How do you trust such a person?
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As quoted: How would you know if your girlfriend or wife is lying to you all along? How do you tell?
Hmmm.. like she can say and do everything so sweet, treat you very nice, give you sex, tell you about her life and past, share with you whatever shit, and she declares she loves and misses you constantly.
But your gut feeling tells you that she's gonna leave you anytime. And it makes you feel that your r/s is just another game, and you're one of the many guys.
How do you trust such a person?
And she's so horny that it seems like she can just fuck around, but she tells you that she'll only have sex with you - the one she loves.
- Asking on behalf of my guy friend.
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you can tell your friend not to bother with trust and leave her as a sex buddy
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more of... can you trust yourself?
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but don't u think such a person is so difficult to trust?
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that's if you're assuming if she has a bad background.
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what do you mean by 'such a person' ?
You mean she treats you too nice, that it's difficult to trust? Too good to believe, too good to be true that kind of thang?
And she's so horny that it seems like she can just fuck around, but she tells you that she'll only have sex with you - the one she loves.
This one is kinda funny.. maybe your friend prefer someone who is not horny or at all and even reject sex from your friend. That way, your friend will feel secure.
I think it has to do with your friend's confidence level and trust issue. Nothing to do with the girl. Does your friend have a bad experience or something? That made him hard to trust someone who treat him nice.
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Ask and ye shall be given.
Tell her that you don't trust her.
See what she says. -
To Lorry: He's the kind who is pretty cynical and skeptical and finds it difficult to trust others. There's sex between them, pretty regular but wonders if he's just another sex equipment.
Anyway, the girl is older than him by 5 yrs. He's a young bloke aged 21. She's from M'sia and he's a Singaporean. He loves her but is understandably somwhat bochap about her (to a certain degree) due to his seemingly nonchalant attitude towards almost everything and everyone.
He wonders if he's a rebound guy (or at least being treated as one), as the girl's ex came from the same office as him, and she broke up with her ex & then 2-3 mths later went on with my friend. The ex-bf has since left the company. Btw, she's the kind who gets over her ex-es pretty fast.
Do you think she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers? She's has the option to apply for SG PR or go back to M'sia once her contract ends.
Friends of him is telling him that she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers. It's like she's making use of him. He's confused. What do you think he should do? I don't wanna tell him anything, yet. Wanna gather some opinions & advices regarding ths kinda situation.
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Originally posted by Mk7:
Ask and ye shall be given.
Tell her that you don't trust her.
See what she says.
And she has thoughts of breaking up with him because it seems she is unable to love him enough due to his nonchalant attitude towards her. So how? -
just be truthful to her and tell her what you feel lor
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Originally posted by trendz:
As quoted: How would you know if your girlfriend or wife is lying to you all along? How do you tell?
Hmmm.. like she can say and do everything so sweet, treat you very nice, give you sex, tell you about her life and past, share with you whatever shit, and she declares she loves and misses you constantly.
But your gut feeling tells you that she's gonna leave you anytime. And it makes you feel that your r/s is just another game, and you're one of the many guys.
How do you trust such a person?
And she's so horny that it seems like she can just fuck around, but she tells you that she'll only have sex with you - the one she loves.
- Asking on behalf of my guy friend.
there's no evidence that she's cheating on you.. it's just paranoia.. but i agree that there is always that possibility that she's cheating. there is always a possibility la. it all boils down to character, trust and don't jump at shadow when there's no evidence.
when u're in a relationship, u're already putting your heart at risk of being hurt. if you cannot risk, then don't be in a relationship i guess.
just tell your friend, to just trust her, until that trust is broken with evidence lor.
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Originally posted by dumbdumb!:
there's no evidence that she's cheating on you.. it's just paranoia.. but i agree that there is always that possibility that she's cheating. there is always a possibility la. it all boils down to character, trust and don't jump at shadow when there's no evidence.
when u're in a relationship, u're already putting your heart at risk of being hurt. if you cannot risk, then don't be in a relationship i guess.
just tell your friend, to just trust her, until that trust is broken with evidence lor.
He's the kind who is pretty cynical and skeptical and finds it difficult to trust others. There's sex between them, pretty regular but wonders if he's just another sex equipment.Anyway, the girl is older than him by 5 yrs. He's a young bloke aged 21. She's from M'sia and he's a Singaporean. He loves her but is understandably somwhat bochap about her (to a certain degree) due to his seemingly nonchalant attitude towards almost everything and everyone.
He wonders if he's a rebound guy (or at least being treated as one), as the girl's ex came from the same office as him, and she broke up with her ex & then 2-3 mths later went on with my friend. The ex-bf has since left the company. Btw, she's the kind who gets over her ex-es pretty fast.
Do you think she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers? She's has the option to apply for SG PR or go back to M'sia once her contract ends.
Friends of him is telling him that she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers. It's like she's making use of him. He's confused. What do you think he should do? I don't wanna tell him anything, yet. Wanna gather some opinions & advices regarding ths kinda situation.
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Originally posted by trendz:
As quoted: How would you know if your girlfriend or wife is lying to you all along? How do you tell?
Hmmm.. like she can say and do everything so sweet, treat you very nice, give you sex, tell you about her life and past, share with you whatever shit, and she declares she loves and misses you constantly.
But your gut feeling tells you that she's gonna leave you anytime. And it makes you feel that your r/s is just another game, and you're one of the many guys.
How do you trust such a person?
And she's so horny that it seems like she can just fuck around, but she tells you that she'll only have sex with you - the one she loves.
- Asking on behalf of my guy friend.
Are you sure you're not asking for your own behalf?Are you sure you're not the guy friend in your story?
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can understand ur fren's fears, cos she got tog wif him quite soon after her previous bf.
but look at this way, ur fren got together with her out of his own free will. if he is so worried abt being the rebound guy, then why did he get together wif her in the first place? why did he even have sex wif her? he also made use of her in tt sense right?
maybe ask ur fren to consider her character: does she lie to him often? asks him to buy her expensive things? wants him to do a lot of things for her, but doesn't do much in return?
if it's yes for any of the above... and at the moment, ur fren really feels tt she is not trustworthy, and might leave him once her contract is up, then there's no meaning in the rs already right? might as well break up now.
if he still wants to be wif her, why not he stop having sex wif her first, but reassure her tt she is still the only one for him. and then try to find out fr her where she tinks their rs is going in the future.
cos sex confuses things... if they stop having sex for a few mths, things will be clearer. and ur fren will also know whether she really likes him. if she doesn't and is just making use of him, she will go for someone else once he doesn't give her what she wants.
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since your fren is asking about the trusting part already...
i think it shld end since trust is not there anymore
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Originally posted by trendz:
He's the kind who is pretty cynical and skeptical and finds it difficult to trust others. There's sex between them, pretty regular but wonders if he's just another sex equipment.Anyway, the girl is older than him by 5 yrs. He's a young bloke aged 21. She's from M'sia and he's a Singaporean. He loves her but is understandably somwhat bochap about her (to a certain degree) due to his seemingly nonchalant attitude towards almost everything and everyone.
He wonders if he's a rebound guy (or at least being treated as one), as the girl's ex came from the same office as him, and she broke up with her ex & then 2-3 mths later went on with my friend. The ex-bf has since left the company. Btw, she's the kind who gets over her ex-es pretty fast.
Do you think she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers? She's has the option to apply for SG PR or go back to M'sia once her contract ends.
Friends of him is telling him that she's gettin' on with him just to fill that void of hers. It's like she's making use of him. He's confused. What do you think he should do? I don't wanna tell him anything, yet. Wanna gather some opinions & advices regarding ths kinda situation.
if he is afraid of taking risks, then break up, if not, stay on lor.
is he more afraid of being lonely or is he more afraid that he might be being used by her more?
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ooo.. this knid of girl eh.. ;p
need some skillz to pay the billz man... he he
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Well, break then... since your friend cannot trust his gf then what's the use of holding on? for the free sex?
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repay her with the same amount of trust she gives you.
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Originally posted by trendz:
As quoted: How would you know if your girlfriend or wife is lying to you all along? How do you tell?
Hmmm.. like she can say and do everything so sweet, treat you very nice, give you sex, tell you about her life and past, share with you whatever shit, and she declares she loves and misses you constantly.
But your gut feeling tells you that she's gonna leave you anytime. And it makes you feel that your r/s is just another game, and you're one of the many guys.
How do you trust such a person?
And she's so horny that it seems like she can just fuck around, but she tells you that she'll only have sex with you - the one she loves.
- Asking on behalf of my guy friend.
Your friend is willing to choose to trust his gut feeling over the gf/wife?? wth.
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An idle mind is the devil's workshop.
He has nothing better to do. He does not trust himself in the first place.
When a person is strong in himself/herself, he/she won't be paranoid.
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a similar question to urs is answered here: http://www.flowerpod.com.sg/forums/index.php?showtopic=74396
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spend enough time with the person and you'll know what he/she is like. Then make the decision.
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hmmm.. do you believe that the third-party or friends' perception from outside of the situation/relationship that 2 involved parties are in is almost always true?
That is, for example, me and some other friends tell him that she is gonna leave him once her contract is up and return to m'sia, don't hurt yourself, faster end the r/s. Her treating-you-well is just a smokescreen. She is seeking to fill that void, and you're that rebound guy. It all makes sense, but he is simply bochap or maybe he is already aware but kept our advice at the back of his mind.
What do you think he should do? Or me and my friends should do?
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hmmm.. do you believe that the third-party or friends' perception from outside of the situation/relationship that 2 involved parties are in is almost always true?
That is, for example, me and some other friends tell him that she is gonna leave him once her contract is up and return to m'sia, don't hurt yourself, faster end the r/s. Her treating-you-well is just a smokescreen. She is seeking to fill that void, and you're that rebound guy. It all makes sense, but he is simply bochap or maybe he is already aware but kept our advice at the back of his mind.
What do you think he should do? Or me and my friends should do?