do u find yr R/s with your parents improving after mid 20s

• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 17:36

  do u?. I guess at this age priorities changed and its no more in your teens?

  i also do notice lot of emotion start to kick in with regard to family.

• limpper

  27 Oct 08, 17:40

  i haven even reach 20. lol

• Wai Leng

  27 Oct 08, 17:58

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• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 18:05

  Originally posted by Wai Leng:

  Yeah, improve a lot due to my depression, very close to my parents now at 36, still single... I used to hang out very often with my frens after we started working & no time for parents, it was till I got depression, my frens were busy with their work-life, bgr, then married and have kids... my depression still not yet recovered... my frens have no time for me, my parents were always there for me... now I got one fren (one year older than me) told me to treasure my r/s with my parents cos she's an orphan now...

  tearjerker post. i can understand. Parents comes first.

  i think some of us who spent some time away from parents like in overseas working or studying ect will know the pain.

• rainee

  27 Oct 08, 18:10

  It improved a bit but went downhill with my upcoming marriage.

  So it still sucks now. Can't see it getting any better.

• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 18:14

  Originally posted by limpper:

  i haven even reach 20. lol

  U will know the value of parents a few years later. At yr age, its fun, friends and entertainment and exploration. But when u hit your mid 20s, life starts to bite back. at this stage, IMHO, its most crucial part of your life in terms of emotional support when new responsibilities and burdens start to kick in. I consider it as the 2nd adolescence period and its even more drastic and serious than your teenage years when coupled together with quarter life crisis depression. Whatever happens at this stage of your life will forever determine your emotional makeup for the rest of your life, at least for some , though not for all but its still possible that depression at this stage may affect your later life.. Only yr parents will be able to provide this support more than anyone else.

• Wai Leng

  27 Oct 08, 19:01

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• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 19:11

  Originally posted by Wai Leng:

  Thanks to depression that draws my r/s with my parents closer... so I always say I never regret having depression...

  good to know. Have been in yr shoes too, but i am 10 years younger than u.. At least there is a positive side effect associated with depression.

• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 19:28

  Wai Leng, are u a male or female?

• BadzMaro

  27 Oct 08, 19:28

  Something like that . heh

• jesslyn1992

  27 Oct 08, 19:33

  my relationship with my parents are terrific now, and im still 15 (oh well, gg to be 16). i dont know about others, but i think my parents are the most faithful friends i have ever had.

  well, who else prepare your breakfast? who else drive me to school? who else spend his money to pay my super expensive piano lessons even sometimes i dont feel like playing anymore? who else keep encouraging me when i am down? who else actually bear that 10months of carrying me inside her tummy? and the list goes on and on and on.. so, i have no reason to NOT love my parents :)

• Wai Leng

  27 Oct 08, 19:37

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• SPLIT SECOND

  27 Oct 08, 19:59

  Originally posted by Wai Leng:

  
  I'm a female... =)

  SPLIT SECOND > How about you? Male or female?

  male..........nice knowing u

• TalkToTheScreen

  27 Oct 08, 20:52

  Originally posted by jesslyn1992:

  my relationship with my parents are terrific now, and im still 15 (oh well, gg to be 16). i dont know about others, but i think my parents are the most faithful friends i have ever had.

  well, who else prepare your breakfast? who else drive me to school? who else spend his money to pay my super expensive piano lessons even sometimes i dont feel like playing anymore? who else keep encouraging me when i am down? who else actually bear that 10months of carrying me inside her tummy? and the list goes on and on and on.. so, i have no reason to NOT love my parents :)

  Haha, yeah. You're right. When you're down, your friends desert you, your parents are the ones that comfort you.

  They are the ones that stay by your side all the time. It's different from having close friends.

  So, there's really NO reason for me to not love my parents.

• jesslyn1992

  27 Oct 08, 21:00

  Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:

  Haha, yeah. You're right. I'm 15 going 16 too. When you're down, your friends desert you, your parents are the ones that comfort you.

  They are the ones that stay by your side all the time. It's different from having close friends.

  So, there's really NO reason for me to not love my parents.

  YEAH :D

• rainee

  27 Oct 08, 21:08

  Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:

  Haha, yeah. You're right. When you're down, your friends desert you, your parents are the ones that comfort you.

  They are the ones that stay by your side all the time. It's different from having close friends.

  So, there's really NO reason for me to not love my parents.

  I guess you are all lucky to have such supportive parents.

  I used to talk to my parents about my problems, but they used them against me later during our arguments. So I have stopped talking to them about my problems ever since.

• TalkToTheScreen

  27 Oct 08, 21:14

  Originally posted by rainee:

  I guess you are all lucky to have such supportive parents.

  I used to talk to my parents about my problems, but they used them against me later during our arguments. So I have stopped talking to them about my problems ever since.

  But, you know something. When i was younger, the relationship with my parents was SO bad to the point, i don't even talk to my parents. I remembered, everytime i talked to them, we would quarrel.

  Now that i've grown older, it has improved.

• rainee

  27 Oct 08, 21:16

  Originally posted by TalkToTheScreen:

  But, you know something. When i was younger, the relationship with my parents was SO bad to the point, i don't even talk to my parents. I remembered, everytime i talked to them, we would quarrel.

  Now that i've grown older, it has improved.

  Yea, there was a point, after i graduated that I find i easier to talk to them. But in face of my upcoming wedding, suddenly everything went back to square one.

• ChoCoChips

  27 Oct 08, 21:17

  slowly improving lo.

  i quite happy about this la.

  becuz if they pass away 就没有了 leh

   

• VL

  27 Oct 08, 22:25

  After 18 .

• jesslyn1992

  27 Oct 08, 22:29

  Originally posted by ChoCoChips:

  slowly improving lo.

  i quite happy about this la.

  becuz if they pass away 就没有了 leh

   

  yeah i agree. can you imagine how you will be when your parents are not with you anymore? at that time, you can't really say "thanks" or "sorry" to them. :( argh im scared :(

• technoboy

  27 Oct 08, 22:37

  Originally posted by jesslyn1992:

  yeah i agree. can you imagine how you will be when your parents are not with you anymore? at that time, you can't really say "thanks" or "sorry" to them. :( argh im scared :(

  Life has more things to worry about than this, which is something people cannot decide. So, let nature take its course and cherish the present.

• youyayu

  27 Oct 08, 22:40

  my relation with my parents are always good

• Lorry`

  27 Oct 08, 23:12

  im quite biased.. i love my mom but not my dad.

  we have nothin to talk bout.

• SquarePants

  28 Oct 08, 02:37

  I don't talk to them usually .. only chinese new year =)