How to win back a guy's heart?
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i have a very caring ex-boyfriend but we have recently broken up for 2-3 months. I wan to win him back but how? Any ideas or suggestions? pls no crap answers like having sex or whatsoever. lol.
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Why did you break up in the first place?
Without knowing the whole story, how to advise?
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TS, at least give us a gist of your story.
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thing is .. we broke up cos it was my fault. it is my 1st relationship ..and it lasts for 2 yr plus.. and im saying its my fault cos im damn xiao jie la.. taking what he did as for granted, ask him help me do this, do that etc .. then once, i asked for breakup , cos he didn have time for me due to his exams ...surprising ... he said 'ok'( i think he was slowly getting fed up at me ). then he really broke up with me~ :(
The few mths without him i really regret not treating him well.. i reflected and i think i really treat him for granted .. i tried going out with guys to try to 'numb' myself.. and even try to look for a another guy , in hoping my pain will lessen but know that will be really unfair to 3rd guy if i do that.
Since he is my 1st, i think it will be quite hard for me to forget him .. i really tried but cant...
I tried to confess to him ... saying im sorry etc and he ask me not to wait for him anymore. He prefer his single life even though he admitted that he still likes me a bit..
I was thinking.. since he is having his exams now.. maybe i can wait after his exams and try to win him back? i know my chances might be very less but i really still wanna try ! >< Im not sure what guys likes etc so im asking what i should do ... im hoping for that miracle that we will patch back ><
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It will be an uphill task for you to suddenly change and lose your tantrums just because you feel empty without him.
First cut is always deepest, especially so for a girl.
But dont waste your time, learn from your mistakes and treat your next partner better.
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i know im at fault now... im really remorseful and guilty... i know ill change..
i really wan to know if theres anything i can do to patch back ><
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Its a good gesture but i think it will be very difficult since he already told u he enjoyed being alone?
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maybe im just trying to lie to myself ... but i thought that maybe if we meet up ... maybe if see face to face... probably there will still be a bit of that love feeling there lo...
i really wun give up until i have tried everything !!! :X
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Originally posted by xxxxxlamer:
thing is .. we broke up cos it was my fault. it is my 1st relationship ..and it lasts for 2 yr plus.. and im saying its my fault cos im damn xiao jie la.. taking what he did as for granted, ask him help me do this, do that etc .. then once, i asked for breakup , cos he didn have time for me due to his exams ...surprising ... he said 'ok'( i think he was slowly getting fed up at me ). then he really broke up with me~ :(
The few mths without him i really regret not treating him well.. i reflected and i think i really treat him for granted .. i tried going out with guys to try to 'numb' myself.. and even try to look for a another guy , in hoping my pain will lessen but know that will be really unfair to 3rd guy if i do that.
Since he is my 1st, i think it will be quite hard for me to forget him .. i really tried but cant...
I tried to confess to him ... saying im sorry etc and he ask me not to wait for him anymore. He prefer his single life even though he admitted that he still likes me a bit..
I was thinking.. since he is having his exams now.. maybe i can wait after his exams and try to win him back? i know my chances might be very less but i really still wanna try ! >< Im not sure what guys likes etc so im asking what i should do ... im hoping for that miracle that we will patch back ><
wait till after his exams, have a heart to heart talk to him. Assure him you will change for the better.
Never take bf or husband for granted. Treasure every moment u spend with him. Learn to be more understanding, caring, considerate and sensitive to his needs. vice versa.
Good luck
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ok, whichever suits u best..
but pls put urself in the other persons shoe also.
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Originally posted by xxxxxlamer:
maybe im just trying to lie to myself ... but i thought that maybe if we meet up ... maybe if see face to face... probably there will still be a bit of that love feeling there lo...
i really wun give up until i have tried everything !!! :X
ya, give it your best shot since u still like him and wanna get back.but if he insists to stay single, then respect his decision. see if you two can remain friends.
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move on.. if u are meant to be, u will be tgt and he wun say "don't wait for me"
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ya man, the last thing you want is for him to not even acknowledge you as a friend.
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i hope he is not with another gf is he?
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i think he is not..since he is currently too busy for his papers..
i wont treat him as bad le la! its like a wake up call for me le.. i just want to know what i can do to save this r/s. Hpe im not too late .
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if he still likes you, there is possibility.
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my advice to you is to wait for all his papers to be over then ask him out.
dont contact him for now, bear with it for the moment, if u keep harassing him now he will only feel more vexed and feel that he was right to break up with u in the 1st place.
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Wait for him outside his house after his exam over. Rain or shine. Just stand there until he forgives u. :D
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All I cant say is you never know if you never try... I got back together with my ex gf after 2 years of separation..
however, luck and everything plays a part too.. the timing must be just right, the mood must be there etc...
All the best
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to xxxxlamer;
invite him to seafood buffet every week...make sure they got fresh and very good food.originally i would have told u to make a buffet dinner fer him every week but most modern gals they would be lucky to even fry an egg without burnin it.
make sure got lots of fresh prawns,lobsters,crabs etc etc at buffett.....the more fresher foood items the faster he will forgive u!
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and dun go cheap by going to eat fried kuay teow with more hums....or bigger hums,,,,,,dun werk like that.
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what are your ages?
He in JC you poly? or?
I know most JCs going to have exams soon
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Thanks for the above replies... (:
ive just graduated... im working now... he is studying in sim..
i wan to try to win back his heart but not to the extent of being so despo.. or to the extent that he will want to avoid me.. Anyway he has just agreed to go out straight after his last paper yay!!! but im not holding my hopes too high ... scared later just wan to clarify only den i gg liao..
Im not sure what i should do when i meet him ... what should we talk about etc?
Thing is .. im really scared if he was to reject me.. cos my depression is still there after 2 years... so i really dunno how to handle the rejection if he was to reject me.
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The very first thing to do is, change your attitude before you get back with him. Otherwise there is absolutely no point in getting back with him if you are going to screw things up again with your "princess" mentality. You would only hurt him & yourself again. That said, the next time you go out with him, just do something romantic for him. Something to prove your sincerity to him. Maybe a card or cookies or something like that? I can't give you a definite answer as it depends on his preferences. Then bring him to the places that you both used to frequent to jolt back the sweet memories. At the end of the day, you just pop the question of patching up again...
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If you've tried and tried but it just doesn't work it out for him, move on. At least you learnt that having excessive �� attitude will not work out for a relationship..
If you've gotten back together but you both realize that your �� attitude is in the way of the relationship, let it go and move on.. At least you learn that forcing your way back into a relationship doesn't have a good ending..
But if things turn out to be well for both of you in the end, then you've learnt how to cherish and compromise for the well being of the development of a relationship..
In any case, don't brood too much about the sad things in life, coz' every single happy/sad experiences teaches us a lesson. Learn from it..
