CONFUSED??
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There is this guy who call me almost everynight to chat for already half a year. He isn't going after me, at least he din sound to be when we chat. I also told him that it is impossible between us.
But he has been sending me messages like 'i luv u' and 'miss u always'. I'm really confused now!? Wat does he want actually?? From my past experience, i have never seen a guy who purely want to be friends wif me to call me everynight for six months. -
well, wat he wants is pretty obvious isn't it? and how u feel abt this, u shld noe urself. Judging from what u said, the facts are pretty obvious, and u aren't confused, jus that u are not willing to say the final words "i dun like u, get off my back", sometimes, it pays to be a jerk, pardon me
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From what you say... I think he does like you... but refuses to admit becos he knows you will reject him...hehee you can say that he is a fighter...and refuses to give you up becos he thinks that you and him are meant to be...
Trust your heart belle and if you think he just isn't your type, then tell him to stop. If he persist...hehee then i think you have got yourself a stalker...although i pray that , that does not happen.
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love is painful
that is true
not to love is painful too;
but there is a greater pain:
to love and not be loved again
May GOD BLESS YOU!!!
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In your service,
Dragonlance -
I'm very open in expressing myself to my friends. i also frequently message my ger friends 'i luv u' and 'miss u' cos i think that it is very sweet to do so and will also bring our friendship even closer. So i was wondering if this guy is just like me who is also very open in expressing himself.
My second doubt is that if he is really interested in me, why din he tell me anything when we are chatting almost every day for so long.
I am just worried that i will hurt another guy's heart. But how can i tell him straight that i dun like him when he din even personally tell me that he like me. He only mention those words through messaging. Anyway i already told him b4 that it is impossible between us. -
Its pretty obvious ger, tat tis guy is interested in u...so dun hesitate to make ur stand clear if u tinks tat e both of u are impossible...
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<<<<KnOwLeDgE iS tHe AnTiDoTe To fEaR>>>> -
Speaking from a guy's point of view... The reason he just wouldn't tell you straight is because he is scared that you will reject him... It is just that simple but still a very big issue to a guy.
You... a suppose have to still tell him that He and you can never be... striaght to the point and no "beating around the bush". It will hurt him yes... but you have no other way.
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May GOD BLESS U!!!!!
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In your service,
Dragonlance -
Thanx a lot Dragon, Yuki and Sec!
I really appreciate ur comments and advice. -
Well, love is a miracle created when both parties have mutual feelings, but not only when one party is willing. As to a situation whereby he likes she and she like him too...i guess its as diff as genna'ing JACKPORT...abit skeptical..but i guess..thatz the hard fact
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from a guys point of view, there are two possibilities:
1) u said both can't work, so he can either vanished (is that what u want??) or keep in touch with u in hope time will change u...
2) maybe he's not very sure about himself too, just don't wanna to lose u, at least for that friendship
however, only he knows what he is doing...what u can do is either continue the friendship as if both are purely friends or avoid him totally.... -
Actually i'm quite selfish,i continue chatting with him b'cos i din want to lose him as a friend. Maybe u r right, it could be he don't even know what he really want.
[This message has been edited by Belle (edited 23 May 2000).] -
His feelings may be similar to mine --> as in another post : "guess its a struggle to express to ur so called good friend at the risk of jeophardizing the friendship (cos things would neber be the same again) or just endure the agony of meeting up with her now and then, loving her with all ur heart but knowing that she can just be a good friend, and nuthing else, thus keeping mum abt the whole issue. Irony in life"
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hmm shake him off... obvious he is those desperado types.... better be careful than to be sorry.....
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i am a hardcore Metallic! No pain no Glory!!!!! -
belle
i think u just wan a bf's attention but not a bf right
its very obvious tat this guy is interested in u
the reason why he never said out clearly is because he is afraid of ur rejection
like wat dragon said
and i don think he is a despo guy
if he is
will he bother to spend half a yr toking to someone like u (no offence)
he could have got many other gers within tat half a yr
other easier ones
but he didn
he persisted on
because he believes tat u are the only one for him
i can understand his feelings now
because i have been doing the same thing
the difference is tat i did say out my feelings....
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ITCH: u dun look happy? But dun worry, keep on trying if u failed. Most gers like sincere guys, touch her with your heart.
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Just treat him as normal. Dont be confused because of this of what. Friends can also love and miss each other in a certain way.
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lighter: i also used to think this way. Just hope tt u r right.
[This message has been edited by Belle (edited 05 June 2000).] -
belle if gers like sincere guys i wont have failed twice....
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ITCH: dont filter the average and ugly ones....usually they are very nice to be with. Most of all they havent been really into too much relationship. Hee...so sincerity still works on them.
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if this topic is still on ... i would like to add That Belle .. please let him know once again ... that you don't like him and stuff... if he continues to say i love you and other things ... forget him ... it's obvious he likes you and will keep on pursueing ... if you still continue talking to him ... he'll keep on thinking that there's a chance ... and he'll keep on calling and hoping .... so tell him straight ...
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The night is near and dawn is coming... I Lay awake on my bed thinking of you... I wonder ... when will we meet again ? When will we talk once more ? I Know my love to you is deep and true ... but i wonder how you feel for me ... -
Belle: think u have to make your point clear to him.
Have a tok with him.
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To me, he's just a lame idiot. A little bit of creativity blended with a little bit of flair, bravo he's got u. But to aim for the traditional, to implement the traditional, to actually carry out the traditional wooing techniques just because of the tendency to succeed...my that's lame.
pls ask him to do better and he might just get you. you're not confused, you're just disappointed by his attempts. demand a car from him -
Belle: do u feel anything 4 the guy? If not, tell him straight in the face. It's better 4 the 2 of u. It may hurt the poor guy but u can make this clear tat the 2 of u can oni be frenz... It's definitely better than 2 keep quiet abt how u feel abt him... Hurts even more if u dun tell him how u feel abt him... (for the guy, tat is... :þ)
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