Fear of losing parents
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make more friends of common interest ....... safer bet .....
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That's why ppl always said.. Cherish your parents and appreciate them when they are still around. No one like losing their loved ones.
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death is a process everyone has to go thru.. nothing you think about can help. but always remember to love the living and remember the dead. because they're gone and you can do more by treasuring whoever's left with you in this world.
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i dun noe wad will i do or be.
but whenever i think of my mum leaving me, i will cry.
so i dun think..
treat her good, respect her, make her happy and worriless.
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Originally posted by Cool-gal:
i dun noe wad will i do or be.
but whenever i think of my mum leaving me, i will cry.
so i dun think..
treat her good, respect her, make her happy and worriless.
i am a guy , i feel worried too. Btw in sg, its not good for everyone whether young or old, better migrate with yr parents overseas and let them have a good life.
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eh, started thinking of this issue when i was about 10 yrs old. then i would like cry myself to sleep at night. it was very often when i was small, then my life began to become busier.
and most of the time, i forgot about it.
just once in a while ... the feeling rushes back again and i will be down for the entire day. and i'm not even 18 yet
>.<
yea, so, lesson learnt is - be good to your parents when they are still with you.
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Originally posted by Dark Jelly:
eh, started thinking of this issue when i was about 10 yrs old. then i would like cry myself to sleep at night. it was very often when i was small, then my life began to become busier.
and most of the time, i forgot about it.
just once in a while ... the feeling rushes back again and i will be down for the entire day. and i'm not even 18 yet
>.<
yea, so, lesson learnt is - be good to your parents when they are still with you.
i am glad to know that u have love for your parents. Some young people just simply dont care about their parents.
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yesterday, i talked to my parents about it, and they said that they are guilty of making me suffer if it my fears were to come true. But they cant help it as it will be the will of god. they also said they are indebted to me since they will not be lonely as long as they are around.
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now this fear is getting intense..
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I had the same fear but never thought of how to deal with it. it was a big blow to me when my mum passed away. Till this day when I think of her, I still cry. Nothing, really nothing can replace a mother.
Treat your parents well when they are alive.
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my father say if he die.. be happy.. he finally can go shake legs
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Originally posted by youyayu:
my father say if he die.. be happy.. he finally can go shake legs
You father very positive, very good. -
Originally posted by Fantagf:
I had the same fear but never thought of how to deal with it. it was a big blow to me when my mum passed away. Till this day when I think of her, I still cry. Nothing, really nothing can replace a mother.
Treat your parents well when they are alive.
try to think positive that yr parents r finally enjoying above in heaven
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
try to think positive that yr parents r finally enjoying above in heaven
my mum not in heaven leh. I miss her.
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
my mum not in heaven leh. I miss her.
how u know yr mum not in heaven
i always look up the sky & tell myself my parents both in heaven
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
how u know yr mum not in heaven
i always look up the sky & tell myself my parents both in heaven
How u know your parents are in heaven, are they christians??
My late mum said it is good enough to be able to go to hell.
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
How u know your parents are in heaven, are they christians??
My late mum said it is good enough to be able to go to hell.
my parents are non-christians
ppl always tell me they will go heaven lol
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
my parents are non-christians
ppl always tell me they will go heaven lol
Good for you to believe that.
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now im worried.... cos i will feel nothing of lonliness if my parent is gone already..... im worried my mom giv birth to a beast.... but i really love them jus i dun have what his feeling = =
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I'm pretty sure your fear of losing your parents has more to do with you wrestling with your self concept of who will you be without your parents more than anything else
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Originally posted by SPLIT SECOND:
but if i died first, they will suffer, so i shall tell myself, that i am doing them a favour. Atleast they will not feel without me if they pass on earlier.
no body is doing any 1 a favour by staying alive (- -)its for yrself and how meaningful u wan yrself to be. by tell yrself u are doign them a favour by staying alive
when they passed on. u will lose a reason to stay alive ??????
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hey split second, i am an only child too. both my parents married late and are in their seventies. my mum was diagnosed with cancer last yr... i'm not sure whether u have any strong reason for worrying... are ur parents in good health?
but even then, i understand very well that it's tough. i had the same fear even before my mum's diagnosis. sometimes i get so scared tt i might never be able to survive, shld anything happen to them. cos they are one of my main reasons for living... tho i bring in the income, i am still very reliant on them emotionally. but i suppose we have to learn to count blessings. cos at least we still have them with us now. the most impt thing is to have friends and relatives who can support you... need not be a gf or bf... or maybe join a religious community, be it christian, buddhist or any others...
i guess u already know all these things... just wanted to let u know tt there are others like urself... heh i used to think tt i was the only one having this fear... :)
btw are u a fan of watches? ur username split second, is fr a watch function right?
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Originally posted by cathykitty:
hey split second, i am an only child too. both my parents married late and are in their seventies. my mum was diagnosed with cancer last yr... i'm not sure whether u have any strong reason for worrying... are ur parents in good health?
but even then, i understand very well that it's tough. i had the same fear even before my mum's diagnosis. sometimes i get so scared tt i might never be able to survive, shld anything happen to them. cos they are one of my main reasons for living... tho i bring in the income, i am still very reliant on them emotionally. but i suppose we have to learn to count blessings. cos at least we still have them with us now. the most impt thing is to have friends and relatives who can support you... need not be a gf or bf... or maybe join a religious community, be it christian, buddhist or any others...
i guess u already know all these things... just wanted to let u know tt there are others like urself... heh i used to think tt i was the only one having this fear... :)
btw are u a fan of watches? ur username split second, is fr a watch function right?
i will just commit suicide if my parents are gone
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is this a passing thought or are u really considering suicide?
sometimes i think... might as well just die cos life is so hard, but i feel that suicide is a coward's way out... imagine pple feeling pity for u... thinking, poor thing, that lonely guy.. commit suicide... but that's all... they will forget u as time pass... i know a sixty plus yr old bachelor who killed himself... and this is exactly how pple react to his passing...
sometimes i feel tt.. at least my parents have someone to accompay them in old age... but for me, i'm not sure i will have... or if i will be by myself... i think the most impt thing is to plan ahead... think of what u wan the future to be like for u... with or without ur parents...
it's gd tt u discuss wif ur parents... traditional asian families tend to shun topics of death... but i feel tt no matter how much we've done for our parents in their old age... we will always be indebted to them more than they are indebted to us... even if they're not ard anymore, by the will of god, like u said, they wld wan u to live on and be strong...
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Originally posted by SPLIT SECOND:
Anyone bugged by this feeling especially in your 20s, that all of sudden, u start to think what happen to u once yr parents are not around
I amnot still not married yet as i have not met the right girl yet. But have this fear. How to deal with it.
Parents... doesn't wish to leave their child when they are still unable to protect themself...
It's time to know how to take care of yourself and show your parent that you can and let them go peacefully if the day really does come...I am too, even though i am just a mere 17, i want to prove to them i am already able to take care of myself, or even take care of them if i can...