My bf hate my ex
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I had remained friends with my ex, however my current bf doesn't like that. He hates it even, and called him nasty sounding names.
I had not seen my ex for a long time. Some months I think. But lately we planned to meet to return some money that was owned. My bf was very unhappy about this. He doesn't wan us to meet.
Knowing my ex, he will be too lazy to transfer funds or any other arrangement and needs to be "forced" or else he won't get things done. So meeting up to get back the money is the most effiecient solution, and I'm pretty tied up for money now.
I have reasurred my bf several times that my relationship with my ex is strictly platonic, but he is still nervous about it. I can understand that, but what he wans is total cut off from my ex. No contact whatsoever.
I feel tied down and restricted. I yearn to get the respect I deserve, and the trust from my bf. Lately many problems have been weighing me down and I'm too tired to handle his childishness at this point.
How do I let him understand that things are not as complicated as he think?
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Your bf is really very possessive.Originally posted by MidNiGht:I had remained friends with my ex, however my current bf doesn't like that. He hates it even, and called him nasty sounding names.
I had not seen my ex for a long time. Some months I think. But lately we planned to meet to return some money that was owned. My bf was very unhappy about this. He doesn't wan us to meet.
Knowing my ex, he will be too lazy to transfer funds or any other arrangement and needs to be "forced" or else he won't get things done. So meeting up to get back the money is the most effiecient solution, and I'm pretty tied up for money now.
I have reasurred my bf several times that my relationship with my ex is strictly platonic, but he is still nervous about it. I can understand that, but what he wans is total cut off from my ex. No contact whatsoever.
I feel tied down and restricted. I yearn to get the respect I deserve, and the trust from my bf. Lately many problems have been weighing me down and I'm too tired to handle his childishness at this point.
How do I let him understand that things are not as complicated as he think?
Mayb u should meet your ex together with him, it's the best solution out. Anyway, just to get back the money from your ex, rite? Meet your ex outside with your bf to reassure him. If u really wanna meet your ex alone, u must explain and talk to your bf nicely, if he's a reasonable guy and loves u a lot, he will believe u 'cos he also dun wanna lose u. If he is really those suspicious guy who dun trust u, carrying on this relationship will also result problems in future, do u agree with me? Mayb this is a test of your relationship loh..
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
ASking ur bf to meet up wif ur ex seems like a good idea... but the problem is that, ur bf being the possessive sort, will be somehow aggitated by the situation.. So it will not turn out to be good.
Maybe get some mutual frens of urs and ur ex and go out together... treat it as a gathering also lorz.. Dun think ur bf will stop u for this rite?? Can bring ur bf along, but dun tell him the purpose lorz...
But if u and ur ex no mutual frens, then I think really bo bianz liaoz but to go to and meet him wif ur bf.. after that just leave wif ur bf lorz.. if not things happen, u haf a difficult time to coax ur bf also....
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
your bf shd learn to be a bit more understanding..
it is natural to feel upset to let gf meeting up with ex-bfs..
mebe he can go along (if u and ur ex do not mind) for the ermm..."transaction"..
or if relli cannot arrange then ask ur fwen to meet up wif ur ex loh..
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i think u shld just go get the money fm ur ex w/o telling ur ex..
coz if they meet, i'm sure ur bf will behave in a way u'll dislike.. (and u're gonna spend the rest of the day with him)
if u go get it first and then meet ur bf, then he cant say anything..
=) try lor..
it shld work..
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Things are so lost
that you begin to doubt urself..
Things are so quiet
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Err... The TOPIC was started about A YEAR ago... I don't see much practicality in giving suggestions for the situation now...?Originally posted by fedora:i think u shld just go get the money fm ur ex w/o telling ur ex..
coz if they meet, i'm sure ur bf will behave in a way u'll dislike.. (and u're gonna spend the rest of the day with him)
if u go get it first and then meet ur bf, then he cant say anything..
=) try lor..
it shld work..
[This message has been edited by Devil1976 (edited 11 September 2001).] -
sorry...
didnt notice..
i will the next time
=)
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Sometimes..
Things are so lost
that you begin to doubt urself..
Things are so quiet
that u question ur purpose of living..
Things don't come perfect..
You must make them good.. -
Hehhehheh..Originally posted by fedora:sorry...
didnt notice..
i will the next time
=)
It's OKAY.. I know you're just trying to be helpful....? 