hoping she would come back
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I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice.
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use ur sincerity go be nice nice to her mum....one day she will see ur gd pt...
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the prob is now she dun even wanna see me or chat on the phone...only online. how?
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To say the fact, ur gf is the one that should be most pity among u and her mum. Imagine that she's now stuck between kinship and love...Originally posted by mikechp:I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice.
I can feel how she feels now... I understand that you love her a lot. Now i suppose what she needs is a moment of peace to calm herslf down. Yes.. like what you say her mum likes her ex a lot compared to you, but don't give up on making her opinion to change. Don't ever try saying nasty things to your gf about her mum too cus she will be very painful.
Instead. maybe you can try improving ur relationship with her mum, the more she is nasty to you, the more you tolerate until one day she will realise your sincerity to her daughter. Every mum loves their kids, so she also wants the best for her daughter too isn;t that?
therefore treat this as a test, a barrier for you and your gf. Once you two can break this barrier, you will know that happiness is not far from you yet it's coming closer...
Trust me. Nothing counts more than a sincere heart...
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a real test not just for u, but for your gf as well...
like wat plain has said, your gf is like sandwiched between u and her mum.
But, the story may hav some more insights? Wat is her feelings for her ex now? HAs it rekindled bcos of her mum's insistence?
Let her cool down a bit and then talk wif her...to c if she still loves u or has fallen back to her bf.
mi wish u all the best.
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but the prob is i dun even get to go to her place, let alone communicate with her mum
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wwat u do to piss her mum off?
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i haven't even done anything....i haven't even get a chance to talk to her mum yet. She just don't like my appearance i guess....and furthermore...perhaps cos my gf or i sould say ex-gf's ex-boyfriend is suffering from a depression and her mother has been contacting ever since their break up. Perhap the mother think i have contributed to tat guys depression..tat's why she dislike me.
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go n kaobeh her mom.Originally posted by mikechp:I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice. -
hmm.... how about.... you try to show her mum your good point? try and ask ur gf to let u 2 meet up.Originally posted by mikechp:I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice.
then... hur hur hur... bang your gf infront of her to show her that u can give her daughter happiness. every mum wants their daughter to find happiness 1 mah... this will definately work! -
i hate mother like that. if u really cannot be 2gether with her, make sure u scold her mother for her doings.
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The reason why is everything happening in such a way is because of you extremely bad timing in the picture.Originally posted by mikechp:I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice.
Look, you went with her when she just broke up with her boyfriend. Mum's mentally: The third-party guy who is came into the relation and ruin them.
Secondly: You met her only 4 months ago and together so fast - this further reinforce her mum's thinking about you.
Sorry but I feel that I have to say this: Your ex-gf is highly likely to be rather unstable from the previous relationship and *IF* because of that, you seize the chance and chase her - it is likely that she may not even like you as much. Even if you were to all along the third party, are you *sure* she really likes you because of who you are - and not...
I) A good excuse to shake her ex off?
II) A subsitute?
III) An entertainment for her routine relation?
How long is she with her boyfriend?
Noticed that she gave up so easily when her mum blasted at her about you - a good clue and hint in where you stand in her heart.
Advice?
It is best you date her out one day and really speak about everything you feel about this relation and possible complication, etc. It is useless trying to avoid, or making wrong decision over and again. You need to talk and speak with her. Don't assume.
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Another masterpiece from Master Yun.Originally posted by Yunhaier:The reason why is everything happening in such a way is because of you extremely bad timing in the picture.
Look, you went with her when she just broke up with her boyfriend. Mum's mentally: The third-party guy who is came into the relation and ruin them.
Secondly: You met her only 4 months ago and together so fast - this further reinforce her mum's thinking about you.
Sorry but I feel that I have to say this: Your ex-gf is highly likely to be rather unstable from the previous relationship and *IF* because of that, you seize the chance and chase her - it is likely that she may not even like you as much. Even if you were to all along the third party, are you *sure* she really likes you because of who you are - and not...
I) A good excuse to shake her ex off?
II) A subsitute?
III) An entertainment for her routine relation?
How long is she with her boyfriend?
Noticed that she gave up so easily when her mum blasted at her about you - a good clue and hint in where you stand in her heart.
Advice?
It is best you date her out one day and really speak about everything you feel about this relation and possible complication, etc. It is useless trying to avoid, or making wrong decision over and again. You need to talk and speak with her. Don't assume.
Cheers
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yunhaier......... wo zhen de hen pei fu ni ah!!!!
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Thanks Yunhaier for yr advice...ok the fact is I having been chatting with her for almost 1 month b4 we met up...and at that time her relationship with her ex-bf has already turned sour... and she is already thinking about leaving him. She also said that my appearance only speeds up her break up process.
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Bad timing..
I guess both can just stay friends for a while? In the meantime, communication is vital. Be her best friend without being pushy. Be there for her if she needs a shoulder to cry on, someone to be supportive of her.
If it was meant to be, who knows? Maybe she'll grow to love you and your sincerity will move even her pushy mom?
Good luck
Originally posted by mikechp:Thanks Yunhaier for yr advice...ok the fact is I having been chatting with her for almost 1 month b4 we met up...and at that time her relationship with her ex-bf has already turned sour... and she is already thinking about leaving him. She also said that my appearance only speeds up her break up process. -
yah...tat's wat we r doing now...though we can't chat on the phone..we still try to chat online. Thanks everybody for yr advices...really appreciates it.
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You admitted that your appearance speed up the process - but have you ever realise that you may (and is quite likely) to be a substitute?Originally posted by mikechp:Thanks Yunhaier for yr advice...ok the fact is I having been chatting with her for almost 1 month b4 we met up...and at that time her relationship with her ex-bf has already turned sour... and she is already thinking about leaving him. She also said that my appearance only speeds up her break up process.
Only 1 month! Futhermore you said only 1 month before you both *met* up. You mean you got to know her from IRC, ICQ sort of thingy? (Correct me if I am wrong).
Conclusion: You are likely to be a pawn in this game. Please be cautious and never look just at the surface. There is more than meets the eye.
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Ok lar! I send the money over liao...Originally posted by M©+square:Another masterpiece from Master Yun. 
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Yes daughter... just make sure you keep your swords and gun away from the computer!Originally posted by veLvEtgEr:yunhaier......... wo zhen de hen pei fu ni ah!!!! -
ur appearance? wah... u dress like wat man?
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aiyah, his appearance as in he turned up during the girl and her then-bf's breakup.
it would seem to the girl's mom as if he was the 3rd party which caused the couple to break up... of course the mom will be wary of him.
like Master Yun has said, she may or may not be conscious of it and has been using mikechp as a crutch or looked upon his interest as a rebound thing...
mikechp: tread carefully. but most of all, be her friend.. goodness knows everyone needs true friends
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Just carry on with your online thing and let nature takes its course...? Being her bf might not always be the best thing in spite of how much you really love her... If your love for each other persist and the situation is RIGHT, nothing's gonna stop the development of your relationship anyway...?Originally posted by mikechp:yah...tat's wat we r doing now...though we can't chat on the phone..we still try to chat online. Thanks everybody for yr advices...really appreciates it. -
yoz, maybe i am no one to you. but if i were to be in a situation like this. i would rather give up. thou saying is easier then done. but if she will even breakup with you, so what if you get together in the future again? are you surethat she wont leave you again?Originally posted by mikechp:I need some advice. I met my girlfriend 4 months ago, when she just broke up with her boyfriend. We have also went throught alot of struggle between her ex-boyfriend's persistence in getting her back. She had recently broke up with me cos her mother dislike me and also due to the fact tat the mother likes her ex-boyfriend alot. Her decision to break up with me is bcos she cannot handle her mothers nasty remarks on her and me. I don't want to give her up so easily just bcos her mother don't like me and when there is still love between me and her. She is trying not to love me and not think of me. I really wants her back. I really need some advice.
what i am try to tell you is that, if the both of you wanna get back together, alot of efforts have to be made as compared to before. and if anything happen again. it will consider as a double blow. so will you rather choose to forget her and let her go or to risk yourself to face a double blow in the future.
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