Firstly let me brief my situation here.....
1) I started to like one of my colleague after one of our annual dinner n dance event...From that point event i started expressing to one of my buddy at work n he assured me in trying to be more closer to her. I am in the outdoor operation side at my company whereas she works in the office.
2) Feeling unsure, I just out of the blue did my homework n asked a few of my friends who work around her whether she is attached or not. and to my shock most of them said that she has a boyfriend.
3) The thing is that from the profile I gathered in her friendster and facebook, she claim she is single....and that only a few pictures of her and this one certain guy.
4) I gathered enough courage to try to start talking to her and she was quite a nice person to talk to when we met in the office.....to a certain extent i did ask her during one of the holiday whether she is going out with her boyfriend or not.....and to my shockness she said she don't have a boyfriend and she really assured me with that serious look on her face.
5) The problem is that why she keeps updating her profile with this only guy at friendster saying her dear whereby she keeps repeating to me when we met that shes unattached....
6) I really like her but so unsure on what she is up to and i was wondering why all the lies.....should I proceed to tell her about my feelings or should i just forget about her....please advise. Thanks.
Originally posted by Irsa9874:Firstly let me brief my situation here.....
1) I started to like one of my colleague after one of our annual dinner n dance event...From that point event i started expressing to one of my buddy at work n he assured me in trying to be more closer to her. I am in the outdoor operation side at my company whereas she works in the office.
2) Feeling unsure, I just out of the blue did my homework n asked a few of my friends who work around her whether she is attached or not. and to my shock most of them said that she has a boyfriend.
3) The thing is that from the profile I gathered in her friendster and facebook, she claim she is single....and that only a few pictures of her and this one certain guy.
4) I gathered enough courage to try to start talking to her and she was quite a nice person to talk to when we met in the office.....to a certain extent i did ask her during one of the holiday whether she is going out with her boyfriend or not.....and to my shockness she said she don't have a boyfriend and she really assured me with that serious look on her face.
5) The problem is that why she keeps updating her profile with this only guy at friendster saying her dear whereby she keeps repeating to me when we met that shes unattached....
6) I really like her but so unsure on what she is up to and i was wondering why all the lies.....should I proceed to tell her about my feelings or should i just forget about her....please advise. Thanks.
Why shall u only leave yrself with option of 2? I help u choose the 3rd option. Continue to befriend her and find out more abt her trhu chit-chat and if possible. Go for outing with her.
Why u need to confess yr feeling to her so soon? Who teach u one? While she called other guys friend as dear may due to habit or what(Although its not very good to do it that way). It doesn't really comfirm she got bf. Unless u see photo of her in friendster hugging like glue with that guy. Give yrself and herself more time if u really like her. Exercise caution when dating her.
do you happen to work at sentosa? lol
Bro if you like her then trust her.
If not why bother even going after her at all?
Relationship is about trust but it seems that you are so scared of her lying to you more than you love for her.
Lets be honest if she has a bf does that mean you will back away?
Think about what you want in this relationship first,.you are not ready to handle her yet.
The chase is always titillatingly thrilling as opposed to the catch! If u trust in your love ( not needs , or seeking validation) - there is no other reason lar, if the other is a means to and end (your end - what u want) - it is doomed lor, it could be anyone, makes no difference!
Originally posted by DRC:Bro if you like her then trust her.
If not why bother even going after her at all?
Relationship is about trust but it seems that you are so scared of her lying to you more than you love for her.
Lets be honest if she has a bf does that mean you will back away?
Think about what you want in this relationship first,.you are not ready to handle her yet.
It's not abt she got a bf and u back off. It's abt LYING! If she really got a bf but keep denying it. Do u think u will have a good start if u really started with her? What u mention is contradicting.. U say r/s is abt trust. Where is the trust when she's telling a lie, not to mention start a r/s with her.. Do u think u can trust her???
TS don't jump to conclusion too fast. My advice if she lies, forget abt her. This type of gal good at mind games, U are no match for her.
If she don't have bf, good for u. Find out more abt her first before u makes yr next move.
Who says she is lying?
Your assumption (plus your colleagues'), does not match her assertion, therefore she is lying?
Find out more before you call a person, any person a liar. And this goes for any other situation as well.
Originally posted by Irsa9874:Firstly let me brief my situation here.....
1) I started to like one of my colleague after one of our annual dinner n dance event...From that point event i started expressing to one of my buddy at work n he assured me in trying to be more closer to her. I am in the outdoor operation side at my company whereas she works in the office.
2) Feeling unsure, I just out of the blue did my homework n asked a few of my friends who work around her whether she is attached or not. and to my shock most of them said that she has a boyfriend.
3) The thing is that from the profile I gathered in her friendster and facebook, she claim she is single....and that only a few pictures of her and this one certain guy.
4) I gathered enough courage to try to start talking to her and she was quite a nice person to talk to when we met in the office.....to a certain extent i did ask her during one of the holiday whether she is going out with her boyfriend or not.....and to my shockness she said she don't have a boyfriend and she really assured me with that serious look on her face.
5) The problem is that why she keeps updating her profile with this only guy at friendster saying her dear whereby she keeps repeating to me when we met that shes unattached....
6) I really like her but so unsure on what she is up to and i was wondering why all the lies.....should I proceed to tell her about my feelings or should i just forget about her....please advise. Thanks.
hahaha... ever thought that maybe she likes some guy the same way that you like her but she is not your girfriend?
Think so much for what???!!! She says she is not attached, then date her out!!!!!!!!
But frankly, that you can anyhow anyhow guess guess, she is better off not being your girlfriend. Just think, when she is with you, you will make her life miserable because of your wild guesses.
Carry on my wayward son...
For there'll be peace when you are done
Lay your weary head to rest
Now don't you cry no more .
oh...if u wan u play with her
but dun love her..