Originally posted by Yohoro:When you guys look for your partners right, do you all really look into the educational level of that person? like for example a girl wanna have a boyfriend that has rather good result in school or university?
No, educational level DOES NOT measures WISDOM, IQ, INTELLIGENCE of a person.
Educational level is for to retards to think that they are smart.
Love is a tragic tale.
Originally posted by fatone:You haven't been in my life, you will never know my pain.
Love, a dreadful bond, and yet, so easily severed.
maybe you need to see a shrink dude .... before you turn into a real psycho ...
the thing is if u are talking aout relationships ending with marriage, then education hs to play a part cos after awhile the differences can be seen, especially if the girl is a greater achiever than the guy, might have some inferiority complex problems straining relationships
Originally posted by fatone:Love is a tragic tale.
In which the hero dies in the first chapter
Education is not a major factor, unless one belongs to the category of needing to 'being on par' with each other.
Instead, in any relationship, communication is very important.
If you are able to blend into each other's lives, able to understand the topics discussed by each other's friends, able to join in etc, it's more than enough.
The problems will start when ur partner is discussing about some work-related issues or some general stuff which u aren't interested in or not able to understand (this is the worst).
You will feel isolated, uncomfy, and even edgy at not being able to join in. Most likely problems will start to crop up at this point.
Take mine for example, in terms of education, I am holding a cert much higher than my partner. But, both of us are fine with it, I don't go around telling people what cert I have or boost around; thus in a way, he's spared the torture of it.
But, in terms of social gatherings, that's where the problems arises. I can blend into his friends' discussions, no matter what they are talking about.
But, he cant understand nor speak a single word throughout my social gatherings, except for ordering food and excusing himself to go to the Gents. Apparently, he blew up that night and insisted we should break off, only to come back two days later, saying he's sorry.
It has nothing to do with Education level, because there was another time when I brought another guy friend (my buddy) along; despite differences in education level, he was able to blend in and talk and laughed with all my friends.
All in all, it just shows how important communication is and also, whether one is willing to listen and understand and put in the efforts.
Because, ultimately, I asked my guy friend why's the difference between him and my partner. He gave me the following reply.
"I don't really understand what ur friends are talking about; but it's always good to know more things; whatever I don't understand I just ask and share whatever I know. I will make a joke when any one say wrong, including myself. It's just a casual chat, nothing big deal. Just be urself."
On par or higher.
But imagine, won't you be living in stress if your husband were to attain a very high level of education while you a mere O level grad? Must be realistic la uh.
Most important, is that he cherishes me, have a good attitude and has stability prospects for the future.