don't actually know very well. We attended the same JC, but had only been very casual friend, saying 'hi' when we met each other on the way, some simple conversation now and then. In fact, after leaving JC, we've never met each other again, much less talk to each other.
But I do read his blog. Soon after entering JC, he was enlisted into the army (like me). He seemed to be very depressed in the army. He obviously missed his school life very much too (who don't, actually?) .These few months he kept talking about 'wanting to die' and wanting to 'fall deeper and deeper into darkness without getting up'.
The sad thing is, there isn't much comments on his blog encouraging him. I always thought he was quite a popular student when he was in JC, but well, despite all his emo entries on his blog, nobody actually seemed to be advising him or encouraging him on his tagboard.
With so much being said, I'm actually quite worried about him even though we don't really know each other that well. How can I help him?
I guess I should at least give him some encouragement or inspirational advice, but I don't know how to. I doubt a sucidal person would actually be interested in listerning to big, chim and long philosophical speeches.
Come to think of it, who don't face hard time in the army? I too, is quite tired of my military life, but no way am I going to allow myself to sink into darkness, much less be suicidal. Lol...a sad guy trying to help a sadder guy.
Start encouraging him by commenting on his blog. Just identify yourself as an ex-schoolmate and drop a message once in a while. It may make a difference in his life for him to know that someone else in this world understands what he is going through.