Very confused and sad, how to overcome it?
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Broke off with my gf a month ago..... As she said she wasn't suitable for me after that i still continue to think about her.... how to forget her as i sense that she is gonna have a new bf soon as from wat her friend told me
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I am getting bored with about the same kind of stories here everyday.
I suggest you guys come together and use your brain to think of solution and to encourage one another.
Rednano, u want to post links of the same nature of problem from forumers?
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just dont think about her
i dunno why this is so hard.
u still 13 yrs old meh
or u watch too much ��剧already
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
I am getting bored with about the same kind of stories here everyday.
I suggest you guys come together and use your brain to think of solution and to encourage one another.
Rednano, u want to post links of the same nature of problem from forumers?
lol..
wah lao.. dun like tt la. ppl sad alr.
everyone thinks their problems are unique u know?
I know of this teen, broke up with 3 diff girls, sad 3 times, can't possibly tell him to reread what others have told him for comfort right? lol.
sometimes it's not the words, but it's the listening ears they want.
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Originally posted by Unknown A:
Broke off with my gf a month ago….. As she said she wasn’t suitable for me after that i still continue to think about her…. how to forget her as i sense that she is gonna have a new bf soon as from wat her friend told me
You broke off with her or you got DUMPED by her?You need a reason to forget her? Ok, I can definitely give you a good reason to help you out.
1) She has already found another guy who treat her >300% BETTER and >300% CAPABLE of loving her than you.
So is it helpful to you?
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lol... cannot la later more emo leh............ Actually is i say break first..... as she gave me alot of carps which i cant take it anymore.... But now like abit weird without her lol......
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Now right feel like talking to her but from wat i heard from my friend she seems to have a new guy who seems to like her and she also abit like him just like wat parn said lol....... So now trying to find ways to forget.... Any suggestions?
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visualise her giving her new bf bj and that should be able to help u forget her
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lmao wat nice suggestion u got....
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keep thinking of her bad points.soon you'll be glad you're rid of her
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You're just used to her presence and the things she does. You just miss the good times and usually these are what couples depend on to get back together but in actual fact once you gys get back together again, you guys will pick out on each others' fault repeatedly ad the cycle continues. for the possible better future of you both individuals, just let go and move on.
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why you wanna be possesive, over something that's not yours?
ego at play la..
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Originally posted by Unknown A:
Now right feel like talking to her but from wat i heard from my friend she seems to have a new guy who seems to like her and she also abit like him just like wat parn said lol….... So now trying to find ways to forget…. Any suggestions?
Go take a piece of paper, write down and LIST AS MANY AS YOU CAN why you LIKE her on one side and write down why you DON'T LIKE her on the other side.No matter how you want to write it, you need to be honest with yourself to make this works.
Now go and read your list and you will see why you should forget about her and it's going to be alot easier for you to forget about her in no time.
Revert back to the list again in the future or as many times as desired if you find that you are wussing out again.
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ur best bet is probably to get a new gf. "jiu de bu qu, xin de bu lai" - old one never go, new one cannot come. hope u understand chinese ahaha.
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Originally posted by mystiv:
why you wanna be possesive, over something that's not yours?
ego at play la..
possessive?why?he wants to forget her what -
yalo..... i still finding ways to forget her... like playing dota , dragonica, watching shows etc..... But at the end right, when i nvr do anything, i will still think of her......... Zzz thats y asking u all for ways ma.......
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now right, she seems to come say hi to me but got nth to say leh, what does this means? anyone can interpret?? Dunno what she is thinking either......
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Originally posted by Unknown A:
now right, she seems to come say hi to me but got nth to say leh, what does this means? anyone can interpret?? Dunno what she is thinking either…...
Young man, you are only 13 years old. I know that you hate anyone who tries to make you think you are a child, but the truth is that you are not an adult for sure. Just a growing one and confuse with the complexities of life.Do be careful with love, espacially for another person other than your family, for you are not ready for that kind of committment. Your emotional level is still in its growing stage.
Right now your confusion comes from not being able to understand women. Don't worry, most grown men, including myself, still don't. But one thing we do know is that it is best to be friends, espacially at your age.
Being friends will remove that responsibility of committment to another that you are not ready to bear at this young age. Love is not a toy that you can play with when you please and then chuck it aside when you want something else, even for grown adults.
Being friends will not have 'nothing to say'. You can talk about anything under the sun - movies, school, subjects, teachers, friends, family, celebrities, etc. Be more of a listener than a talker, then she will feel comfortable talking to you. No one enjoys talking to a braggard or a bore.
Studies must come first, but i know it can be boring. Unfortunately, it is something we must do well right now, or we will regret later and may not even have a gf when you most need one, because we may not have a good job to support ourselves, let alone a gf and family.
If she studies in the same school as you, you will still be able to see her daily, so it's like its not that you will see her no more and miss her. She is still a friend, and do have a right to choose her friends, just as you too.
Remember, it can only be friends now, for you and your peers are not ready or stable enough to handle love and its complexities. Don't bother about others and what they do. Some grow up and mature faster than others. Let you be one of them to be similarly so. Studies must come first, and have friends to enjoy your youth, not steady gf. Your time will come in the future, but not now.
You will be able to forget her easily at your age, for if you fill your life with studies and good friends with a wider social circle and hobbies, you will have an enjoyable youth and in time forget about her, and cease to want to control her life, regardless alone or she with another bf.
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Cheer up! (:
I guess you just gotta keep occupying urself with things to do. Don't let urself have time to spare, 'cause 101% you'll end up thinkin of her. You can try going out with your friends, spending time outdoors, it's good to have some fresh air as well.
I know it'll hurt when she really gets attached, the thing is, deal with it. Forgetting is a very hard thing to do. So the best thing to do is to face the reality. Don't leave everything to forgetting. Forgetting will only come when you're over her.
Do hope that you'll get over her soon. :)
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Let time take its own natural process to forget. In the meantime, you can play dota, hang around with friends and do something else to be happy with. You can also think why you want to break up with her in the first place - if there reason is valid and strong.
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No one can answer you that... except to loosen your grip and let time make your feeling fade...
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Originally posted by plus22:
keep thinking of her bad points.soon you'll be glad you're rid of her
That will make the TS a ....not so nice guy.
TS, get a new gf. Full-stop.
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That will make the TS a ....not so nice guy.
TS, get a new gf. Full-stop.
No lah, TS continue to DOTA.
Or find online gf. Saves you lotsa trouble.
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closure for yourself ...
what she do with her life is now her problem
What you decide to do with yours should be the main focus.
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Originally posted by dotaro:
No lah, TS continue to DOTA.
Or find online gf. Saves you lotsa trouble.
If i remember correctly, there was a Japanese woman who hacked her ex-husband's
( ingame ) account and deleted all his chars when he divorced her in game.
Relationships can be dangerous in RL and game alike if not treated seriously.