Why did still do that?
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u like her anot?Originally posted by fabio9999:i do feel lonely at times, i will msg her and even call her up. but after i do that i will question myself why do i do that when i do like the way she is treating me?
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unfortunately i dun have e experience to give him e ans...Originally posted by Parka:
Yeah. Where's the expert when you need him??
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yes, i think i subcousciously like this girl but i dun like the way she treat me. i might be too lonely that why i resolve to her. u think i can break this funny relationship cleanly and clearly, PLS helpOriginally posted by duotiga83:sounds like ur problem quite complicated in some sense....
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Wait for Super Uncle Agony to reply to you......heheh. Seems that he's not online at the moment. We are just crappers, not of much help.
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yes, i think i subcousciously like this girl but i dun like the way she treat me. i might be too lonely that why i resolve to her. u think i can break this funny relationship cleanly and clearly, PLS helpOriginally posted by duotiga83:sounds like ur problem quite complicated in some sense.... -
Originally posted by fabio9999:yes, i think i subcousciously like this girl but i dun like the way she treat me. i might be too lonely that why i resolve to her. u think i can break this funny relationship cleanly and clearly, PLS help Too lonely? FInd something you like to do loh.
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that the problem, i dun noe if i like her anot, i like ti ask her out but i dun like the way she treat me.Originally posted by ^mm^:u like her anot? -
i really hex on what to do, if i can just noe if i truly like her. i need someone to analysis the situation and give me an idea on why am i acting this wayOriginally posted by fabio9999:that the problem, i dun noe if i like her anot, i like ti ask her out but i dun like the way she treat me. -
1 thing is confirm: u r in the state of confusion...whether wan to follow ur heart or ur mind
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if it was just loneliness that is acting on me i will just go find more frends but if i really like her i dun want to make the wrong decisionOriginally posted by duotiga83:1 thing is confirm: u r in the state of confusion...whether wan to follow ur heart or ur mind -
dun make assumptions a lot..is no gd 4 u....make up ur mind else u regret like hell....
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thanks for all the replies and ideas. i am realy greatful that so many replied to my big Q.
Many thanks to the pple from this forum.
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if i really make a mistake is there anyway of a second chance?Originally posted by duotiga83:dun make assumptions a lot..is no gd 4 u....make up ur mind else u regret like hell.... -
u realli ned to ask the pro..but the pro is not here.....i dun have this kind of experience yet.....r/s to mi is pretty new ....Originally posted by fabio9999:if i really make a mistake is there anyway of a second chance? -
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now that i am clear that i really like her but i dun like the way she treat me. do u think it is possible to change her. i heard from many frends that u can`t change a girl, it is the hardest thing in the world to do. does it mean that i must learn to accept her for what she is, is this called acceptances oe suffering in silence???
i hope there are pple out there who will like to share their experience, i am new to the GAME but i dun want to give up so easily.
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You definitely sounds INEXPERIENCED with BGR... And you're probably right about the part where you could be just plain lonesome and just looking for a partner...Originally posted by fabio9999:dated 160203
now that i am clear that i really like her but i dun like the way she treat me. do u think it is possible to change her. i heard from many frends that u can`t change a girl, it is the hardest thing in the world to do. does it mean that i must learn to accept her for what she is, is this called acceptances oe suffering in silence???
i hope there are pple out there who will like to share their experience, i am new to the GAME but i dun want to give up so easily.
What do you actually like about her...? Something physical...? Just a 'feeling'....? Is she one of the 1st female friends to have treated you better...? Bet I don't have to tell you this but you're simply CONFUSED.... You're not even certain of what you want not to mention HOW are you gonna get it...?
CHANGING her...? Yes... DIFFICULT... Even for people in a relationship... WHO do you think you are to her for her to wanna CHANGE for you...? Stop deceiving yourself... If she's willing to do just that for you, it's probably because she've got a STRONG friendship or LIKING for you..... But WAKE UP and GET SERIOUS....
CHANGING someone you don't like into someone you like... Does that sounds like LOVE to you...? If you can do that you might as well just starts with anybody on the streets and try to 'convert' her into your 'dream'...? WAKE UP..... -
Dun need 2 get so confused!
U like her, continue to go with her!
She drives U crazy? EASY
read 'The Taming of the Shrew' and adopt n apply 'taming' techniques! -
u sounded inexperienced.......
reasons that she go out with......
(1) she interested in u
(2) needs some company dun wanna stay at home(coz she have not much friends as she is dao)
(3) wants to chop a vegetable head(cai tao) because u pay her expenses etc.....
(4) thinks going out with u got face because u handsome/cool
(5) wanna play with your feelings, mislead u
all these reasons are very valid, i have personally seen all types of such girls even though i think i'm not experienced with girls compared to experts(i.e. i'm just a guy with average luck with girls)
usually, reason 3 is very easy to detect.....the rest are hard unless u probe....so 1 word be CAREFUL -
You really wake me up, maybe it true that i am too lonely.Originally posted by Devil1976:You definitely sounds INEXPERIENCED with BGR... And you're probably right about the part where you could be just plain lonesome and just looking for a partner...
What do you actually like about her...? Something physical...? Just a 'feeling'....? Is she one of the 1st female friends to have treated you better...? Bet I don't have to tell you this but you're simply CONFUSED.... You're not even certain of what you want not to mention HOW are you gonna get it...?
CHANGING her...? Yes... DIFFICULT... Even for people in a relationship... WHO do you think you are to her for her to wanna CHANGE for you...? Stop deceiving yourself... If she's willing to do just that for you, it's probably because she've got a STRONG friendship or LIKING for you..... But WAKE UP and GET SERIOUS....
CHANGING someone you don't like into someone you like... Does that sounds like LOVE to you...? If you can do that you might as well just starts with anybody on the streets and try to 'convert' her into your 'dream'...? WAKE UP.....
If i can't change her, is acceptance a better approach?
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how to tell if a girl is going out with you b'cos she wants to toy with your feeling??? wat is so fun abt it?Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:u sounded inexperienced.......
reasons that she go out with......
(1) she interested in u
(2) needs some company dun wanna stay at home(coz she have not much friends as she is dao)
(3) wants to chop a vegetable head(cai tao) because u pay her expenses etc.....
(4) thinks going out with u got face because u handsome/cool
(5) wanna play with your feelings, mislead u
all these reasons are very valid, i have personally seen all types of such girls even though i think i'm not experienced with girls compared to experts(i.e. i'm just a guy with average luck with girls)
usually, reason 3 is very easy to detect.....the rest are hard unless u probe....so 1 word be CAREFUL -
toy with your feeling, so that can boost her ego or test her skill to seduce a guy mahOriginally posted by fabio9999:how to tell if a girl is going out with you b'cos she wants to toy with your feeling??? wat is so fun abt it?
it's GOD DAMN TRUE this......
i have not meet such total a bi*ch(but tons of 1/2 bi*ches out there) but my friends did b4
bottom line.....hey......there is no bottom line man.....
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^5 i quite agree on this thingy bout boosting one's ego. seen it, done it, regretted it. BTW. i'm a guy.Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:toy with your feeling, so that can boost her ego or test her skill to seduce a guy mah
it's GOD DAMN TRUE this......
i have not meet such total a bi*ch(but tons of 1/2 bi*ches out there) but my friends did b4
bottom line.....hey......there is no bottom line man.....
if u play the game, u got to take the pain that comes with it -
Yes, such women DO EXIST... But there isn't enough evidence to conclude that the girl fabio9999 is with is someone like this.... Don't jump to conclusions so easily... You'll only make this boy's mind wanders even more....Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:toy with your feeling, so that can boost her ego or test her skill to seduce a guy mah
it's GOD DAMN TRUE this......
i have not meet such total a bi*ch(but tons of 1/2 bi*ches out there) but my friends did b4
bottom line.....hey......there is no bottom line man.....
if u play the game, u got to take the pain that comes with it -
Yes... You CERTAINLY CAN choose to accept her rather than trying to change her.... But no promise that the odds would be any higher.... Moreover, the problem probably doesn't lies with her anyway...? It's YOU.... And Your LONELINESS that makes you want to have a partner as company.... Why not you try working with yourself 1st...? How much do you really understand yourself mentally...? If you don't even know who you are and you can't even accept yourself by knowing truly who you are, there's little doubt as to why the girl ain't convinced too....Originally posted by fabio9999:You really wake me up, maybe it true that i am too lonely.
If i can't change her, is acceptance a better approach?
Is ACCEPTANCE = SUFFER IN SILENCE
Of course, you can also choose to go through what most everybody else might have gone through... Acceptance of your love for her faithfully and suffer in silence... Blah blah blah.... The THING is... You don't necessarily have to go through that... It's probably the fact that your hormones are playing the tricks on you.. Or it could also be your personal life-style... Try changing your life-style and do some self-exploration on your mind.... The rest probably have to wait for now... Not like it's gonna do you much help if you rest on into a relationship now without any experience or sense of awarenessness about yourself anyway...?
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I guesss you give yourself some more time, although it might be testing being together having your "kind of Problem". Exceptance and adapt would be the better choice, afterall, 2 people sharing life together like husband and wife has their woes too, let alone bf/gf. You may really need to talk to her about it, else as many said, its tough and hard, never know what would happen. But patience and having a clear view of what you intend to do if you really want to except and tolerate.... reflect upon your thought over times as you may tend to sway due to circumstances, then you turn away from her if you are not steadfast enough to still firm.
When I 1st met my wife, some what similar to your case, but don't seems to be couple whenever we were together as I simply carry on just like my norm (my SELF, EGO) and often ignored her and her request as she thought she should act as one since she think I had excepted her (but I am not very sure, just find her nice to be with and want to be with her when she is not around), feel very restraint by her and can't do what I used to do, wanted her to be away from me, but really the initial problem was me. just not matured enough to think that way.
Changed her? that's what I thought, went through a painful, hard knocks giving her 2 years to get things changed. Of course, she never do anything, but I was the one pushing/planning to get things my way hoping in the process, I could change her. It was so difficuilt and I almost gave up. In fact, at the end of 2 yrs, I told her, she just missed my target, she was sad, but since I had set the time frame, I kind of feel sad if I let go the effort I had put through because of this, since there were some results, it means I can do more to change her. Anyway, Its not about changing, I think I would regret now if I changed her the way she is, it means she conform to your idea. WAIT!! if that's the case, when U are bored with that, than what would U do? change her again? certainly not. As I look back, in some ways, I was also influenced by her trying to change her the way I think should be. I also learn to adapt to her short coming and adjusted to the each other's life style we both lived in the process. Seriously, both our characters the opposite. something I never thought would be possible when I started, but had it not be or my 2 yrs trying and then, perseverence, I think I won't be what I am.
So think about it carefully, take sometime off to think and may be take it easy and possibly if it is real, considers each other short coming and action that makes you feel the way you think. fyi, my wfie then, was very possessive type, so can you imagine how sticky she was to me, even more contraints and obstruction to my freedom.
"No point changing things around if you can't, you can't change anybody & everybody in this world, and what makes you think you won't change too, we are all evolving, you change to suit something, but that something might change to suit anohter, so we co-exist and live in harmony" ...thinkg about it.