bf/gf or future
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Overseas is calling ~ lol
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u is go uk 1st de mah.
go aust no big deal leh.
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just split.. time will be the best healing medicine..
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Originally posted by Jfund:
which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like 'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...' thanks!
Go for your studies. If she wants to break up with you halfway, it's her loss. Not yours.
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Originally posted by Jfund:
which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like 'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...' thanks!
There no right or wrong answer, and my guess u have already make up u decision, just trying to seek approval from most of the forumers here. -
Originally posted by Jfund:
which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like 'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...' thanks!
You have already limited yourself with absolute possibilities - for the choice of one must be a sacrificial of another.Why should that always be the case?
You know, in this post-modern society, we are so caught up in the concept of rationality that we literally engage this rational sense of ours in all aspects of our life and submerged ourselves in calculation of what's the most 'profitable choice' at the end of the day. Like the scenario you have presented: furthering your studies for a good future verse keeping your relationship and 'sacrifice' your future?
Firstly, your future is not sacrificed even if you don't go overseas and study. This is already a gross mispresentation. It's not as if you are sentenced to sixteen years jail during your prime years and screwed up your future in that sense.
The risk factor you have advocated is nothing but the existence of fear where Love absolutely cannot tolerate. Hence, it began to chip at your relationship until the cleft becomes a hole and before you realize it, you have lost the relationship to some self-generated fear, topple with adverse circumstances.
In Love, so what if the relationship fails? What's with this obsession with a failing relationship anyway? Have we become so rationalized with obtaining 'perfect scores' and 'good results' that we cannot have the imagination and higher understanding that there are times in love (and life) when we must fall in the beginning to win later?
Failure suggested growth and not degeneration - the latter often revealed an unevolved soul.
The irony of Love is that why focus on the fact that a relationship would fail when one should focus on leading the relationship while it last and make the best out of it?
Interestingly, you don't always lose when you have lost your relationship.
Think about it.
Cheers
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Go Overseas, succeed in your life, or what it has in store for you.
Don't miss out chances like this for the sakes of Relationship. If your partner truly loves you, they'll understand that this is good for you.
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Originally posted by Jfund:
which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like 'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...' thanks!
Go where your heart takes you to.
If you desire overseas, then go overseas.
If not, stay and start planning and building your future.
Decide based on how meaningful your current decision will transform your life in the future. Having a MEANINGFUL LIFE is more important than anything else in this world, it makes you feel alive every single moment in every single day of your life.
We can't decide for you and shouldn't be doing so, afterall it's you who are going to experience it...not anyone else.
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Originally posted by Coolcircle:
My case is similar to eyeballl's post.
I've experienced a bad relationship after going australia for further studies last july. IMO, you need a good foundation to maintain a strong and healthy relationship, because you are not physically there for him/her when you go overseas.
It is worth sacrificing either the relationship or your education, but it is best not to mix them together. I had a terrible time when I broke off with my gf, plus I still have not adapt to the lifestyle and studies over there. It served as a reminder for me to learn from this mistake.
I would suggest that you go for overseas studies, since it is much more enriching than just being in a relationship. Who knows, you might find a better suitor over there.
CC
may i know which part of aussie u studying in? what course are u taking? and how do find the lifestyle there?
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may i know which part of aussie u studying in? what course are u taking? and how do find the lifestyle there?
hi
I am currently undertaking a 2 year course in civil engineering in UNSW, sydney. I have already been here for a year...another year to go!
Lifestyle wise, I would say it is very enriching. I have made friends from around the world and learned alot from their cultures and such. I hesitated before making this choice, but I am glad I chose this path.
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Depends on if you are a guy or a gal .
If ur a gal dont break up and make the guy work like a slave for ur shopping .
But if ur a guy . Screw the gal , leave her and go on to ur uni and start screwing around more LOL
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Studies are more important.
Serious relationship is optional.
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Originally posted by Karma88:
Depends on if you are a guy or a gal .
If ur a gal dont break up and make the guy work like a slave for ur shopping .
But if ur a guy . Screw the gal , leave her and go on to ur uni and start screwing around more LOL
Sounds cool!