how manu of u actually believe in this in life? I think leaders and those with responsibility positions should adopt this rite?
what are yr opinions.
then the person will have a bitter, lonely and pointless life...
i dont think, even LKY seems to follow this policy but they are so successful in life.
U still need to trust someone to climb to the top. Good luck going solo.
Trust and recognition for hard work are not same. If u do hard work, u will climb the ladder, u dont have to trust anyone.
Lau Lee's successful?
maybe for a while..
was Midas also successful in your book?
all the "powerful" people who did not trust anyone died lonely, pitifully, bitterly and were a waste...
and pretty aptly, who gives a shit about them anyway? because they trusted no one, no one does...
so they all live and die in their guilded cages of their own making
Originally posted by the Bear:Lau Lee's successful?
maybe for a while..
was Midas also successful in your book?
all the "powerful" people who did not trust anyone died lonely, pitifully, bitterly and were a waste...
and pretty aptly, who gives a shit about them anyway? because they trusted no one, no one does...
so they all live and die in their guilded cages of their own making
it depends on the person actually, Some people are more happier alone. I had a fren who couldnt get along with anyone because he is overly paranoid. But he is happy being alone.
IMO, i think the principle is not wholely practicable. in some point of life u need to trust someone,u need help from someone. its impossible to not trust anyone nowadays unless u live at some island alone.
we just have to carefully pick people from time to time and assessed who can and who cant be trusted.
the ultimate principle for me is,to care about yourself more than others most of the time.but of course u dont turn on a blind eye when u see someone needs help.
it only applies when no one needs ur care and attention that u dont give them the care and attention they didnt ask for.this way,itll avoid malignant talks by others and troubles u may avoid and thats not necessary in life.
Silence is better than any words spoken by any man.
ok maybe ive spoken too much.
so when u need to go for operation. don't trust the doctor. cut urself up.
trust no one...
that is not the whole story, the story starts with responsibility. As a leader, you are responsible for everything. But you cannot do everything. so you have to "trust" and delegate the jobs.
But delegating the jobs doesn't mean you are not responsible anymore, you still have to answer to it, so you have to check on the people doing the jobs... That is why good leaders are always busy, even though they are suppose to be "free".
So yeah, don't trust anyone, and make sure of the stuff yourself. delegate the duties, but still remain responsible. that is the way.
Originally posted by the Bear:then the person will have a bitter, lonely and pointless life...
Not to mention that all they're doing is hiding their fear behind cynicism instead of facing it.
I heard of a quote "People build walls instead of bridges". I totally agree with this, people always afraid of other hurting themselves. They protect themselves from everything, causing lesser communication between people and that is when the misunderstanding comes in. I think we should learn to trust each other to make our life better, a world with no war.
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does this include your family?? u need to trust someone in life.... if u dont, then i have no idea what kinda life ur gonna go thru
When a good person, physically and spiritually, gets thrown into a world obsessed with money and power, that person's physical existence is slowly slipping away. Thrown into a world that is cruel and chaotic, his eyes are opened to the fragility that defines the realm of the living.
most times, suspicious or paranoid people are good people hold a kind of personal power, for they are afraid of whats going to get them than to get people.
Originally posted by Socialist:most times, suspicious or paranoid people are good people hold a kind of personal power, for they are afraid of whats going to get them than to get people.
Do explain, what kind of power does being shit-scred give them?
Originally posted by Gedanken:Do explain, what kind of power does being shit-scred give them?
In my opinion, fear is anthropological. We fear the dark, big monsters, ect. This causes our body to react, such as widened pupils and more blood being redirected to our muscles.
Paranoia is more psychological. We're paranoid someone is out to get us. It's usually a result of our mind not thinking logically because of past tramatizations or chemical/serotonin imbalances.
Both are closely related but at times tend to exibit the same symptoms
paranoid people tend to reanalyse and analyse things carefully than the average normal person. They are also prejudiced towards the negative in some ways.
The slightest of things will arouse their suspicion. n the sense that they tend to see the world differently than the rest. These people have helped to world to see dark things that are hidden beaneath the shadows.
i trust everyone
Originally posted by gigabyte14:i trust everyone
lend me 10k SGD
Originally posted by youyayu:lend me 10k SGD
my uob left 0.58
my posb left 17.60
wait for me when i 21 years old
when u 21 year old auto got 10k?
Originally posted by youyayu:
when u 21 year old auto got 10k?
insurance
more than that
and inheritance
As for me, trust is not a principle where as it is a system. I develop it myself and maybe u can do the same or develop your own. First u need to rate the person u wanna trust just like the belt system in martial art. There have the basic level which is white belt and all the way to the highest which is the black belt.
After that, u need to rate the info u wanna share same as the belt system. The info that belong to the white belt level u can share it with anyone u like, info just like where got big sale, where got sell the best seafood. Where as the black belt info level u can only share it with pple that are close. Your cpf account, you saving and etc.
The last thing u need to do is to group the pple around u into 3 groups. Friends, family members and work colleagues. U need to group your info into the 3 groups too. Work info, family info and lastly friend info.
Whenever u met a stranger, there isn’t any trust because u do not know the person. Be it in work place or outside and even online. Family members exclude. So if u like that person and become friend, u give him the basis trust which is the white belt level. Trust have to be earn, as time goes by, u can upgrade that person into the next level…green belt, yellow belt and eventually the black belt (total trust). U can also downgrade the person from black belt all the way back to white belt too, reason being that things will change and pple also change.
If the person has change to someone that u can only give them your basic trust then downgrade them. I tell u, there are this type of pple that u cant even give them the basic trust, so u have to judge yourself.
The info u wanna share also work the same. They are info that can only be share among your family members only, u don’t want to share it with your friend or your colleague
even they earn a black belt level of trust from u. then again it apply to work place too. there are some sensitive info that only can share with within your company and not your friend or your family member.
There are also info that can only be share with your boss and some that involve in a project and not to everyone in the company.
This also apply the same as friend info. there are things u can share with your friend but not with to your family member. Some friend u can share very personal thing but not all of your friends. So u have to judge accordingly.