Duno where it goes from here
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Been with a girl i truly love and care for alot for 9mths now.She's always been the motivation and drive for me to look forward to tml and do well at work.We had always been very close.She would always stayed over at my house during weekends and im just happy to be in our little world.We went thru alot and always come back stronger.Both of us had always did something wrong to each another but somehow we managed to stay thks to our strong love and promises.I had promised her that i'll make her mine forever,till now it still stand.(i'm 20 btw)
She went into a new sch and hasnt been doing very well in it.I wished that i could helped but her course isnt wat i understand.Furthermore in that course,there isnt much girls so most of her 'better' frens are guys.She has always been the outgoing type,she's a Leo.I accepted it.But as a cancer that i am,its kinda hard to accept the fact that she calls and msgs him late at nite etc.She calls him KorKor and treats him like one from what she says.I understand and accepted the fact of that.He too calls her mei mei fyi
We had problems recently and she would tell him what happened between us.So he noes quite abit bout us.Once,she told me that he confessed that he had a crunch on her,that she's cute and everything and that he felt special when she's with him.I was glad that she told him that she has a bf and everything and would not do anything rite now.She had told me tat he's a very sweet person and all and treats him only like a Kor.But when i ask him what if he woos u,who would she choose.She said she doesnt noe.
Furthermore,we had a big argue and he chose to use tat to his opportunity and tell her that.Ever though he did told her to stay with me.I feel that he's just trying to put out an act just in front of her.I dun noe.
She will have 2 more years with her bunch of classmates and i've been spending not much time with her.(only once every few days) I trust her not to betray me and she assured with me now that she only wanna concentrate on her declining studies. She's just too important for me to lose her.But im afraid i will lose her one day.Or issit the fact that im thinking too much? Im prepared to tell him off one day if he step forward and cross the line. I might lose some battles but i aint gonna lose the war. -
trust her more will you?
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but thing is she told she wont leave me too
but the doubt in her mind when i ask her who will she choose if tat happen,she doesnt noe. Why?? -
she's 19 from ngee ann poly?
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no
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Go out more with her. Like sending her to school. (studying together...?)
Let the whole school knows you two are an item!
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thing is her class noes! i followed her to sch and stuffs with her frens. but cos of that,they seldom tok to her and as a Leo,she doesnt like it and asked me not to be with her when she's with her frens. I respect them and trust so i stepped back. I just dun get it
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strum, the greater the fear of losing something, the more likely you'll lose it.
Girls can sense insecurity, and it will make the limited time you have with her unpleasant. Don't become her emotional burden, she's probably frustrated about how to assure you now.
I'll say have more confidence in the relationship. What's yours will be yours, if you feel and show that you are optimistic about your relationship, it may make things easier for both of you to breathe.
Good luck!
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seriously, why the hell do you believe so much in horoscope?
and ya. i agree with Kren. Girls can sense insecurity. So, please have more confidence her.
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Originally posted by strum:
Been with a girl i truly love and care for alot for 9mths now.She's always been the motivation and drive for me to look forward to tml and do well at work.We had always been very close.She would always stayed over at my house during weekends and im just happy to be in our little world.We went thru alot and always come back stronger.Both of us had always did something wrong to each another but somehow we managed to stay thks to our strong love and promises.I had promised her that i'll make her mine forever,till now it still stand.(i'm 20 btw)
She went into a new sch and hasnt been doing very well in it.I wished that i could helped but her course isnt wat i understand.Furthermore in that course,there isnt much girls so most of her 'better' frens are guys.She has always been the outgoing type,she's a Leo.I accepted it.But as a cancer that i am,its kinda hard to accept the fact that she calls and msgs him late at nite etc.She calls him KorKor and treats him like one from what she says.I understand and accepted the fact of that.He too calls her mei mei fyi
We had problems recently and she would tell him what happened between us.So he noes quite abit bout us.Once,she told me that he confessed that he had a crunch on her,that she's cute and everything and that he felt special when she's with him.I was glad that she told him that she has a bf and everything and would not do anything rite now.She had told me tat he's a very sweet person and all and treats him only like a Kor.But when i ask him what if he woos u,who would she choose.She said she doesnt noe.
Furthermore,we had a big argue and he chose to use tat to his opportunity and tell her that.Ever though he did told her to stay with me.I feel that he's just trying to put out an act just in front of her.I dun noe.
She will have 2 more years with her bunch of classmates and i've been spending not much time with her.(only once every few days) I trust her not to betray me and she assured with me now that she only wanna concentrate on her declining studies. She's just too important for me to lose her.But im afraid i will lose her one day.Or issit the fact that im thinking too much? Im prepared to tell him off one day if he step forward and cross the line. I might lose some battles but i aint gonna lose the war.
We know that you loved this girl.But the question that you need to find out for yourself is.....
DOES SHE ALSO FEEL THE SAME ABOUT YOU?
It seems to me that although you claimed to love this girl, but you have absolutely no idea whether she loves you or not.
If you had any clue about how she felt about you, whether it is true or false...you won't have so little faith in your relationship. Girls can lie easily, but it's up to you to find out the truth and the lie.
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if not compatible means not compatible.
she go engrg izit?
coz results lousy?
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dude...
how bout this...
just let her be... do every normally...
like maybe go out with her every weekend or wat... ANYTHING THAT YOU BOTH USUALLY DO!!!!!
just continue normally... happily... ask no more bout her and that rival...
if one day.. she comes and ask u bout this problem.. just tell her u trust her, u love her, doesnt wan to lose her and because of these... u chose to entrust ur whole heart to her..
if one day... she comes and tells u she had been with that kor kor in a relationship, then just give up on her.. thats because, she can easily go with another person when u love her so much... which means she is not as committed in this relationship as much as u commit... or rather, she doesnt match u, or rather she is not good enough for u..
just my 2 cents worth..
IA
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the fear of every guy is when his gf says "dunnoe"
it will haunt every guy and render him to become pessimistic...
you need to get control over yourself..."dunnoe" is like a deadly trigger word it could make any guy go crazy...
dun think about it...go on with her pace, dun drag her too much to go on the speed you want to go...
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Haiz..this may not sound nice or pleasing.. but the fact is that as a guy you should know how to let go and end the relationship when the times calls for it
U must know how to let go..sometimes the decision or choices dont just lie with u, its with her
It hurts, but really.. there is nothing you can do..
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You don't love her, you love yourself.
And she doesn't love you either.
Delusions... Sigh...
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Really. You should just let her be.
Judging from the way she calls other people, I'd say she's pretty much immature. This girl still calls people 'KorKor', for pete's sake! She's really the epitome of immaturity. I mean, how many of the girls you know still indulge themselves in silly fantasies as such?
She treats him only as a 'Kor'? Honestly, what does she think this is? Some emotional Korean drama?
By the way, you should lay off those horoscpes. It ain't doing any good. -
Originally posted by Vendettus:
Really. You should just let her be.
Judging from the way she calls other people, I'd say she's pretty much immature. This girl still calls people 'KorKor', for pete's sake! She's really the epitome of immaturity. I mean, how many of the girls you know still indulge themselves in silly fantasies as such?
She treats him only as a 'Kor'? Honestly, what does she think this is? Some emotional Korean drama?
By the way, you should lay off those horoscpes. It ain't doing any good.
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aiyo bro. if u lose her ... means 2 of u not meant to be together. means ... her loss ! u're the prize why u worry so much ???
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Have confidence in urself dude!
If worst come 2 worst , move on
nan zi han da zhang fu na de qi fang de xia
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good advice
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A bird is never meant to be kept in the cage. Even a guilded one. Birds must be free in order to appreciate the beauty of them blending into nature, giving you great joy.
So must love be not kept caged in order that you may experience true happiness.
You are attempting to cage her, akin to holding water in your hands. You still have a beautiful relationship with her. Don't make that terrible mistake MOST men do, and that is to CAGE her. She will feel stifled and in time get bored being caged by you, no matter how good you may think you treat her. Ultimately, she will fly away.
Let her have her friends and party all she likes. If she truly loves you, her heart belongs to you, no matter whose hand she holds or lips she kisses. Being young means making mistakes, it is perfectly normal and ok,You both are not married yet, do remember. And true love is more than skin deep. She and you are not objects to be admired and then put away back on the shelf when bored.
As long as you both are not married, it is ALWAYS best to be friends. Aim to be the one whom she will come running to, not someone else as she is doing now. Win her trust and love, not by being a prison warden, but a forest ranger who keeps the beauty of nature free.
The happiest couples are those whom married as friends and not as prisoners to each other.
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well, instead of whining like a sixteen-year old girl on an online forum, to people who obviously don't sincerely give a damn what happens to you. why don't you take the time to CALL her now and just chat with her?
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The keyword is 'trust'.
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Lets go for the worst case.
If one day she tells you she is sick of you and leaves you, what will you do?
Cry and sulk around?
But if you are prepare for it then is different.
To TS always have gal friends around, since your gf is always busy with her school guy friends, you can have gal friends too right?
Never ever put too much love on someone who has shown signs of uncertainty in a relationship.
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