Class Position =(

• sadgirl

  16 Jan 03, 18:24

  I have been elected as v.chair this year but i'm very upset with this .
  You see... I don't think I should have even gotten the post if not for the withdrawal of 2 members not wanting to be v.chair. I don't even think my friends think that I deserve this post. Already I see that a lot of classmates are bitching about each other [talking bad about each other behind their backs and laughing at them] its a very mean thing to do, and all the more i bet that they might be saying things about me =(. I mean... I have no leadership qualities, I whine and I'm pretty much lousy.
  My friends have already started calling me "maria, pick up paper,close door" etc, because of this position. In my cca they believe in Servant leaders, and so they do that.
  I'm not sure of myself anymore or who to trust. =( What should I do?
• gasband

  16 Jan 03, 18:49

  I think its great you got chosen as a v chairman. Sometimes, the so called best person is not chosen, you know why? becos that person might not be the best person when it comes to humility and learning. No one is perfect, while some people may seem to be born with certain qualities, it doesnt mean they are always far ahead of others in terms of that aspect.
  
  You can always learn as you carry out your duties. As for the name calling, m aybe there are some vicious people amongst them but i believe most of them are just joking, so dun take it to heart. The best way to response is that carry out your duties in such a way, that they will come to respect you.
  
  I believe in servant leadership simply because that will earn more respect from the people you serve and they would be more than willing to serve others.
  
  Learn all you can in your capacity, be humble, focused and willing to make mistakes and learn.
  
• Peppermint

  16 Jan 03, 19:35

  those who can, do
  those who cant, whine
  
  on 2nd thought u may wish to refer to my quote?
• sgboy2004

  16 Jan 03, 19:42

  u should hav more confidence in yourself.
  
  
• Parka

  16 Jan 03, 19:46

  Be a leader is tough. From personal experience, it's gong to be tougher when the group you are handling are your friends. Haha. Well, at the end of the day, you will definitely learn a lot, much more than them. Erm......This kinda leader thing don't have any tips one, you have to go through it yourself.
  
  Be there, done that.
  
  Good luck.
• Master -_-

  16 Jan 03, 20:45

  Yeah... dun let wat others say, affect you.. they are just jealous actually..
  
  Quitters dun win and winners dun quit...
• kohanson

  16 Jan 03, 20:48

  Don't worry too much.. just do your best and don't let your classmates make use of you.
• sgboy2004

  16 Jan 03, 20:48

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  Yeah... dun let wat others say, affect you.. they are just jealous actually..
  
  Quitters dun win and winners dun quit...

  i like the last phrase...so neat...
  ^5
• Master -_-

  16 Jan 03, 20:49

  Originally posted by sgboy2004:

  i like the last phrase...so neat...
  ^5

  of coz la.. from the master wat... -_-
• M©+square

  17 Jan 03, 10:41

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  of coz la.. from the master wat... -_-

  ...................
• Peppermint

  17 Jan 03, 12:40

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  Quitters dun win and winners dun quit...

  then whos the smart guy who came up with
  
  quit while u are ahead?
  
• AngelDark

  17 Jan 03, 12:44

  Originally posted by Peppermint:

  then whos the smart guy who came up with
  
  quit while u are ahead?
  

  that's a gd one
• Yunhaier

  17 Jan 03, 15:29

  Originally posted by sadgirl:

  I have been elected as v.chair this year but i'm very upset with this .
  You see... I don't think I should have even gotten the post if not for the withdrawal of 2 members not wanting to be v.chair. I don't even think my friends think that I deserve this post. Already I see that a lot of classmates are bitching about each other [talking bad about each other behind their backs and laughing at them] its a very mean thing to do, and all the more i bet that they might be saying things about me =(. I mean... I have no leadership qualities, I whine and I'm pretty much lousy.
  My friends have already started calling me "maria, pick up paper,close door" etc, because of this position. In my cca they believe in Servant leaders, and so they do that.
  I'm not sure of myself anymore or who to trust. =( What should I do?

  When the world is laughing at you - all the more you should pick yourself up and PROVE to the world that you have more than what you seemed.
  
  They are not in your position, therefore comments are freely distributed, but comments will be shut by your actions. If you don't do tootpid things for them to say - what can they say?
  
  NOBODY is born into this world having leadership quality - it must be cultivated. You know you whine - change this aspect. Don't feel lousy about yourself - do research and read up about things to gain self confidence and work your way through.
  
  you are elected as a v.chairman - you have to win the hearts of your cca's people. You have hopnob with the correct, senior people in the club, yet sensitive to the younger members. Impression and rumors are often wrong - you have to SHOW them that you are much better and will be. They are disrespecting you, because you acknowledge to their lame comments, etc.
  
  Show, don't tell - actions speaks louder than words. Once you win the hearts of the people in your CCA - people will respect who you are, not your status, etc.
  
  Cheers
• kohanson

  17 Jan 03, 15:33

  Originally posted by Peppermint:

  then whos the smart guy who came up with
  
  quit while u are ahead?
  

  hahahha, brain teasers ah..