in love with a married woman
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Any idea to test her if she is geniune?
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Originally posted by struck:
Any idea to test her if she is geniune?
let her choose between a 30k diamond ring *hint hint at par- >.>* and you. Say if u choose the diamond ring,u will lose me,if you choose me,the ring will never be yours.
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haiz...
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Originally posted by struck:
Any idea to test her if she is geniune?
if you need to test if she is geniune, shows you are not worthy of her.have you ever considered what she needs?
A roof over her head, a hassle free security to say that she can rely on you in the event she needs you.
She will need a new place to stay to break away from her hub. She will need assurances that you can provide for her when things happened.
have you those reserve of $$$$ to do so? if not, whats wrong with her having her hub and you on the side?
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i know im selfish... and not fare to his wife... but i just cant left him.... i'll so stupid that till i want to saty under ground forever with him if nothing go wrong... he do care about my feeling... he done all and those he cant for me too... im very demanding and ask for lots of demanding request but he still willing to give in and even tolerate me... i scolded him, shouted at him everything bad to a man i do it on him... but till now he still willing to endure me... so does that mean that he love me??
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Originally posted by struck:
Thank you for reading this topic, please read with an open mind. Advice will be taken and read with gratefulness. Those who could not understand and cant accept the story, kindly respect the situation as no one knows and expects what is going to happen in life. We only live once.
I am in love with a married woman. She told me that she love me and is in a dilema. She do not know what to do.
I initate a clear break up thru sms but when we met up the following days, we still ended up together as there are still feelings for each other.
Can someone give me advice? What should I do? I am in love with her and she know it. How can I: -
i) Make it even clearer to her that I wan her and be with her? (this is to show her that I am true to her and is sincere)
ii) know that she wan to be with me too (since she say she is in a dilema, i guess it should be me, the guy, to ensure her, however, I wan to make sure she is not just wanting to be with me to escape from her current relationship)
For every love triangle actualized through the decision of the central figure, which is then linked to two or more partners through his connection, it is but a tacit acceptance to bore the karmic debts fashioned by his/her cosmic lesson in Love.
I do not disagree with the fact people could still be subjected to falling in love outside their primary intimate partners despite being married. And seriously, there are a myriad of reasons why this happens. Most people dismissed it under the general façade of Love to justify their opendus modus, but across several hundred dimensions of Love, the ones that brought about the most misery are the ones that often seen, felt or tasted like the real thing in one’s context and reality in life, created entirely by their own perception or disillusionment.
Anyone could have claims to love all three at a go, however, when you probe deep enough to reach the core, this façade of Love always acts like a canopy of vegetation that shields real underlying reasons from surfacing. Some even lionize or glamorize this canopy and incorporate certain falsation into their belief system, as they taught themselves to see it as part of their reality, and in turn, manifest this preconceived reality into their reality.
It’s interesting to note how people formulate aspects of the media and certain histrionic qualities found in protagonist/s of fictional tales, in explaining various decisions they make in life, which the individual have come to believe and find self-perceived striking resemblance in both the character and themselves.
It’s not the act of falling in love that matters to me – it’s the bondage to uncommitment and unavailability of another that is critical. If this was a common scenario in your life, then very likely, the cusps of problem would revolve around the condition of your life, your developmental years and your spiritual account in Love.
I am not a moral police – falling in Love with someone unavailable, to me, is not wrong: it’s just karmic.
Hence, if you have already decided upon your route, then you must be open to your outcome, even if it’s negative.
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Originally posted by viceroy88:
i know im selfish... and not fare to his wife... but i just cant left him.... i'll so stupid that till i want to saty under ground forever with him if nothing go wrong... he do care about my feeling... he done all and those he cant for me too... im very demanding and ask for lots of demanding request but he still willing to give in and even tolerate me... i scolded him, shouted at him everything bad to a man i do it on him... but till now he still willing to endure me... so does that mean that he love me??
u only know he loves u truly madly deeply and willing to scarifice for u when he is really go to lawyer office to sign the divorce papers.
otherwise, u r just the Sweet Young Thing (SYT) he is craving for physically, when his wife is at home tending their kids... -
Originally posted by viceroy88:
i know im selfish... and not fare to his wife... but i just cant left him.... i'll so stupid that till i want to saty under ground forever with him if nothing go wrong... he do care about my feeling... he done all and those he cant for me too... im very demanding and ask for lots of demanding request but he still willing to give in and even tolerate me... i scolded him, shouted at him everything bad to a man i do it on him... but till now he still willing to endure me... so does that mean that he love me??
So why not make the demanding request that he leaves his wife for you? If he is so tolerant and really loves you, then should be no problem...
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Originally posted by rainee:
So why not make the demanding request that he leaves his wife for you? If he is so tolerant and really loves you, then should be no problem...
i also echoed this view.SYTs usually can be bought with money, just shower them with some LV or Prada handbags, and they stick to u like superglue... in other words, a sugar daddy.
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Originally posted by struck:
Hi, pardon me, correct me if I am wrong, For part 1: are you saying her husband cant satisfied her needs? For part 2: what do you mean by "If she agrees with you, then congratulations."?
For part1: Didn't you want to know if both of your are true love for each other? If both of you can refrain from having sex with her while she's still legally married, you're showing her you're planning for the future to be together with her WITHOUT ANY UNECESSARY RISKS.For part2: If she also feels the same way about you, she would agreed with your suggestions.
And you have your true love then.
I'm sure her husband have long satisfied his own needs by thoroughly enjoying her body throughout the years. But since she's your true love, then you deserved to enjoy what's left of her for yourself.
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Originally posted by viceroy88:
i know im selfish... and not fare to his wife... but i just cant left him.... i'll so stupid that till i want to saty under ground forever with him if nothing go wrong... he do care about my feeling... he done all and those he cant for me too... im very demanding and ask for lots of demanding request but he still willing to give in and even tolerate me... i scolded him, shouted at him everything bad to a man i do it on him... but till now he still willing to endure me... so does that mean that he love me??
if you are asking if he is in love. I can tell you NO. He is taking you as a play thing. I can tolerate alot of rubbish from play things cause I know anytime I can walk away not feeling guilty. I wonder if you truly know love at all or you are just throwing tantrums, being spoilt, being difficult and high maintenance. If a person truly loves you, he will not put up with your rubbish cause he knows he will be staying long term with you. You are also unlikely to behave badly cause you know behaving so immaturely is going to kill any r/s faster than swallowing poison. Have you ever examine your negative behavour is perhaps a reflection of your need to be in a stable r/s and yet is you are suppressing it by choosing to be with a married man where you know you can never be happy with.
So does he really love you? If you don't already know, why are you already sleeping with him? Are you not wasting your own life and happiness away on this guy who is never going to love you but is just using you for his own selfish wants while destroying his marriage. There are consequence to everything you choose, maybe not now, but things have a way of catching up.
1 final word: its your life, its your choice. No matter what everyone in this world say, if you choose to live in this manner, we can only wish you happiness. I persoanlly hope you do not destroy their marriage and family and also you do not come back with loads of complains later. You made your choice.
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aiya, go be with her la.
good for her - she love you what..
good for you - you love her what..
good for her husband - better such a thrashy woman not be by his side. if he can est. the infidelity before a court, not even charboh charter can protect her right to benefits.
good for the kids - better the father teach the kids values than such a whore.
WIN WIN for all.
you + her - start new family
her husband + kids - stay as a family
EDIT: btw, you + her, absolute filth. sigh. the moral decay of society.
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Infidelity is a nono. What are u gonna tell ur children? "Kids, actually u only came out becos mum/dad was snatched away from another marriage."
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She's not serious.
My guess is that she will be half-hearted about it, and there will be regrets, whether by you or by her in the end, for sure.
Think carefully, put yourself in her shoes. If you're really sure, go for it, no regrets. If you believe it's really love, then i don't see anything wrong. But be prepared, cos there will be alot of ups and downs for the both of you. I can guarantee, the relationship won't be a stable one.
No offence for being straightforward. :]
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If I am you, I will excersice the utmost self-control and transform myself.
It is not easy, but part of being a man is to know what is right and what is wrong, and steer yourself.
This is your chance.
Meat Pao
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come on come on.
draw a flowchart.
Ending: together with her and marry her.
Start:
1.Like her
2. Courtship
3. Time
4. Divorce her husband
5. Time needed to settle divorce
6. Go lawyer and sign papers.
7. Fight for Custody of her children
8. Time for her to settle her mood
9. Time (Again, if u wan marry her)
10. Acceptance by ur parents (if ur parents those old fashion, AGAIN, time is needed)
a lot a lot a lot of time is needed....are u prepared to accept that?
Normal bgf step 1, 2, 3 gao dim. u will need abt 10 steps. 3 times more the time, effort. u willing to do so?
and u sure the woman love you so much dat she gonna give her husband up?
combining with other opinion from other forumnites, wad do u think?
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Originally posted by Rednano:
i also echoed this view.SYTs usually can be bought with money, just shower them with some LV or Prada handbags, and they stick to u like superglue... in other words, a sugar daddy.
u got any contact of SYT that need a sugar daddy???
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when u r with a married man/ woman.
you are hurting more then just one parties, if they have children , u are hurting the children.
When it comes to love , it is on feeling
when it come to morality , it is a bad things to do as it has a lot of consequences
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It hard for you to see any truth in what we say now... question is... can you take it when it do happen? Dun let it be NATO(no action talk only)
He/She can paint you the most beautiful picture you wanna see. Make you feel like a princess/prince. But, consider this, what with a Human who cheat in the first place?
I hope you well...
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Originally posted by Edwinsoon:
It hard for you to see any truth in what we say now... question is... can you take it when it do happen? Dun let it be NATO(no action talk only)
He/She can paint you the most beautiful picture you wanna see. Make you feel like a princess/prince. But, consider this, what with a Human who cheat in the first place?
I hope you well...
how u manage to remember ur password after almost 5 yrs? -
Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):
how u manage to remember ur password after almost 5 yrs?Edwinsoon is the password.
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Originally posted by charlize:
Edwinsoon is the password.
no way.. i bet it's password -
hey! we trying to help this poor guy here.....
anyway...further to what i hv said earlier.... my gf just recently broke up with me and be with a married man... how does that make u feel?
Trust me... some woman,can do anything or come up with any excuses.... when they hv feeling for u... but once its gone... poof!!!
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Do what u tink is rite. But dun hurt people along the process.
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Dear readers and everyone who put up the post in this thread, Thank you for the advice and thoughts, greatly appreciated. She will choose to stay with her husband. What both of us are chasing for in life is very different. It is a valuable experience for myself. We have talked and closed the chapter. I am ready to move on. Cheerios! =)