Confessions
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Do you ever confess or like let things take its natural course? It'd feel kinda weird like ME: I like you. -followed by a minute of uncomfortable silence- How do you guys do it?
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erm maybe you should not like just randomly tell her "i like you". perhaps you can engage in a normal conversation first then try to tilt it to the direction of bgr then let it come put naturally? this is just my assumption, i dont really know how to do it...
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I told my gf i liked her the day before before we went home, so no awkwardness ma.. then i ask her out again the next day then she held my hands..
So i guess it should be something like that?
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mmmmm, I think you should only do it if you have a chance/possibility of him/her liking you back? usually you can kind of feel it the attraction is mutual.
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haha i hope so too. guys can get pretty optimistic you know. reading the signs wrongly ;p do love letters still work these days? HAHA
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Just anyhow whack only if get then consider lucky lo... nvr then get another token and try again :D
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Guys,
Always find out if the girl is ready for a relationship FIRST.
If she is not ready.. you'd be silly to confess your love for her.
If she is ready for a relationship.. your battle is half won.
Then ask her if she has anyone in mind she's interested in.
If she tells you it's someone else..( other than you )... you can avoid the rejection.
If she says she's not sure.. then you have a chance.
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Confess confess!
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Guys,
Always find out if the girl is ready for a relationship FIRST.
If she is not ready.. you'd be silly to confess your love for her.
If she is ready for a relationship.. your battle is half won.
Then ask her if she has anyone in mind she's interested in.
If she tells you it's someone else..( other than you )... you can avoid the rejection.
If she says she's not sure.. then you have a chance.
wow thanks jojo ! -
+1
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Originally posted by CrabbyShaSha:
+1
What's with all the +1?
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firstly, ask urself whether u are able to handle rejection.
if u are not ready for that, then dun confess.
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i am.
i haf long ago decided to go with the plan. i was kinda expecting rejection since there is another guy she seems pretty close with.
im going with the letter i think. but it would be better to confess in person? haha
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mmm...
the moment of truth. Some are easier once u really know ur date liaw, the transition is smooth. But some, i admit expect the unexpected. Sometimes you are confident can woo her but in the end may kena shot down. But just keep an open mind la. Hear her out and you decide whether to continue to try woo her or let her go lo.
Good luck
he he.. i will never forget ever single moment like that lo. The heartbeat. At that moment liaw you suddenly feel everything is so unsure, you start to doubt this entire relationship to date. Time stops. Yup.. feeling scared. That moment is do or die liaw la. If u try to predict her every move i can say just.. forget it man. LoL. Just b urself and say what u really wanna say to her la. Once u get it off ur chest u will feel better liaw. Cause u already decided that this is the risk u gonna take, risk it all. Dun let urself kana held back by ur own excuses and insecurities.
But all this got a place and a time. Try to have every advantage lo. When i mean advantage, dun do it like when she is busy , or with some dude, or what. U know what i mean ? the moment sometimes can make the difference.
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Originally posted by rainee:
What's with all the +1?for future reference
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BadzMaro is a pro in this eh. just do it like a man.
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Originally posted by cApitaland:
i am.
i haf long ago decided to go with the plan. i was kinda expecting rejection since there is another guy she seems pretty close with.
im going with the letter i think. but it would be better to confess in person? haha
Forget about the letter.After you have confirmed she is ready for a relationship.
Casually ask her opinion about what she would think of you as her bf.
If her feedback is positive .. your chase is on...
If answer is negative .. for whatever reason.. just casually laugh it off as a playful attempt..this way.. you won't lose a friendship.
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Don't wait too long to confess.
Before you know it, the girl will tell you suddenly one day to go attend her wedding at Ritz Carlton next month.
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si charlize. we are in poly thankew.
a real possibility of me losing out to is.. her pet dog. thanks jojo. i shall try that after i acertain whether she is ready anot haha.
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Originally posted by cApitaland:
si charlize. we are in poly thankew.
a real possibility of me losing out to is.. her pet dog. thanks jojo. i shall try that after i acertain whether she is ready anot haha.
Woe to the person who thinks that just because you are in poly, you cannot get married next month.
Woe to you.
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I always tot that I should be honest with my own feelings. Was reading through some of the posts and decide to reply to all about my tots.
Q: Is he/she ready to start a relationship?
A: It's up to the other party to give the other party the confident to start a relationship. Not many will take up the challange of going into a relationship with another person if he/she doesn't give the kind of confidences that he/she is reliable. I always believe that not only guys can take the initiative. Gals too should be honest with their feelings. There are times too when the guys dun feel secure.
Q: Do you ever confess or like let things take its natural course?
A: Honestly I've tried this for a few years with my ex-gf. We know each other for years and I've loved her for years. In the end...the word "I love you" still have to come out before we held hands. It's not just a confession for us but more like a confirmation of our love for each other. Before a confession, it's always like deep in heart we know that we like each other but something is always missing and that pose a doubt in our heart if what we felt is real.
Q: Can I handle rejections?
A: Honestly, I doubt many of us can handle rejections if we truely love that person. It always hurt to know the person you love doesn't love you. But look at things this way, if you don't ask, you'll never get the answer and forever you'll be stuck with the feelings for her until it fades of by itself (god knows when). But if we take the courage to confess our feelings, even if it's a rejections and we get hurt..that's it. Once and for all. Heal the wound and move forward. At least with an answers, the road ahead is clear. You know where you need to head.
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just be yourself and have confidence (but not being over-confident) in what you do.
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Originally posted by charlize:
Woe to the person who thinks that just because you are in poly, you cannot get married next month.
Woe to you.
kinda expecting rejection now.. its kinda selfish of me and perhaps a tad arrogant. i just wanna get this off my chest. and maybe she feel flattered that someone has a crush on her LOL.
