a stupid mother
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couple of weeks ago my grandmother had passed away and my mother and sister went to her funeral. she instructed my sister to bring camcoder and camera to flim down the funeral.
so after they return, monther instructed sister to burn the videos and photos in to CDs and distribute it to the relatives.
so, come to think of it, isnt it ridiculous and stupid to do all this stuff when every1 are trying to get over the sadness of death while my mother is trying very hard to ensure the death haunt every of the relatives.
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its quite common nowadays wad.
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ask ur mum, why she did so.
and ur mum gave birth to you, its not right for a son to start condemning ur mother with ridicculous/stupid etc.
after so many years of staying together with you mum, u dunno her character?
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Question her intention instead. Maybe then, you'd realize this whole damn thing hasn't been too easy on your mom as well
Let's not be too judgemental, yea?
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you are still young. I bet you do not have any videos of your late grandma. This video is the only memory you can have of your grandma. Years later you will remember how you walked down with your grandma the final journey.
From this, your grieve and love for ur grandma is still not as deep as your mum's.
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Originally posted by iGhost:
couple of weeks ago my grandmother had passed away and my mother and sister went to her funeral. she instructed my sister to bring camcoder and camera to flim down the funeral.
so after they return, monther instructed sister to burn the videos and photos in to CDs and distribute it to the relatives.
so, come to think of it, isnt it ridiculous and stupid to do all this stuff when every1 are trying to get over the sadness of death while my mother is trying very hard to ensure the death haunt every of the relatives.
not nice to call your mother stupid - you will be someone parent one day .. be careful
There must be a reason for your mum to want to video it ask her and be enlightened . . .
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Those who condemn their own parents, their children will condemn them in future too. Trust me.
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you miss a step. asking your mother why. that's a very important and elementary step. i would say it is very stupid of you to miss out that step.
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Originally posted by wilsonhao:
Those who condemn their own parents, their children will condemn them in future too. Trust me.
And this is also known as... Karma..
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nv respect someone who doesn't respect his mom.
scolding someone who "eat salt more then u eat rice"
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my grandfather funeral my uncle did the same thing
after that he burn and give to us.
lets just say, its not to "haunt" u but to keep a memory of ur late grandmother.
think it this way.
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I may be just speculating but it may be just one way for her to find closure. Sometimes, you may be at a lost of what to do during a passing of a relative so you may tend to do something to preserve some part of that relative for your memory keepsake be it may not be the correct way if others are trying to use time to forget.
My dad still keep photos of his dad's pasing, although he doesn't show it but I can see that he misses him everytime he looks at the photos. So just give and take bah, I suppose.
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by saying yr mom is stupid does that makes u clever?..anyway i am sure she wants to gives it to relatives to keep memories of yr grandmother .. -
Originally posted by iGhost:
couple of weeks ago my grandmother had passed away and my mother and sister went to her funeral. she instructed my sister to bring camcoder and camera to flim down the funeral.
so after they return, monther instructed sister to burn the videos and photos in to CDs and distribute it to the relatives.
so, come to think of it, isnt it ridiculous and stupid to do all this stuff when every1 are trying to get over the sadness of death while my mother is trying very hard to ensure the death haunt every of the relatives.
i think you can ask her first why she wants to do it. that could be a reason for it. dun be quick to judge first or form any conclusions yet. find out more abt it n communicate with your mum.
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i agree. pls find out why she did it.
a funeral doesn't always have to be a sad event. especially when the person who has passed on has led a good life and lived to a reasonably old age. sometimes, leaving this world can be seen as a release fr pain and suffering, if the person had been very ill. or, it can be seen as passing on to a higher realm, depending on ur religious beliefs.
taking a video of the funeral, while not smth that is done at many funerals, cld simply be ur mum's way of helping everyone move on and find closure. by burning the video for everyone, it's a way to keep the memory of ur grandma alive. why shld relatives who have died be forgotten quickly? that would be unfilial right?
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How can u scold ur mom ?
Who gave birth to you . And scolding her over such a small matter ?
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Originally posted by iGhost:
couple of weeks ago my grandmother had passed away and my mother and sister went to her funeral. she instructed my sister to bring camcoder and camera to flim down the funeral.
so after they return, monther instructed sister to burn the videos and photos in to CDs and distribute it to the relatives.
so, come to think of it, isnt it ridiculous and stupid to do all this stuff when every1 are trying to get over the sadness of death while my mother is trying very hard to ensure the death haunt every of the relatives.
It's not up to you to judge your mother. If your grandmother is upset with your mother, she will let her know....and I'm sure you don't want to know about it.
If what your mother is doing is indeed rude to your grandmother, then isn't it more rude to cremate her or bury her alone six feet under?
And if you realised no matter what you do to a dead person is all going to be rude to some people one way or the other, why do you not question how come it's alright to burn/bury a dead person but it's not alright to distribute photos/videos/CDs of a dead person?
It all comes down to the intentions behind those actions. People are able to recognise the intentions and mature enough to understand but not condemn their actions.
HOWEVER
IF your mother is selling those CDs/photos/videos in pasar malam/ebay/dvd video shops and making a huge untaxable profits out of your dead grandmother, then of course your mother is wrong and you need to phone police and arrest her at once.
BUT....I'm just joking, and I'm sure nobody is going to do such a thing even during bad times at the present.
RIGHT?
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stupid mother?
then u are a stupid kid
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i think your mum must have her reasons to do so.probably to keep in memory of your grandma.its her mum who passed away so i guess her sadness should be no lesser than all of you ba.
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I don't even have a video of my mom. be glad ur mom is still around lo. yawnz
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apparently my relatives did take photos of my grandma's funeral too.
pretty normal nowadays, i guess.
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Even wat wrong your mother has done.. she's still your mother.. This is not the way to label her "stupid" .. if she is stupid i doubt u are somewhere better than her
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Memories... are precious...
^^
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to be fair to TS, it depend on how you look at it .. one may take it that viewing the CD and pictures will bring sad memories and the grief will re-visit. However, they are those who will treasure the memory , perhaps like her mum as she had walked the final journey with the deceased. TS may not realised what she is missing or what she is talking .. One thing we all agree is that she shouldn't had called her mother stupid ... hope you realised your mistake and make up with your mum ....
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