Why guys cannot confess their feelings like a MAN?
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Originally posted by Chris1988:
why target poly
Originally posted by wonderamazement:
hanor.
Sorry.Did not intend to target poly students.
Just to highlight to TS that there are young people about.
People who are still growing up and molding themselves.
TS is peeved that these young people (in sgF) are not acting like a MAN.
Note the emphasis on MAN. She has a set notion of what a MAN should be.
And it is so passe.
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Originally posted by mancha:
Sorry.Did not intend to target poly students.
Just to highlight to TS that there are young people about.
People who are still growing up and molding themselves.
TS is peeved that these young people (in sgF) are not acting like a MAN.
Note the emphasis on MAN. She has a set notion of what a MAN should be.
And it is so passe.
Perchance her frustration is an enactment of her personal situation.
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Guys should just stand one side.
And girls on the other side.
Let nature take its course.
Be it extinction of the human race or otherwise.
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why girls cannot confess like feelings like a WOMAN?
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Guys were standing on one side till the girls came over and fraternize with them.
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i agree, unless u ar super suave n charismatic, if not playing cool will get u nowhere
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Originally posted by Stucktoes:
I realized something new about most girls nowadays, which is why they are hardly happy with what they have - Is that they always make it sound like EVERY female on earth THINK and FEEL in the exact same way as them and EVERY guy on earth should react in the same way according to them.
Some female friends confess to me that if she finds out a guy likes her, she will be very scared of the guy and avoid him and stop talking to him, if worse, she might stop being friends with him.
Some girls say they do not like a guy to appear too eager but instead, play it cool a little bit to win her heart.
And then here, we got you saying a guy should go all out.
Firstly, you are not the only female on earth.
Secondly, some guys got his girl cos he played it cool, some guys got his girl cos he was very brave and upfront.
Thirdly, its simple theory, when it comes to human relations, there's no generic explanation for everything.
Parn - Want guys to be brave like a "MAN".
A random hot blogger I know - Like geeky guys who dont talk too much.
A random hot girl I read about on an online magazine - Likes shy guy who smile shyly when he is around a girl he likes and have a bit of problem speaking cos she finds it "cute".
One of the FHM girl next door - Like guys who drop hint but act cool when asked if he likes her.
How? Every girl got their own expectations. But you cannot simply condemned the whole male species just because they do not swing your way. Whatever wickle your waddle, whatever tickles your fancy.
Your not the only one. Only Jade Seah can say something like that and get away with it.
First of all, since when was the entire male species condemned?
Secondly, did I not tell the truth about their behaviour?
Thirdly, just because you have no solution of your own, doesn't means there should be no solution for this issue.
The purpose of this thread is to help people to understand and break out from their current cycle.
One more thing, you're not the most articulate forumer here. And I don't want to waste my time with cowardly clones.
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Guys, woo the girl with your style, just be yourself.
If you think the girl might have some feelings for you also, go ahead.
parn's suggestion is just a guide.
parn we get what you mean.
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I always tell the person I like that I like her. not expecting anything actually.. it's like at that moment, you like the person, so let the person know lo..not expecting anything in return though.
however the hardest thing to me is actually fighting not to confess or accept that you have fallen in love with someone..
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Originally posted by Stucktoes:
You make it sound like every males should be brave as you said, and if they are not, they are not a man.
It MAY BE the truth for some, not all.
What solution are you talking about? I'm saying everybody is different. By enforcing your own standard on others isn't going to make a diff.
Like I said, not every girls' expectation is the same as you. So what cycle are you talking about?
"One more thing, you're not the most articulate forumer here. And I don't want to waste my time with cowardly clones."
Haha, ok I accept that I'm not the most articulate forumer here. Just like how you should accept that you are not the other girl around who has a own idea. What's with the cowardly clone tag? In what way am I cowardly? And how do you know I'm a clone? See? You are assuming and you are enforcing your standard on others.
It's alright if you are not able to understand what I wrote. But at least you know I'm right, else you won't be so agitated over it.
IT doesn't matters who is more right here, but it's up to each individual to take their own steps in life. People are able to judge for themselves which advice is useful for them.
I have started this topic and posted my own opinions here, and that's entirely original and honest to what I felt is best to help guys with confession problems.
I do not represent all girls, and neither do you represent all guys. You must be really naive if you think someone is enforcing their opinions on others. If that person really have to exist in here, then wouldn't that person be you?
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Originally posted by Stucktoes:
I realized something new about most girls nowadays, which is why they are hardly happy with what they have - Is that they always make it sound like EVERY female on earth THINK and FEEL in the exact same way as them and EVERY guy on earth should react in the same way according to them.
Some female friends confess to me that if she finds out a guy likes her, she will be very scared of the guy and avoid him and stop talking to him, if worse, she might stop being friends with him.
Some girls say they do not like a guy to appear too eager but instead, play it cool a little bit to win her heart.
And then here, we got you saying a guy should go all out.
Firstly, you are not the only female on earth.
Secondly, some guys got his girl cos he played it cool, some guys got his girl cos he was very brave and upfront.
Thirdly, its simple theory, when it comes to human relations, there's no generic explanation for everything.
Parn - Want guys to be brave like a "MAN".
A random hot blogger I know - Like geeky guys who dont talk too much.
A random hot girl I read about on an online magazine - Likes shy guy who smile shyly when he is around a girl he likes and have a bit of problem speaking cos she finds it "cute".
One of the FHM girl next door - Like guys who drop hint but act cool when asked if he likes her.
How? Every girl got their own expectations. But you cannot simply condemned the whole male species just because they do not swing your way. Whatever wickle your waddle, whatever tickles your fancy.
Your not the only one. Only Jade Seah can say something like that and get away with it.
You mentioned...
"Is that they always make it sound like EVERY female on earth THINK and FEEL in the exact same way as them and EVERY guy on earth should react in the same way according to them."
Which is by the way, not true. Because we're not fembots.
But you did not disagree with all the expectations that they have mentioned, be it your female friends, random hot blogger, fhm girl, some random hot girl on a magazine, and me.
Why do you even seek or remembers the comments made by those girls if you do not agreed with them?
Expectations are necessary because we are humans and our expectations clearly defines us as an original living individual.
Nobody is condemning the entire male species, and you are still unable to prove your point. So do not assumed that the entire male species has been condemned.
Unlike you, I have stated the truth unless you can prove me wrong, you don't really need to hide behind your clone. That's a cowardly act.
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too many words to read. .
but IMO and through experience, it will feel kinda akward hanging out with people who have rejected u, or let say, an ex.
If those hu u so call arent brave enough to tell the girl, and decide to post in AA, den u can choose not to reply to their post, or u can even not read them.
Sometimes, people juz need a 3rd party to point them to a direction, regardless if its the smarter one or not.
chill luhhh -
Originally posted by maskedangel:
too many words to read. .
but IMO and through experience, it will feel kinda akward hanging out with people who have rejected u, or let say, an ex.
If those hu u so call arent brave enough to tell the girl, and decide to post in AA, den u can choose not to reply to their post, or u can even not read them.
Sometimes, people juz need a 3rd party to point them to a direction, regardless if its the smarter one or not.
chill luhhhexactly
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Yup...I could have chosen to ignore them if I want to, but I have chosen not to ignore them.
But it's just me, and that's my choice.
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Originally posted by parn:
Yup...I could have chosen to ignore them if I want to, but I have chosen not to ignore them.
But it's just me, and that's my choice.
haha. cool. i've read some content already.
Not to suck up to u lah, but my mentality has always been to go direct.
once, i did that, and she rejected me, and told her frens about it.
i sought help from her bestfriend, and ended up with her instead.
Every step in life leads us to a different ending.
Her best friend, in trying to comfort me, made me fall for her, and after 6 long months of pestering and a whole lots of luck, i got her (:
So what im trying to say is, life is about taking risk, but one must also weight the consequences that may come with either outcome, rejection or acceptence.
For now, i have to look for IOI(indication of interest) before going all out.
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If the person who has rejected you, allows the friendship to fall into the awkward zone, then this person doesn't even like you as a friend to begin with. Either that, or none of you actually took an effort to save the friendship. It's understandable to be passive and wait for each other to take the first step to save the friendship, but that passiveness is what really took away the last breath of whatever is left in the friendship.
Friendship, relationship cannot be form by an individual alone. They all requires two agreeable individuals as least to form either friendship or relationship.
Sometimes people confess their feelings to each other without a clear knowledge of which type of friendship they have or have not formed. So neither of each parties in the friendship has a clue on what to do next. Reasons is because they don't even know if they were real friends before the confession. There are of course many types of friendships and relationships out there, be it the hello-goodbyes, mutual beneficial, one-sided, back-stabbing, competitive, selfish, political, admire-type, real, and many more.
If either person wishes to salvage the friendship after a bad confession, that person must take efforts to save the friendship from falling into the awkward zone.
Have it ever occurred to you that if you have taken the initiative to save the friendship, things would've turned out a lot better by now?
I know it doesn't make sense why one must be always the person to take the first step, but if a painter does not has the initiative to pick up the brush and start painting, how would the painter knows how magnificent their next creation would looked like? If you don't take the initiative to make the effort to salvage the friendship, how would you ever know if your life will be so much better with her in your future than not in your future?
Our decisions in life paints our grand painting till the end of our life. Don't you ever wished you had made a different decision in your life?
Life can be so much more beautiful than it is right now, and it's up to you to make it so.
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boys will be boys and girls will be girls.
leave be, tis all this differences that makes one group interesting to the other.
Opposites Attract, Likes Repel; But Occasionally Likes Attract Also, Which Contradicts the Laws of Nature.
Changing the two gender types would be so extreme, like changing testosterone to oestrogen. Nature has designed the two specific gender types for specific roles, so lets not undone what nature has done.
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Originally posted by 798:
I love you from the bottom, of my pencil case
I love you in the songs, I write and sing
Love you because, you put me in my rightful place
And I love the prs cheques, that you bring
Cheap, never cheap
Ill sing you songs till youre asleep
When youve gone upstairs Ill creep
And write it all down
Oh shirley, oh deborah, oh julie, oh jane
I wrote so many songs about you
I forget your name (I forget your name)
Jennifer, alison, phillipa, sue, deborah, annabel, too
Jennifer, alison, phillipa, sue, deborah, annabel, too
I forget your name
I love your from the bottom of my pencil case
I love the way you never ask me why
I love to write about each wrinkle on your face
And I love you till my fountain pen runs dry
Deep so deep, the number one I hope to reap
Depends upon the tears you weep, so cry, lovey cry, cry, cry, cry
Oh cathy, oh alison, oh phillipa, oh sue
You made me so much money, I wrote this song for you
Jennifer, alison, phillipa, sue, deborah, annabel, too
I wrote this song for you
So let me talk about mary, a sad story
Turned her grief into glory
Late at night, by the typewriter light,
She ripped his ribbon to shredsi love this song by the beautiful south!
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like we guys have no dignity and going around the gals like butterflies and enjoy being rejected.. whyy not encourage the gals to take the initiative and going aroundd confessing to boys arbitrarily.. Think again
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Yaaa.....I'm sure DIY has indeed dignified alot of guys, maybe that's why some guys felt even more dignified after their overly-done DIY sessions.
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... because EGO constitutes a big part of a guy, and it will honestly feed a guy's ego much more if a girl were to be madly in love with him instead of vice versa, and the guy having to "confess" his emotions to the girl? i'm speaking as a guy btw