Why guys cannot confess their feelings like a MAN?
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Originally posted by rainee:
Thanks for the answer.
Well, if you read my question carefully, you will notice there is a keyword there.
"What if one day you find someone who is poor, but he is deeply in love with you, he could offer you his care, concern and love but he does not have enough to provide for your material needs.."
The keyword is enough.
I am not saying that every girl should go and marry a guy who is totally penniless. I am not as hopelessly romantic as that. I do know that money is needed in this world in order to help us to survive, even more so in a country such as Singapore where the cost of living is high.
But why do I stress on the word "enough"? Because we as girls can determine that. Different girls have different needs. For example, I am very happy with a simple life with a roof above my head, and with enough food to eat. I do not need extravagant gifts, extravagant cars that cost millions, etc. I know how to differentiate between my needs and my wants. And I accept the fact that a guy can't cater to my every wants, and that doesn't make him any less than the man he is.
If a guy can't provide for your "wants", it is not because he is not ready, it is not because he is selfish or so on. It might be because the demands are not not realistic to begin with. So if you have unrealistic demands, then be prepared to be disappointed because you have to understand that a majority of the men here belong in the middle class category, which means they are not earning 10k every month.
Funny that you requested me to respond to your scenario just for the sake to cap me into it.
I'm not like you, and you will never be me.
Since you don't mind, you can have all the guys that I've rejected.
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all hails parn. happy?
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Originally posted by parn:
Last time I would tell you "YES", but the truth is no relationship can substain by just on oxygen alone....not even true love. Money is necessary to have a future.
Say if you, rainee, has found true love in a similar situation. Maybe just survive on packet noodles and tap water, but he will give you so much attention and promises. Will you say "YES" too? Ultimately as a girl, you will know how much future remains in that relationship. Will you still stick on to your "YES"? This kind of life can go on for years, how much time do you have?
I will say "NO" cos the guy is not ready and prepared for a relationship, but he still wants to put you in a relationship. That's completely selfish and irresponsible, but we still love them don't we?
Sometimes, we have to force ourselves and learn to say "NO" and hurt the people who we loved and have loved us....for their own good. Love is not saying "YES" all the time, it's knowing when to say "NO" for the betterment of the other half.
A guy probably says "YES" all the time, but a man knows when it is necessary to say "NO". Don't you agree with me?
Can i say that if there're guys who're not willingly to fork out to buy a 30k ring means on the quoted statement above in red? bread cum water...
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o.k.. i must acknowledge that Parn's intentions are good, however ... contentious, lol
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it does make out a reasonable equation...
But then, in the majority male population in s'pore aged (23~33yrs), what percentage will buy a 30k P.ring?
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less than 10 i suppose? 30k is quite alot !
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I think both got their point la. it's true that you can or might find "true" love in the average guy or the rich guy or even the poor guy. ultimately is take a look at the future, and yourself, if you're willing to live the life of whatever you can get with the whichever guy.
perhaps you can exclaim, You have found your true love!
then again, I don't have the capability to buy a 30k ring. but even if I have, I won't buy it too. A ring is a promise and not for show. if a big diamond looks weak on her skinny fingers, it's pointless.
the chinese have a saying, "marry chicken follow chicken, marry dog follow dog." oh yeah.there you have it.
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she will be pawned when somewhere down the road she loves someone who is poor to death..
But then again she will deem the guy as not ready for relationship (cos he no money cannot support her) and in her logic, she is doing the right thing for the guy even tho she love him she have to hurt him.
Such ppl are not fit to be in a relationship. They are too full of themselves and think only what they think is always right and the only thing that matters in a relationship.
She will not be able to see love even if it right in her face.
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Originally posted by parn:
No guys can escape this issue, and you know it too.
Is this topic threatening you in some ways?
And please don't reply to your own quote, it's insane.
Actually this topic doesn't threaten me in any way. I'm a girl who likes girls. Guys not daring to confess their feelings doesn't affect me one single bit. However I do feel its unfair to make it gender specific. I've met lots of guys and girls who're like that and I find them equally annoying, but their actions are understandable because many people aren't naturally extroverted, and not everyone has the courage to overcome their nature if they're introverted.
I just hope you understand blaming men won't help anything and won't help you. Personally I can sympathise with you because I have to admit I don't like men much, but approaching the topic from a detached point of view, its not fair to put a gender bias on a personality trait that exist in both genders.
Of course if you actually just want to b1tch about men to get it out of your system, I'm willing to lend a sympathetic ear. I do that myself sometimes. Just drop me a PM or something.
Everyone else, theres no point bashing Parn, she simply won't agree with you and you won't agree with her. It's starting to look like a pack of rabid wolves bullying one person.
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But to be fair to everybody.
Nobody can live on fresh air alone.
At least with the 30K diamond ring, you can still pawn it for some money next time.
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Originally posted by charlize:
But to be fair to everybody.
Nobody can live on fresh air alone.
At least with the 30K diamond ring, you can still pawn it for some money next time.
diamonds don't hold value well.
might as well hold gold bullions, house or stocks.
just photocopy your gold certificate or title deed for house and wear it around you neck.
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Originally posted by maurizio13:
just photocopy your gold certificate or title deed for house and wear it around you neck.
You made my day. Thank you.
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Gold and title deeds for houses don't hold value well.
Now the most valuable thing in the world is oil. Hold your assets in black gold, and you can rest assured it will never devalue.
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
Gold and title deeds for houses don't hold value well.
Now the most valuable thing in the world is oil. Hold your assets in black gold, and you can rest assured it will never devalue.
So we should go to the market and buy those plam oil?
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Proof in the pudding. Price of oil went up during the 1st Gulf War. Did it drop back down after it was over and the supply of oil was stable once again? No.
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Originally posted by Beautiful951:
So we should go to the market and buy those plam oil?
Crude oil la suaku -
Originally posted by 4Justice:
Crude oil la suaku
Why so crude? -
Originally posted by Beautiful951:
Why so crude?
Cause it's not refined? -
because it's petronas
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Don't knock Petronas. They sponser the 3rd best team in F1 atm ^^
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kk just joking
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Originally posted by newcomer:
kk just joking
Can I have all your bases? I'm not joking -
can can. which hole u want?
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Originally posted by newcomer:
can can. which hole u want?
Whichever one got crude oil -
crude oil no have. love oil have, u want?