åƒé†‹ Jealousy. How to Deal with this?
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�醋; Jealousy. How to Deal with this?
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i like lor mee with lotsa 醋
and oso on my har kow, siew mai -
Originally posted by FireIce:
i like lor mee with lotsa 醋
and oso on my har kow, siew mai
FireIce, u r one such joker. -
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Without vinegar, does not taste nice. Just kidding.
You may want to find out the cause of jealousy and the personality./character of the person before taking action to deal with it.
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
Without vinegar, does not taste nice. Just kidding.
You may want to find out the cause of jealousy and the personality./character of the person before taking action to deal with it.
lack of mutual trust; 相互信任 -
Originally posted by Rednano:
lack of mutual trust
That is something complex then. What about reassuring her of your love, care for her. Constantly gives her TLC (tender loving care). -
Originally posted by Fantagf:
That is something complex then. What about reassuring her of your love, care for her. Constantly gives her TLC (tender loving care).
i will try. r there any ways, other than the usual stuff? -
Originally posted by Rednano:
i will try. r there any ways, other than the usual stuff?
The best is still have a heart to heart talk with her. Don;t take this problem of lack of mutual trust lightly. Lack of trust is a "popular" reason for break up. Relationship that does not build on trust is shaky There must be reasons why you both don't trust each other, talk it out, sort it out. -
Originally posted by Rednano:
�醋; Jealousy. How to Deal with this?
Please advise.Are you the one who is feeling jealous or your partner?
There are a few reasons for being jealous:
- you're an insecure person
- you have low self-esteem (you think you're not good enough)
- you had some bad experience in the past
- your partner had cheated on you before
All the above reasons are enough to cause trust issues for you.
I would suggest you to take time to identify the root of the problem and deal with it accordingly. If it was something to do with the past, you'll need to learn to let go and move on. Learn to trust again as a relationship cannot function without trust.
Good luck!
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Talk it out lar
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Originally posted by FireIce:
i like lor mee with lotsa 醋
and oso on my har kow, siew mai
omg, can't you contribute something constructive..? -
very hard one la last time my n my ex also like this.. and i find it the harder u try not to get jealous the easier u will get jealous...
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Originally posted by honeymouse:
Are you the one who is feeling jealous or your partner?
There are a few reasons for being jealous:
- you're an insecure person
- you have low self-esteem (you think you're not good enough)
- you had some bad experience in the past
- your partner had cheated on you before
All the above reasons are enough to cause trust issues for you.
I would suggest you to take time to identify the root of the problem and deal with it accordingly. If it was something to do with the past, you'll need to learn to let go and move on. Learn to trust again as a relationship cannot function without trust.
Good luck!
I also kinda face the same thing as the TS.
I know its a self esteem problem, and insecurities... so if the problem's identified, how does it make it easier to deal with it?
One just can't suddenly feel confident overnight, or change a particular mindset..
does it mean constantly psychoing oneself to say 'its alright.. must trust, must trust..'? -
Be unmoved. Unphased. Do not let ur emotions betray ur jealousy. Proceed to squeeze stress ball behind ur back. ;p
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Originally posted by Rednano:
�醋; Jealousy. How to Deal with this?
Please advise.
Jealousy is a clear sign of Possessiveness. And remind yourself.
There's no need to be jealous if She's with You. But if She's not with You, you also no need to get jealous either, cos she's not going to give a damn cos you're definitely not the only guy who are jealous.
If you get jealous so easily when she's your girlfriend, then what will you do if she's not your girlfriend anymore?
Kill yourself is it?
Don't be silly, tell yourself you prefers to feel more aroused instead of jealous. Simply because you can at least do something about it if you chooses to be aroused instead of jealous.
You have a choice, we all have a choice in life.
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Originally posted by parn:
Jealousy is a clear sign of Possessiveness. And remind yourself.There's no need to be jealous if She's with You. But if She's not with You, you also no need to get jealous either, cos she's not going to give a damn cos you're definitely not the only guy who are jealous.
If you get jealous so easily when she's your girlfriend, then what will you do if she's not your girlfriend anymore?
Kill yourself is it?
Don't be silly, tell yourself you prefers to feel more aroused instead of jealous. Simply because you can at least do something about it if you chooses to be aroused instead of jealous.
You have a choice, we all have a choice in life.
why i am the attention of focus?
either gender can be jealous... i didnt state its me who is... girls r usually the ones who r... -
Originally posted by Rednano:
why i am the attention of focus?
either gender can be jealous... i didnt state its me who is... girls r usually the ones who r...
Then next time please be specific, so that we know which direction to start bashing. -
Originally posted by turby:
I also kinda face the same thing as the TS.
I know its a self esteem problem, and insecurities... so if the problem's identified, how does it make it easier to deal with it?
One just can't suddenly feel confident overnight, or change a particular mindset..
does it mean constantly psychoing oneself to say 'its alright.. must trust, must trust..'?When you have low self-esteem, you become insecure and find it hard to trust because you think you are not good enough. When your friends/siblings/partner don't react the way you expect them to react, you become jealous. The jealousy destroys the relationship and you think you're not good enough so the cycle just goes on.
I guess it's a matter of accepting the fact that "shit" happens...... that's life. Not everything works in our way all the time and I believe everything happens for a reason. Stop comparing yourself with others. Be brave to admit your mistakes and try to learn from each bad experience and allow it to make you into a better person.
Learn to think positively. A lot of the times, we tend to think of bad things (or should I say imagine things) in our mind that might never happen.
I read this somewhere and I really like it:
" When you love something, set if free.
If it comes back, it is yours;
If it doesn't, it never was"
Perhaps, this is the way we should approach things, be it relationship or anything else.
Good luck in dealing with your issues and take care!
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I like the phrase..
if it is yours, it is yours
No point be jealous of what is not yours
It is wasting of energy and time.
It is a common feeling to feel jealous.
You expected the person to behave in a certain way but you are not getting it.
Or you are inferior.
But you have to learn to control it... But these feeling is unhealthy...
if it happen to often. It is hard to build a relationship or the relationship have problems already.