i guess mebbe she's either still unsure about where it's all going. are u giving her pressure in the first place? might be way too soon.Originally posted by ipod:Been trying to ask this girl out but her response is kinda difficult for me to deciper.
We went out on a first date and now i would like to make it a 2nd one. But her reply does not seem encouraging even though we had a good first date.
Managed to clicked pretty well and i thought, hey, it looks like a good chance to plan for a 2nd date.
Initially, i asked if she was free this weekend, but i guess due to the fact that its CNY, visiting has to be done and that may explain why she is busy.
But my question is, do girls actually try and distance themselves and act aloof even though she would like to say yes, i would like to hang out with you?. I mean, why do they do that?
well, i am sure girls are intelligent enough to know that when guys ask them out, its basically to try and know them better and maybe see how things can develop from there.Originally posted by beetle bailey:i guess mebbe she's either still unsure about where it's all going. are u giving her pressure in the first place? might be way too soon.
just treat her as a normal friend, be there for her and see how it goes. girls, i guess, will distance themselves if they feel that the guy is stressing them out in a romantic way.
take it easy la. i think she might appreciate u more that way.![]()
You are probably right to say that.Originally posted by Unregistered:having a good time doesn't mean she has to go out again with u. Some people have more activities than others. Anyway, she may not want to give u the wrong impression by going out too regularly.
Being Aloof and trying to maintain traditional role of a woman is different. You said that the first date was successful... how sure do you think she feel the same way?Originally posted by ipod:Been trying to ask this girl out but her response is kinda difficult for me to deciper.
We went out on a first date and now i would like to make it a 2nd one. But her reply does not seem encouraging even though we had a good first date.
Managed to clicked pretty well and i thought, hey, it looks like a good chance to plan for a 2nd date.
Initially, i asked if she was free this weekend, but i guess due to the fact that its CNY, visiting has to be done and that may explain why she is busy.
But my question is, do girls actually try and distance themselves and act aloof even though she would like to say yes, i would like to hang out with you?. I mean, why do they do that?
dui dui dui....bu kui si Yun-dashi...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Being Aloof and trying to maintain traditional role of a woman is different. You said that the first date was successful... how sure do you think she feel the same way?
Sometimes even when a date is successful - unconscious to you - certain characteristic/way of doing/speaking or something you wouldn't have noticed yourself... doesn't seemed appealing OR the chemistry isn't there. Woman could remain that distance if such factors comes into place.
For example: You could feel fine with a date, but that doesn't mean that you feel that you could go on further with that guy/girl right?
Cheers
What you say do make sense. I agree that even though i thought the date went well does not mean it went well for her.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Being Aloof and trying to maintain traditional role of a woman is different. You said that the first date was successful... how sure do you think she feel the same way?
Sometimes even when a date is successful - unconscious to you - certain characteristic/way of doing/speaking or something you wouldn't have noticed yourself... doesn't seemed appealing OR the chemistry isn't there. Woman could remain that distance if such factors comes into place.
For example: You could feel fine with a date, but that doesn't mean that you feel that you could go on further with that guy/girl right?
Cheers
Hope they know when to draw the fine line else we will just go round and round in circles.Originally posted by gasband:As a guy i understand how u feel but i also think girls should indeed play a bit hard to get (but not too hard pls hahaha) or else guys when we get things too easily, we tend to take them for granted sometimes... I think u shld show some p erserverance and take effort to win this girl's heart....
I am not a priest...Originally posted by fish&chipz:dui dui dui....bu kui si Yun-dashi...![]()
Brother, whats your story?Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i having a problem like that... but i gues si'm really impatient... n anxious.. sigh.![]()
i dunno from a girl's point of view... but for me... i get aloof is cuz i cannot, and dun dare give back the same attention..Originally posted by thg7:guys r aloof too.
you try to be caring for them.
they give u the cold shoulder.![]()
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i do think like that too.Originally posted by dark_slayer79:some think that if a gal is too easy to get the guy will not cherish her
well, if you are aloof, the guy won't think that you are easily be taken adv of. He will try all his ways to seek yr attention.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i dunno from a girl's point of view... but for me... i get aloof is cuz i cannot, and dun dare give back the same attention..![]()
i'm a guyOriginally posted by thg7:well, if you are aloof, the guy won't think that you are easily be taken adv of. He will try all his ways to seek yr attention.
however, when you pay attention to the guy sometimes, he will in turn get aloof too.
sorry abt that. i tot u r a gal.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i'm a guy
But, when will the stage of being aloof stop? I mean, if the guy tries and tries but meets up with resistance, he might just get the message that the girl is just not interested.Originally posted by thg7:well, if you are aloof, the guy won't think that you are easily be taken adv of. He will try all his ways to seek yr attention.
however, when you pay attention to the guy sometimes, he will in turn get aloof too.
this is wad is happening to mi rite nwOriginally posted by thg7:well, if you are aloof, the guy won't think that you are easily be taken adv of. He will try all his ways to seek yr attention.
however, when you pay attention to the guy sometimes, he will in turn get aloof too.
well, if u play hard to get....... it either give the guy impression tat u are avoiding him n he give up..Originally posted by ipod:But, when will the stage of being aloof stop? I mean, if the guy tries and tries but meets up with resistance, he might just get the message that the girl is just not interested.
Do know when to draw a line?