need to know what he thinks
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Just need a opinion and views on the following case......
I get to know a guy from my msn and we start to msn, sms and calling each other for the past 3 months. He has been calling me every morning ( only weekdays only ) just to chat. And now if he does not call , i will feel very uneasy.at 1 time, i have confront him and asked him why does he called every morning? he said that he called me for chat and asking me whether is it affecting me? am i thinking too much ? after that day, he stop calling me and seldom msn me.
So lately, he started to call/sms me again but this time round, the feeling is kinda of different. it like we feel more closer than ever and we even talk more.
But one thing strange, he does not initiate to ask me out.
so what u gals think and what should i do?
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Describe him.
I suspect he might be lacking in the confidence department to make the move; to put it crudely, the one playing the 'guy' role suffers from fear of rejection most of the time.
If you're interested to take this friendship to the next level, why not take the initiatitive?
(Other thoughts came my mind, but I kept reminding myself to be less cynical)
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get yourself a telepathesis den go read his mind.
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you how old ?
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crocodile, buaya, wadever u call it. nah. . juz jk. . .
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Originally posted by trapper:
Just need a opinion and views on the following case......
I get to know a guy from my msn and we start to msn, sms and calling each other for the past 3 months. He has been calling me every morning ( only weekdays only ) just to chat. And now if he does not call , i will feel very uneasy.at 1 time, i have confront him and asked him why does he called every morning? he said that he called me for chat and asking me whether is it affecting me? am i thinking too much ? after that day, he stop calling me and seldom msn me.
So lately, he started to call/sms me again but this time round, the feeling is kinda of different. it like we feel more closer than ever and we even talk more.
But one thing strange, he does not initiate to ask me out.
so what u gals think and what should i do?
Do you like him?If not, treat him as a friend and don't be bothered by him.
Yes I agree guys are irritating most of the times, especially when they don't know what they are doing too.
Don't be surprised to know that 99.99% of the guys out there probably don't know what they are doing when they are with the girl that they liked.
So girls always need to guide those dumb guys and help them to go after ourselves.
Without enough consenting women to be involved in some form of relationship with a guy, the guy can never become a womanizer.
Guys should just wake up and start paying attention to their outlook and appearances, if they want to attract girls and if they need to attract girls.
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morning? Why not night? Morning no work/school?
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Whats the problem?
Just continue msn, sms, chit chat every morning lah.
You owned him already ah.
need to know what you are think
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pardon me.. but I tend to prepare for the worst... so the worst case scenerio: he has a list of girls to call and you happen to be in the "morning shift".
Then again..
some guys are terribly shy and sensitive. Fear of rejection and unsure of what you are thinking.
More importantly, do you like him? If not, just be friends ba. If yes, are you brining the friendship to the next level?
Out of curiousity, do you call him at other time?
hmmm... absence makes the hearts fonder? hahah..anyway.. good for you la. Just continue to chat, msn ...etc until he is comfortable to ask u out? or you drop a hint to him? I go with the flow. no stress =)
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to : Detached
yes he has failed relationship before and i believe that he is lacking confidence coz of this. i dun deny the fact that there is pros and cons to this issue but i need to seek more advice on this. maybe u can tell me about it.
to : parn
there is liking for him but then gals can't possibly make the move....maybe i am more reserved type of person. maybe should give it a try....hahahaha
to : kirei 2
sometimes he will sms/call during office hour and after work.
well hate the process of waiting....just do not like the feeling....am i too kan cheong?
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o i c...
that means you kinda have feeling for him?
aiya.. why not juz meet for lunch?
Do u know where he is working? You can try this while he calls you in the morning:
"Hi, I am going to wxyz place to shopping (whatever excuse). And it happens to be near ur workplace.. so I am thinking can we meet for lunch?" or just ask him whether he is free to meet for lunch.
and he better has very good reasons e.g. I am having lunch meeting with GM or CEO to reject you, cuz you took the initiative to ask him.
If he rejects, it is time for you to reconsider...
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Originally posted by trapper:
to : Detached
yes he has failed relationship before and i believe that he is lacking confidence coz of this. i dun deny the fact that there is pros and cons to this issue but i need to seek more advice on this. maybe u can tell me about it.
to : parn
there is liking for him but then gals can't possibly make the move....maybe i am more reserved type of person. maybe should give it a try....hahahaha
to : kirei 2
sometimes he will sms/call during office hour and after work.
well hate the process of waiting....just do not like the feeling....am i too kan cheong?
There's nothing wrong if you don't make the move.I also don't make the move, I just make sure there are some faint rumours about my "secret lliking" around him.
Of course, girls cannot and should not make any move towards a guy.
That would be soo unladylike and unthinkable in my Grandmother's opinion.
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Dont mind me saying this.....but dont put too much hope on internet relationships...
If you are really comfortable with him....then the next step is to meet up.
If you have never met face-to-face, dont believe in any internet relationship....it is fake.
So if u can meet up, then meet up and see.
If u cannot meet up, dont put too much attention into it.
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I'd assume you didn't enjoy the guessing game, and from what you said, you do have feelings for him.
Why not intitate the first move by asking him out then? Some girls I know like to play 'hard to get' so the guy will treasure her more. However, opportunities like this may not happen often, and I'm pretty certain you wouldn't want to regret later.
Another thing is, if he's sincere about the friendship or simply comfortable talking to you, he wouldn't avoid you just because you asked him out. Maybe during the conversation, you could mention a movie that you really want to watch etc...
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Originally posted by trapper:
Just need a opinion and views on the following case......
I get to know a guy from my msn and we start to msn, sms and calling each other for the past 3 months. He has been calling me every morning ( only weekdays only ) just to chat. And now if he does not call , i will feel very uneasy.at 1 time, i have confront him and asked him why does he called every morning? he said that he called me for chat and asking me whether is it affecting me? am i thinking too much ? after that day, he stop calling me and seldom msn me.
So lately, he started to call/sms me again but this time round, the feeling is kinda of different. it like we feel more closer than ever and we even talk more.
But one thing strange, he does not initiate to ask me out.
so what u gals think and what should i do?
hes jz now into u yet? frens 4 now... -
Originally posted by trapper:
Just need a opinion and views on the following case......
I get to know a guy from my msn and we start to msn, sms and calling each other for the past 3 months. He has been calling me every morning ( only weekdays only ) just to chat. And now if he does not call , i will feel very uneasy.at 1 time, i have confront him and asked him why does he called every morning? he said that he called me for chat and asking me whether is it affecting me? am i thinking too much ? after that day, he stop calling me and seldom msn me.
So lately, he started to call/sms me again but this time round, the feeling is kinda of different. it like we feel more closer than ever and we even talk more.
But one thing strange, he does not initiate to ask me out. so what u gals think and what should i do?
You feel uneasy is bcos he entered your life(mentally)..Routine mah..
He "disappear" for awhile then appear again.(Make you yearn for him,when he come back hook you in your mind more)
Where will hv cat no eat fish.. be prepared..if that guy is what comes to my mind now.. he is using his tactics & stratagie..He is a player...BUT again, mayb is think too much.
You can also go with your heart & jio him come out, see how is him actually lor..but personelly, you see his good 1st, then slowely see his bad.
OR
You can play along wait till he jio you out.