married the girl that u dont really love
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Originally posted by parn:
That sounds like what my kidnappers would say to me after he has locked me up in his dungeon.
in my case..is someone trying to tell someone to go into a relationship quoting "love can be cultivated"....he believes that... -
even those that were intially in love and have consummated liao can break up http://fengshuiforward.com/forum/personal-requests/help!!!/0/ much less if you discover you don't like the person before marriage, better to annul it before more problem sets in.
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Originally posted by laURanaBabe:
in my case..is someone trying to tell someone to go into a relationship quoting "love can be cultivated"....he believes that...
Please don't get tricked by that someone when he's unable to prove his sincerity behind those words to you.Unlike my kidnappers, they are willing to disobey the law to kidnap me so that they could showed me their sincerity in their dungeons.
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Originally posted by Focors:
even those that were intially in love and have consummated liao can break up http://fengshuiforward.com/forum/personal-requests/help!!!/0/ much less if you discover you don't like the person before marriage, better to annul it before more problem sets in.
I also don't believe guys wearing a pagoda on their head will actually extend the length of their ku ku jiao. -
Originally posted by aHGer^83:
either u cxl the wedding,, or just face it. u dun always marry the person u love.
LKY didnt marry his wife for love.
How you LKY did not marry the wife for love? -
Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
well i have this vietnam GF
we dont really able to talk to each other because
1 she dont speak chinese or english she only understand limited (but she trying very hard learning now)
2 i dont speak vietnames
but we have kind of specially feeling for each other. and this is the 1st time im experiancing love that dont really required to talk so much......... im kind of enjoying this at this monent. its like 2 mute ppl dating and we dont even know hands sigh*
we express our concent for each other through action (and i dont mean sex)
we care about for each other and we go out every time we are able to
however she only able to stay limited period. she only allow 1 month and have to go back 1 month be4 she can come here again.
im thinking of marring her but of couse i need to consider a lot of things. im 32 this year. about time, and i feel i have found the 1.
but the last dating we have i suddenly have this strange feeling cause normally i sleep alone (- -)
and suddenly there another person sleeping beside u ................ i feel strange.............
whahahaha maybe i have marriage forbier (- -) <--- dont know how to spell ............
My bro has a Viet gf too, & like you, they hav communication barriers. And like u too, they are separated by two different places.
But im touched by the love tat my bro (27) & his gf (22) share..
In order to minimise the barriers, my bro bought a viet language self learning book + a viet dictionary. I have nvr seen my bro THAT interested in studyin durin his sch days. And his gf in turn, took some chinese class in her own country. They communicate via phone every nite, tokin in broken mixed languages onli both of them understand.
My bro makes an effort to go over for a week every 3 - 6mths.
Both of them do not have much savings, and they r planning to get married soon..my bro started to take up extra job outside so tat he has extra allowances, he hopes to marry his gf & brings her over ASAP.
And they have been together for a yr + now.
Love concurs all barriers! I believe u are onli havin some doubts abt marriage, cos afterall, u r so used to sleeping alone! U need to do somethin to reassure urself tat everything is gonna be fine if you are 100% sure tat she is THE ONE.
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y propose to her if u are not interested??
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Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
My bro has a Viet gf too, & like you, they hav communication barriers. And like u too, they are separated by two different places.
But im touched by the love tat my bro (27) & his gf (22) share..
In order to minimise the barriers, my bro bought a viet language self learning book + a viet dictionary. I have nvr seen my bro THAT interested in studyin durin his sch days. And his gf in turn, took some chinese class in her own country. They communicate via phone every nite, tokin in broken mixed languages onli both of them understand.
My bro makes an effort to go over for a week every 3 - 6mths.
Both of them do not have much savings, and they r planning to get married soon..my bro started to take up extra job outside so tat he has extra allowances, he hopes to marry his gf & brings her over ASAP.
And they have been together for a yr + now.
Love concurs all barriers! I believe u are onli havin some doubts abt marriage, cos afterall, u r so used to sleeping alone! U need to do somethin to reassure urself tat everything is gonna be fine if you are 100% sure tat she is THE ONE.
ya i m like yr brother
in order to comminute with her i also brought a lang translater. sorry but im dont even have "O" level that Y my english is not good but i trying to type as well as i can (- -)
she going back to vietnam in 5 days time and we will not see each other for at least 1 to 2 month be4 she can come again and it very troubleson to bring her in month after month .
i miss the period when she not around , its even harder to speak on phone as she totally dont understand english or chinese.
most of the time when i msg her using my language translater
she msg back in vietnam lang which my translater cant change into chinese (- -)......
im not that rich that Y i brought the cheapest lang translater .................
i know i like her a lot ........ miss her a lot .......... and wan to be with her .
but i scare i think
living with another person .......................
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it's true that love transcends all barriers... but to me, communicating and understanding what the other is saying is kind of a given, and I dun get how people can fall in love with each other when they dun talk? or be able to engage in meaningful conversation? maybe i'm not enlightened to understand this, but i dun think i'll ever fall in love or have ever fallen in love without intellectual stimulation.... and this requires communication... so strange a love.
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Originally posted by foxwalk:
it’s true that love transcends all barriers…
but to me, communicating and understanding what the other is saying is kind of a given, and I dun get how people can fall in love with each other when they dun talk?
or be able to engage in meaningful conversation?
maybe i’m not enlightened to understand this, but i dun think i’ll ever fall in love or have ever fallen in love without intellectual stimulation…. and this requires communication… so strange a love.
i also never thought i would come to such point (- -) but there a wonderful feeling spending times together with her. sometime i feel when a guy tell a girl how much he love her , how much he wan her, its all end up pointless . i feeling comfortable going out with her there is a excitment trying to figure out wat she wan. i think there a show where a guy fallen for a mute girl and he very happy marrying her also in the end. of couse they went through some hardship same as me and her nowdont u agreed saying all those love words to some1 sometimes is pointless ????
action that u care is more important
............... but im feeling confuse about myself right now
think im too nervious or (- -)................................
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
i also never thought i would come to such point (- -) but there a wonderful feeling spending times together with her. sometime i feel when a guy tell a girl how much he love her , how much he wan her, its all end up pointless . i feeling comfortable going out with her there is a excitment trying to figure out wat she wan. i think there a show where a guy fallen for a mute girl and he very happy marrying her also in the end. of couse they went through some hardship same as me and her nowdont u agreed saying all those love words to some1 sometimes is pointless ????
action that u care is more important
............... but im feeling confuse about myself right now
think im too nervious or (- -)................................
Hwaimeng,
If have doubts.. then DON'T go through it.
Don't be selfish.
You may not mind ruining your happiness.. but you must NOT ruin HERS.
Because in the end.. if the marriage don't work.. and she found out your real thoughts .. she will blame you for making her go through it.
In her head.. she will be screaming " IF YOU ARE NOT SURE... THEN WHY DID YOU MARRY ME ???"
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Hwaimeng,
If have doubts.. then DON'T go through it.
Don't be selfish.
You may not mind ruining your happiness.. but you must NOT ruin HERS.
Because in the end.. if the marriage don't work.. and she found out your real thoughts .. she will blame you for making her go through it.
In her head.. she will be screaming " IF YOU ARE NOT SURE... THEN WHY DID YOU MARRY ME ???"
I hope that Hwaimeng is not havin doubts abt marrying her, but more like he is unsure if he can live with another person.Hwaimeng, I wld not suggest u to get married & work tis out from there, but as per Jojo, dun get married until u r sure abt it. Living together is a big committment. But since u love her so much..try to work things out before deciding to get married.
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that for all the advices
she have to gone back today
gaving me 1 month to consider a lot of things
of couse im very very very sad to see her leave even though its just a 1 month.
we have a great time together and now we will be spereated for 1 month
during this time,
i need to gave it a deep though wat to do next
thanks for the time spend
cya
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A lot of people have this really bad misconception about marriage.
It's not just thinking about the good things you like about the relationship.
It's also thinking about the bad shit in the relationship and whether you can live with it.
Really.
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Originally posted by parn:
That sounds like what my kidnappers would say to me after he has locked me up in his dungeon.Stockholm syndrome.
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Originally posted by wonderamazement:
Stockholm syndrome.
Lima Syndrome.
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lol power enough can try lo...
the art of seduction. -
Hello everyone,
After reading all your posting, I like to give my view. If you are not sure dont get married.
As i m married and divorce to be honest at time you dont know the person you married until you are really married. As long as you are not married there is always some acting but once all paper are sign than the true colour will come out.
So to any of you that are getting married please bear in mind, you have not seen the true person you are going to married until you are 100% married to him/her. Also there will be the other family members to take into consideration.
- Last advice is go for Marriage Preparation Course or Engaged Encounter Weekend it does help you to be prepared.
- Last advice is go for Marriage Preparation Course or Engaged Encounter Weekend it does help you to be prepared.
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Originally posted by RedizAlertz:
My bro has a Viet gf too, & like you, they hav communication barriers. And like u too, they are separated by two different places.
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Love concurs all barriers! I believe u are onli havin some doubts abt marriage, cos afterall, u r so used to sleeping alone! U need to do somethin to reassure urself tat everything is gonna be fine if you are 100% sure tat she is THE ONE.
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Originally posted by jaezai2008:
Kudos to your brother. I hope as much as you do that a happy ending lies ahead.
Im sure it will. Thanks! -
Marrying and dating, the feeling's just different isn't it.
Just try to think of something worth remembering between the two of you. There might be a chance that it'll work out.
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pls dun marry her..both of you will suffer since you dun have that kind of feelings. When kids arrive, more complication will arise and more
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