assuming one gives 100% and the other does not. is that still called love? according to the dj's one all be all theory it is.
Originally posted by angel7030:
You need an internal auditor?
I have been waiting for someone to do that to/with me....when are you free? You can audit my internal any way you like. I buy coffee.
Giving 100% is a little hard...
But giving the other party whatever as much as you can is a better one...
You can't possibly force yourself to give 100% when you can only give 99% at most right?
A quote from someone:
Our normal way of relating people is to see ourself as separate from the others.
To objectify beings as separate you and make them an object of attachment is to bring endless seeking, endless longing, and endless suffering. And hence, passion, emotion, attachment, and so on. All sentient beings are like that.
But to recognise yourself (true self), in all beings, is true love. When we meet someone without seeing them as individual entities separate from us, with no labeling and no objectification, there is simply the act of love, or compassion, without separation resulting in lust. There is a 'recognition in oneness'.
The problem is we will always hold onto an idea of separation and individuality, and become totally bonded, and this strong imprint will lead to suffering, if lets say we 'lose' someone (and in actuality there is no 'one' who can lose 'some other one'). We will then be lost in our stream of endless projection of someone separate from us, leading to separation, seeking, and suffering.
But if suffering happens we cannot suppress or push it away, if suffering arise, we have to be completely honest and face the suffering fearlessly. To deny suffering is to deny What Is, and this denial will result in further suffering because there is no 'you' (a fiction) who can run away from What Is. There is only What Is at every moment... so if suffering arise at that moment, it has to be accepted.
As you can see, the problem is not in love itself, but in the illusion of separation, grasping on individuality, lust, resulting in suffering.
Thats why, love does not expect any return...
However... In this world we are having now...
It's hard to find True Love...
But still... It will exist.
^^
both must put in effort for the r/s to work, stuff like 100% effort and no return is juz too idealistic