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Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:
he feel back to depression because i ignored him for a month. because he told me i was the reason he recovered the first time. he really cant tell how i feel for him?
if i could fall in love with someone else, i think i would, but i cant help it.
He wants the sweetness but not the committment.
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Did you make it really clear about your feelings for him? or did you just drop him a hint the first time?
I would really suggest that you made it really clear about your feelings for him and let him know that you need an answer.
if you had told him your feelings but he did not response, it is usually a bad sign.
I am also a guy. I believe his reason of not letting you know is similar to what i had went through.
There was also a female childhood friend of mine (since we were 7) who told me that she wish to get serious with me when we were about 20 years old. Although I had never thought of her like that before, I could also see that our relationship would be very stable as a couple and we could have grown old together happily as we already have a very deep understanding of one another. Furthermore, I do care deeply for her but i just never thought of her as gf/wife material (most likely due to our familiarity with each other)
So why did I not agree straight away or disagree if I find it not appropriate?
The reason is that there was already a girl that i like but still unable to get my hands on yet.
I did not give an answer to my childhood friend as I know that if i failed to get the girl i like, i would definately like to be with her. I know, I know, I am selfish, I am a jerk and I am a male chauvinistic pig.
long story short, i lost both girls.
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a guy who is really interested in you would not take so long to make a first move...
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ChiBet : if thats the case, how can guys get so selfish. i msged him to tell him the first time, it was quite straightforward i think. i know what u mean by u can see a real steady relationship with ur childhood friend, but u didnt want to give up the girl u like. the funny thing for me is when we were 12, he told him he liked me, but what do we know when we were 12, and i was kinda "in love" with someone else, and i told him. its like karma, and now the tables are turned. and u know a year ago, after i told him my feelings, he told a common friend that he was not ready, because he was going for ns soon, and his previous girlfriend was also a good friend of his, and they have broken-up, hes afraid the same will happen. and after that i dont know why the other girl popped out of nowhere.
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friend, dun ever change your goals or education plans over a guy/girl, its not worth it if anythi happen at the end of the day, then u will grumble over n over again.
Go ahead to confess u love to him striaghtaway again..why not...go and persue your happiness. but bear in mind, touch wood..haha...if the result is not what u expected and u might lose the friendship, u must stress to him that you still wan the friendshipm if u two really canlt be an item. I;m sure he will more than willing to do cos you two r gd friends frm childhood.. so gd luck to you :)
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I think you should just move on...firstly you're already so uncertain...and anymore of these questions might just jeopardise your friendship yet again... and cause you more heartache (i don't know if this is what you felt the first time)...
Besides you should learn to keep your options open...
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Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:
ChiBet : if thats the case, how can guys get so selfish. i msged him to tell him the first time, it was quite straightforward i think.
i know what u mean by u can see a real steady relationship with ur childhood friend, but u didnt want to give up the girl u like.
the funny thing for me is when we were 12, he told him he liked me, but what do we know when we were 12, and i was kinda “in love” with someone else, and i told him. its like karma, and now the tables are turned.
and u know a year ago, after i told him my feelings, he told a common friend that he was not ready, because he was going for ns soon, and his previous girlfriend was also a good friend of his, and they have broken-up, hes afraid the same will happen. and after that i dont know why the other girl popped out of nowhere.
all these are just excuses to let you know that he is not interested to be in a relationship with you.
He might have had a crush on you when you were both twelve, but that's years ago. Things have changed since then.
Sorry to burst your bubbles, but think you had better looked somewhere else.
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yes i know i need to be less stubborn about him. i really know its not worth sacrificing my future for him, i try to forgot about him but i cant. but dont worry, i will continue trying. thanks guys!!
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Originally posted by rainee:
all these are just excuses to let you know that he is not interested to be in a relationship with you.
He might have had a crush on you when you were both twelve, but that's years ago. Things have changed since then.
Sorry to burst your bubbles, but think you had better looked somewhere else.
Agree, agree, agree XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX.The realities are all there for TS to see but she simply refused to acknowledged the truth because the truth hurts. So, she kept weaving this fantasy web around her hoping the guy will turn around and said, "I've been so blind! You were the girl I've been waiting for all my life! Yeah, right NOT!
Wakey, wakey TS. That's not gonna happen.
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Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:
ChiBet : if thats the case, how can guys get so selfish. i msged him to tell him the first time, it was quite straightforward i think.
i know what u mean by u can see a real steady relationship with ur childhood friend, but u didnt want to give up the girl u like.
the funny thing for me is when we were 12, he told him he liked me, but what do we know when we were 12, and i was kinda “in love” with someone else, and i told him. its like karma, and now the tables are turned.
and u know a year ago, after i told him my feelings, he told a common friend that he was not ready, because he was going for ns soon, and his previous girlfriend was also a good friend of his, and they have broken-up, hes afraid the same will happen. and after that i dont know why the other girl popped out of nowhere.
anyways, my advise is to give him a deadline to provide you with a yes or a no. Try not to pry too much by asking for reasons if it is a 'no'. if he really wants to tell you, he would have told you without being prompted, as the phrase goes, "ask me no questions and i'll tell no lies".
from his actions, most likely the answer would be a no or he is extremely shy so pressure him for a response and be happy with the answer no matter what is the outcome.
if its a yes, then congratulations
if its a no, at least you know and can plan how to proceed with your life accordingly. dont be too sad as i am sure you will find someone you love who would love you back as much if not more, eventually.
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if i ever gather all my courage to ask again, i will. that is if im really sure i like him that much, cuz sometimes i think its just my stubborness that kept me with this feeling for so long, and i dont really like him as much as i think i do. otherwise, i will really try my best and be happy be whatever the ans will be. thanks peeps!
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Yoz, 19yo gal ya, same same me, look sister, you need to hv cholce in your life, dun be so stupid to stick to one boi boi ya, you can choose, there are many better and goodie guys around, take your pick, ah tom, peter, shawn, wong, ah seng, etc etc..we still got time ya, so we got option, dun let them force us to choose the one and only as tho there is no more guys around anymore ok.
For me, by 25 or 27yo, then i will see who is the best and marry him, in the meantime...enjoy and mess their life ya
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it doesn't hurt to tell the person you like you got feeling for him... but it would hurt if the person reacted the bad way...
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we both have very different plans with our lives. i cant find a reason to tell him anymore. why not tell me how i can forget him for good.
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why dont you give yourself more options by knowing more guys out there? maybe you will find that this one is not entirely what you want?
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i can say that im now a happier person. over the past few days, i think i have started to convince myself that it is time to move on. great, now i need not be in a dilemma whether or not to tel him, cuz theres nothing to tell anymore. i hope i get over this quick.
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Tht depends on how much and badly u want to get over something.
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Originally posted by ChiBet:
Did you make it really clear about your feelings for him? or did you just drop him a hint the first time?
I would really suggest that you made it really clear about your feelings for him and let him know that you need an answer.
if you had told him your feelings but he did not response, it is usually a bad sign.
I am also a guy. I believe his reason of not letting you know is similar to what i had went through.
There was also a female childhood friend of mine (since we were 7) who told me that she wish to get serious with me when we were about 20 years old. Although I had never thought of her like that before, I could also see that our relationship would be very stable as a couple and we could have grown old together happily as we already have a very deep understanding of one another. Furthermore, I do care deeply for her but i just never thought of her as gf/wife material (most likely due to our familiarity with each other)
So why did I not agree straight away or disagree if I find it not appropriate?
The reason is that there was already a girl that i like but still unable to get my hands on yet.
I did not give an answer to my childhood friend as I know that if i failed to get the girl i like, i would definately like to be with her. I know, I know, I am selfish, I am a jerk and I am a male chauvinistic pig.
long story short, i lost both girls.
the girl like ur afro..? (X -
Originally posted by Maith:
the girl like ur afro..? (X
no afro yet at that time -
know what? i think i really moved on. now im no longer head over heels for this guy. im not very sure what made me so determined, but i guess its not important anymore. he will still be one of my best friends. and guess what, right after i decided to let go, ive now got another guy asking me out. my friend told me that i was too blinded by him in the past that i didnt see anyone else, now i know its true. you guys were right.
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Originally posted by iwishiwilliwould:
know what? i think i really moved on. now im no longer head over heels for this guy. im not very sure what made me so determined, but i guess its not important anymore. he will still be one of my best friends.
and guess what, right after i decided to let go, ive now got another guy asking me out. my friend told me that i was too blinded by him in the past that i didnt see anyone else, now i know its true. you guys were right.
You go, girl~! All the best in your new-found freedom~! -
What if he's THE ONE?
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oh my. haha. i believe the one will appear. if hes the one, then that will happen in future. right now i rather not think this way.
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He already know you like him. So u are stupid once, you want to be stupid second time!!! haha!! there maybe chances!!!
HAHAHAHA!! =D
I think that both are you are stupid!!! HAHAHAHA
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Originally posted by nehpyh:
What if he's THE ONE?
The one what??? the one holding the cash or the one holding the stick or the one holding the carrot or the one holding the love?Open my eyes big big.