Sticky sticky.
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Mooku has a classmate from one of her subject classes.
The classmate is a girl, mild-mannered, lonely, always with a sad look on her face.
At first when Mooku got to know her, Mooku was very nice to her because, -apologetically- Mooku pitied her not having friends to talk to.
But then as days went by, Mooku realized that the girl began to stick to her like glutinous rice. During lessons, the girl would always come and sit beside Mooku.
(Aiyah. Why am I referring to myself as Mooku haha.)
Sitting beside me isn't a problem. But then, she ALWAYS comes to sit with me and ALWAYS wants to be in the same group as me. I feel like I have no freedom. I want to group with other classmates so I can get to know them better!! But the girl is an obstacle.
And also, in class, she always talks about irrelevant matters and things that only she thinks are funny. If she's a bright and cheery girl I wouldn't mind. But she constantly has this depressed look on her face, it SPOILS my day. And her talking is affecting my concentration in class.
She's queer. She doesn't bring her notes. She skips lectures. And tries to make it sound like "Did you go for lecture? Aiyoh why do you have to go? Look at me! I don't have to go for lectures and I still pass the subject!"
I know I really sound mean. But I think I've had enough of being nice. Her sticking to me is really making me feel uneasy. I'm not the only one in class who thinks so.
From the start of the new school term I have been making it obvious by trying to avoid her and not talking to her as much. But she doesn't seem to get the hint!
I don't want to tell her to go away because, still, I feel a sense of pity because from my observation, she's really lonely and needs some friends.
How can I stop her from sticking to me, and at the same time, not hurt her feelings?
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Kill her.
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try to get some body odour...she will move away from u automatically, but so do the rest...!!!
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Or get some rare skin disease...
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Ehh.
Why all the silly answers. Body odour... Rare skin disease somemore! I already have acne-prone skin
Hahaha.
Nono, please give me some practical, useful answers. I don't want to fail GP this year. -
what has failing GP gotta do wif her... just carry on ur normal life lorOriginally posted by MooKu:Ehh.
Why all the silly answers. Body odour... Rare skin disease somemore! I already have acne-prone skin
Hahaha.
Nono, please give me some practical, useful answers. I don't want to fail GP this year. -
tell her in the face will hurt her...
i guess it is normal for ger like her who is alone, do cling on to a person whom she can talk to and showed her friendship.
Guess u got to do it discreetly, and start to c less of her.
Get her to join more other activities, and when she is busy she would stop pestering u so much...it will take time. 
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intro some other classmates which u noe will be nice to her
after tat make urself biz and haf less time for her..... eventually she haf no choice but to stick to the other gals.... also doing gd for her also mah... if ur friends also intro other friends for her to stick to... den one day she will haf such a wide circle of friends she can stick with tat u all wun feel irritated at all liao... peer influence will get her to tok "normally" and crack funnie jokes instead of lame ones
how's my suggestion? hehe -
Cos... it's GP class.Originally posted by kopiosatu:what has failing GP gotta do wif her... just carry on ur normal life lor
It's terribly difficult to get her involved in other activities because I'm not in the same form class as her. It's just same GP class. And she's not a participative girl.
But I guess I SHOULD have patience. After all, it's only been a week since I started trying to "shake her off". -
You poor thing... I've been in the same position before...
Give you one advice,
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match-make her.
Once she got a bf, she will stick to him like super-glue, and leave you alone, most of the time...
My that friend got bf now, stick to him, and I'm free to go...
sides can help her gain confidence also considered act of kindness right...
Or try to see her good points and try to let her make friends with your friends/classmates to widen her social contacts, then she'll have to stick to different people different days... -
Match...make? She's the sort of girl who isolates herself from the rest of the world. And also, she doesn't care much about her appearance so it's hard to get guys to like her especially with her eccentric temper. I don't know which friends I should introduce to her because 1) other than during GP class, I don't speak to her because we hardly meet. 2) nobody in my GP class likes her, which means even MORE nobody in my circle of friends will like her because my friends are... well, entirely different from her and are the kind who will not spend time trying hard to get to know someone who's always so depressed and unfriendly, inactive, unparticipative etc.Originally posted by En':You poor thing... I've been in the same position before...
Give you one advice,
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match-make her.
Once she got a bf, she will stick to him like super-glue, and leave you alone, most of the time...
My that friend got bf now, stick to him, and I'm free to go...
sides can help her gain confidence also considered act of kindness right...
Or try to see her good points and try to let her make friends with your friends/classmates to widen her social contacts, then she'll have to stick to different people different days...
If one day she can really find more friends, I would really really be happy for her. But seriously, I don't know how to help her find more friends. -
this is a tough 1....
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What about her good points, she must have some...
Everyone must have at least a few...
Her interest?
Type of guys she attarcted to?
Talk to her a little more, maybe you'll even be surprised coz I think she seems insecure, not nasty... Or the very least, talk to her enough to find out her interest so you can intro her to others her kind... then she'll feel more comfy and less isolated/alienated...
Gd lucks!
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she has no friends, that's why she's sticking to you all the time..
why not find a time, sit down, and talk to her.. ask her why she's like that.. avoiding is not the solution. -
Her interest? She likes reading. She's always reading a book whenever I see her.Originally posted by En':What about her good points, she must have some...
Everyone must have at least a few...
Her interest?
Type of guys she attarcted to?
Talk to her a little more, maybe you'll even be surprised coz I think she seems insecure, not nasty... Or the very least, talk to her enough to find out her interest so you can intro her to others her kind... then she'll feel more comfy and less isolated/alienated...
Gd lucks!
Guys... She doesn't seem interested. She seems more interested in her novels.
I don't know anyone else of her kind... That's why it's so hard for me to introduce friends to her.
I think I am selfish. In this case, at least. I cannot bring myself to really talk to her and find out what is wrong with her because it is very very difficult to find a way into her heart. If it were at other times, I would have at least tried. But I simply cannot at this moment because right now, I have my own problems which I am trying to fix. I don't know where to find anymore energy to help this friend. -
Don't always think about helping her... If she wants to, she probably can 'help' herself... It's an attitude thing... Though she might have been 'disturbed' in the past in some way to have caused her to be like that.... I say if you're interested, why don't you just try to know her better for a start...?Originally posted by MooKu:Her interest? She likes reading. She's always reading a book whenever I see her.
Guys... She doesn't seem interested. She seems more interested in her novels.
I don't know anyone else of her kind... That's why it's so hard for me to introduce friends to her.
I think I am selfish. In this case, at least. I cannot bring myself to really talk to her and find out what is wrong with her because it is very very difficult to find a way into her heart. If it were at other times, I would have at least tried. But I simply cannot at this moment because right now, I have my own problems which I am trying to fix. I don't know where to find anymore energy to help this friend.
As for how she's sticking too much to you... Just let her know that you need your own space even as friends.... In a nice way... Don't add unnecessary comments... Let her know that she's not specially treated like that for certain reasons... It's just not you to be mud in like that....?
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happen to me also they sit alone and u pity them so u end up going and making friends...turns out they have no friends for a reason cause they are weird..... in my case the person was just up himself, thought he was the best and looked down on everyone else.....so BEWAREOriginally posted by MooKu:Mooku has a classmate from one of her subject classes.
The classmate is a girl, mild-mannered, lonely, always with a sad look on her face.
At first when Mooku got to know her, Mooku was very nice to her because, -apologetically- Mooku pitied her not having friends to talk to.
But then as days went by, Mooku realized that the girl began to stick to her like glutinous rice. During lessons, the girl would always come and sit beside Mooku. (Aiyah. Why am I referring to myself as Mooku haha.)
Sitting beside me isn't a problem. But then, she ALWAYS comes to sit with me and ALWAYS wants to be in the same group as me. I feel like I have no freedom. I want to group with other classmates so I can get to know them better!! But the girl is an obstacle.
And also, in class, she always talks about irrelevant matters and things that only she thinks are funny. If she's a bright and cheery girl I wouldn't mind. But she constantly has this depressed look on her face, it SPOILS my day. And her talking is affecting my concentration in class.
She's queer. She doesn't bring her notes. She skips lectures. And tries to make it sound like "Did you go for lecture? Aiyoh why do you have to go? Look at me! I don't have to go for lectures and I still pass the subject!"
I know I really sound mean. But I think I've had enough of being nice. Her sticking to me is really making me feel uneasy. I'm not the only one in class who thinks so.
From the start of the new school term I have been making it obvious by trying to avoid her and not talking to her as much. But she doesn't seem to get the hint!
I don't want to tell her to go away because, still, I feel a sense of pity because from my observation, she's really lonely and needs some friends.
How can I stop her from sticking to me, and at the same time, not hurt her feelings? -
hmmm... you if you're really blackhearted, just tell her to get lost. but u probably aren't so i suggest hiring someone to run her over and drive off.
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Now you understand why she is always alone? This under johari window is called the hidden self - which means that what she is doing - she doesn't realise that it is irrtating or pissing to people and indirectly causes repulsion from people around.Originally posted by MooKu:Mooku has a classmate from one of her subject classes.
The classmate is a girl, mild-mannered, lonely, always with a sad look on her face.
At first when Mooku got to know her, Mooku was very nice to her because, -apologetically- Mooku pitied her not having friends to talk to.
But then as days went by, Mooku realized that the girl began to stick to her like glutinous rice. During lessons, the girl would always come and sit beside Mooku. (Aiyah. Why am I referring to myself as Mooku haha.)
Sitting beside me isn't a problem. But then, she ALWAYS comes to sit with me and ALWAYS wants to be in the same group as me. I feel like I have no freedom. I want to group with other classmates so I can get to know them better!! But the girl is an obstacle.
And also, in class, she always talks about irrelevant matters and things that only she thinks are funny. If she's a bright and cheery girl I wouldn't mind. But she constantly has this depressed look on her face, it SPOILS my day. And her talking is affecting my concentration in class.
She's queer. She doesn't bring her notes. She skips lectures. And tries to make it sound like "Did you go for lecture? Aiyoh why do you have to go? Look at me! I don't have to go for lectures and I still pass the subject!"
I know I really sound mean. But I think I've had enough of being nice. Her sticking to me is really making me feel uneasy. I'm not the only one in class who thinks so.
From the start of the new school term I have been making it obvious by trying to avoid her and not talking to her as much. But she doesn't seem to get the hint!
I don't want to tell her to go away because, still, I feel a sense of pity because from my observation, she's really lonely and needs some friends.
How can I stop her from sticking to me, and at the same time, not hurt her feelings?
I experience this case before and I understand how it affect you mentally. Well, there is no best solution to solve this - only by bringing in another third party will you able to feel better.
For example in Lectures - you center, good friend on the left and she on the right. From that - just speak to your good friend, only when if she speak to you or when you feel you need to entertain her for just a moment, then you speak to her.
Since you know she will stick to you, just go be with your friends - trust me, she will still stick.
P.S (Astrology in testing): She is Capricorn? (other suspect: Taurus and Virgo)
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Yah!! I have a feeling that she looks down on other people also!! Like for example sometimes when she doesn't bring her notes again, she'd be sharing it with me. Then say we're reading some comprehension passage, she'd finish reading and ask if I was done even though there wasn't any page to flip to. And once I asked her how come she so fast, she said "I speed read lor. I always do that when i'm reading novels." -___-" And remember I mentioned that she skips lectures and acts like she didn't need them to pass..?Originally posted by Wild_Cow:happen to me also they sit alone and u pity them so u end up going and making friends...turns out they have no friends for a reason cause they are weird..... in my case the person was just up himself, thought he was the best and looked down on everyone else.....so BEWARE -
Speak to her only when needed... I wish I knew how to respond to her. Whatever she talks about is like so different about what EVERYBODY normally talks about. She thinks it's interesting but nobody else does. And I don't know what to say after she says something. If I don't say anything it'll appear as if I'm ignoring her.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Now you understand why she is always alone? This under johari window is called the hidden self - which means that what she is doing - she doesn't realise that it is irrtating or pissing to people and indirectly causes repulsion from people around.
I experience this case before and I understand how it affect you mentally. Well, there is no best solution to solve this - only by bringing in another third party will you able to feel better.
For example in Lectures - you center, good friend on the left and she on the right. From that - just speak to your good friend, only when if she speak to you or when you feel you need to entertain her for just a moment, then you speak to her.
Since you know she will stick to you, just go be with your friends - trust me, she will still stick.
P.S (Astrology in testing): She is Capricorn? (other suspect: Taurus and Virgo)
Ermmmm. Astrology again? Heh heh. I don't know her star sign. -
just tell her bout her attitude. although it'll hurt it probably better to be direct lah, or maybe you can sprinkle your words with some needles.. get wat i mean? haha maybe she'll understand, she wun be that dumb. and if ever still tries to say something bad bout u, think pple will bo hiew her one loh.. if she continue like that, everyone will condemn her, just tell her something like, 'i have my own life, you cant stick to me always..'
she probably thinks you like her cos u tok to her, sometimes pple very over sensitive one
or maybe u can try sticking to her also, make it extremly irritatin till she avoids u haha -
wah...... so many ppl say kill/get rid of her ar? hmm..
if cant be with her.... then change her lor? =) -
well i have been in such situations b4...many times...my most memorable is that this guy in my poly came to join our club..then he goes around wanting to perform JUDO stunts and moves (maybe due to hi korean descent)on everyone he meets in the club...ours is like a christian body..so no one really knows about JUDO...everybody avoids him and he irritates alot of pple and some fear that he might just come up behind and perform those moves....
well i befriended him...got near to him, told him nicely what he did wasnt nice, that not everyone thinks the same way as him, and that there must be a certain amount of respect for each other if we are to stay as friends. Performing such moves are both a disrespect to the physical and mental and also invading their privacy. well, after a few of such toks, he cut down quite alot..though not totally...
my suggestion to you, is that be assertive, get ur message across, let her know u are her fren but also let her know how she can be a better fren to you. Do not worry about hurting her unless you are out to attack her straightaway, she may feel hurt, buts its really up to her to respond. Also find out why she may be this way, show some understanding towards her situation but be firm on your stand...
If she responds well, d o help her along.
if she does not, as with many people i tok to and counselled, its better sometimes to leave them alone and let them learn the hard way. really.
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-_-`~Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S (Astrology in testing): She is Capricorn? (other suspect: Taurus and Virgo)