what would you if you are in my shoes
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Wait.... what do you like about him in the first place?
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As much as u love him..u should have realised that it is hard for him to change..so unless, u can accept him for who he is..his flaws & everything..if not, it will be better if u leave him..
it might be painful for u to let go of him initially..but, u will get over it sooner or later..time will heal everything =)
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"he also admit to the statement that if i was a pretty girl, he would not treat me like this. that makes me wonder why is he with me in the first place?"
I also wonder why you're still with him after he said that. women!
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Originally posted by min_min:
i have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. during this 6 months, he has been breaking a lot of promises. each time i forgive him because i thought that he would learn from his mistakes.
he lie abt a lot of things, until to the point i dun knoe wat is real and what is unreal. he is self-centred and thinks that he is the center of the whole world.
he treats his friends better than he treat me. we go dutch all the time. i understand that at that point of time, he is still clearing his debts. but now that he has cleared finish, he still go dutch with me and keep saying he's on budget. i do not wish to eat expensive food, but at least when we go out, just want to be pampered by him. is it wrong of me to even want that?
he also admit to the statement that if i was a pretty girl, he would not treat me like this. that makes me wonder why is he with me in the first place?
he is obviously not mature in his thinking, and a show-off in what he say and what he do.
i thought of us just remaining as friends once again and let nature takes its course from there. if i'm going to marry such a guy, i cannot imagine what would happening. am i not being understanding enough?
what would you do if you are in my shoes?
It also makes me wonder why you STILL wanna be with him anyway?
As per ur post, havent you oready make ur decision? Y still ask? -
Life is short, it's a big ocean full of fish out there, dump him and move on with your life.
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guy sld be paying when going out with gers, agree
but sometimes gers sld maybe help to pay a little?
e.g Guy buy movie tix, ger offer to buy pop corn kinda thing..
unless the guy is gold mine, if not hes gonna be dry very fast lol....
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I had the same situation as you. But mine worse, he even ignored me and don't even try to contact me at all. He only contact me when he needs help or when he's bored. Life have been miserable for me and I cried almost everynight because I realised he don't even care.
Until recently, on our second month, I was waiting for him to say " happy 2 months baby " to me, however, something unexpected (or should I say expected) happened. He decided to break up with me and giving me excuses like " I don't want to hurt you more".
After the break up, i cried terribly, partly is because I love him too much and don't wanna lose him. I also realised he actually woo others girls while being with me. In another words, I'm cheated. But now, thinking back, I realised, I shouldnt even hold on to me because he don't even cherish me and I know there's better guys out there who are willing to cherish me more then he do.
If you don't even feel happy with ur current bf, why carry on?
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break up
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ow, pain.
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break up
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truth hurts. he's not worth it.
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If i were u i break up with him and find another bf that suit mi!!
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Originally posted by Scania N113CRB l0v3r:
If i were u i break up with him and find another bf that suit mi!!
suit you?
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Originally posted by xstryker:
suit you?
Somehow, I find Scania N113CRB l0v3r's sentence wrong too...
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Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:
Somehow, I find Scania N113CRB l0v3r's sentence wrong too...
Re edited : If i were u , i will break up with him and find another bf that i liked.
Plz Note If I were u (in chinese ru guo wo shi ni) -
in terms of gg dutch or not gg dutch, it depends on the couple themselves & whether the boy/girl is able to accept --> diff ppl diff views.
as for him saying that things gonna be diff if u are a pretty gal --> u ever thot of --> if one day, a pretty gal like him, wanna be with him --> will he forsake u, and be with the gal?
guys dun normally treat their gfs differently according to their looks if they really love them in the first place.
they may treat their frenz / strangers that way, but his own gf?
Just have a few days off, cool down and think over the relationship --> from how u all know each other, got together, all the way till now --> mayb u'll get an answer urself.
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ask him to fk off yur life n get a better man.
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I think he is very rude to say that if you are a prettier girl, he would treat you better. This is very rude, extremely rude. You should just break off from him.
Spend some time thinking and evaluating....and if you have come to a conclusion...take action, just break off.....trust me you can find other guys out there......and since you have experienced a very low quality guy, the next one is likely to be better....law of statistics....
OK good luck.
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What I want to type is as what others typed.
Plus...
Maybe you should really re-evaluate him as a person first before evaluating him as someone who is meant to be closer.
Furthermore you said 'not long ago'. hence you might have rushed things abit, no? -
I'm not talking in terms of experience but instead in my own point of view.
You do not deserve the treatment that you're getting now, needless to say you're his GF. Whats the point of continuing this relationship if it makes you sad or down all the time? Like what the others say, don't waste your years on him.
Whenever I'm out with the girl that I like, I'll request to foot the bills unless she doesn't want to, so we either go dutch or we'll pay for each other on different occasions.
Good luck in your decision!
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Get him to sit down and try to work out this relationship bah. Tell him how you truly feel about all that he has done and try to work a solution together.
But in my opinion, he isnt fit to be your boyfriend.
Who would ever say that if his girlfriend is prettier, he would treat her better? What kind of absurd reasoning is that?
Since he wanted to be with you in the first place, he shouldn't have said all these hurtful things to you.
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I think you know what you should do, it's a matter of whether u have the heart to do it...or rather you are just waitin for him to end it so it makes it easier for u to handle it..
You can think forever and question yourself for the longest time but things will still remain..
The more you put in, the more he will treat you like that. Why not jus take a break, and see how it goes like that..