She has changed.
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Originally posted by gigabyte14:
dont see army as a disease
see it as an experience, training for war, training to protect the people u love, the people around u
and ur girl moved on already, why arent u
dont get stuck in the past, and emo at home all day, blaming everything except urself
u emo, u cry, u whine, u commit suicide, she also wun love u like last time
so move on la, see the bigger picture ok
if ur world still revolves ard ur girl for a year, i suggest u fuck yourself and die
u dontmean to be rude, do u?. If this has not happened to me, i will not have known what is to expereinced downfall in life, to wake up from it and move on. But i didnt say i did not move on, i am now upgrading myself and in a better position. So i must say this incident has opened my eyes, just that images still remain in my head. But does not matter if it remains..
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By now you probably get the idea... don't blame NS.
Don't know why you didnt do much for 2 years after NS. It takes you 2 years to recover from the 2 years of NS? If so, maybe you'll forget about her in 6 years' time.
Good that you are "recovering" and trying to catch up. But then, do it for yourself, don't do it to win her back. The fact that she started work, got to know more people (guys in specific)... so will you meet more gals when you make the effort to be engaged with society.
And don't think that she's the only one for you... that's crap. Take some time to imagine... picture her, imagine her on a photo... now imagine you holding on to the picture, crush it, throw in a bin.... Move on!!!
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One can acquire money, house, car, good job .... add on, what is lacking within will eventually surface - and intuitively this guy here, seems bereft of love, i mean self-love. Love is an immeasureably quality and quantify it - it is no longer love but sth else hiding behind the word love or merely propping up the ....
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Originally posted by Ms.shells:
People change. Either change to become a better person or worse. For my case, i've become a better person :p
so.. u are one bad bad ger in the past?
haha....
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Originally posted by EarlNeo:
so.. u are one bad bad ger in the past?
haha....
No la! Hahaha. I was a very nice ger and even nicer now! Hehe ^^
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what u should do now is to get reallt angry and become incredible hulk and kill everyone in SAF.... or at least die from trying.
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there is more then one tree ard...
and of all thing to blame, u blame it on saf?
lol....
try to blame on someone or something that can defend themself next time....
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Damn, people love to blame NS for everything, don't they.. It shows that they have not internalised anything learnt in those two years, and prefer to see it as having wasted it.
TS, stop living in the past and treat it as a new start. Change is the only constant in life, and in relations with other people.. it's how you manage the change or make it work for you that counts.
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Originally posted by Ms.shells:
No la! Hahaha. I was a very nice ger and even nicer now! Hehe ^^
ah huh....
just a piece of frenly advice....
sometime... guys like bad ger too....
esp the noti one....
good to b nice most of the time....
but once or twice the bad bad gers each month....
keep the r/s spicy....
/* subjected to ones tolerants for hot stuffs.... */
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Originally posted by EarlNeo:
ah huh....
just a piece of frenly advice....
sometime... guys like bad ger too....
esp the noti one....
good to b nice most of the time....
but once or twice the bad bad gers each month....
keep the r/s spicy....
/* subjected to ones tolerants for hot stuffs.... */
As they say, date the bad ones, marry the nice/good ones.
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Originally posted by Nasi lemak in sg is best:
about 6 years ago, i used to hand out with a girl during my late teens. She was a decent, and homely girl. She only used to trust and hang out with me, the only guy she knew.. i had many dreams about her being my gf, all until NS spoilt it. Flash forward , We are both approaching our mid 20s now.
She went to SIM to do her degree while i rotted away in NS. During this time, i only used to call her on mobile and met a few times. Then i was posted to Australia SAF camp till i ORD. So as a result i could not meet her in singapore. When i finally ORD from the rothole, i went to look for her. She was already working and i noticed she has changed a lot. She is no more the same person i used to know. She now knows other guys as well ( working colleagues). even our looks are mismatched now. She looks older and mature while i still look like a teenager like how i used to 6 years ago. Her talking has also changed quite a bit. I felt awakward and somehow i think she has been influenced by others. After the meeting she did not call me , i sensed something was wrong, but i feel too inferior compared to her status now. I dont know if she dont want to meet me. i tried callling her a few times on weekends but she always says "i am busy, call me back later.." . This goes on every single time i call her until i give up. But i still cannot live without seeing her. I enquired through a few friends and what i learnt was she is not attached to any guy but dates quite a few guys here and then.
Now i feel afraid of meeting or calling her as i dont want to feel hurt. But in my heart , i still think she has a deepfound respect for me. For 2 years after ORD, i was not doing anything, but doing a part time job which paid me quite well. Its because of my brain drain due to the endless tekan and paranoia thoughts during NS>
My life has picked up now, as i joined the civil service and doing part time degree in SIM. I have not tried contacting her for quite some time now. But here and then, such thoughts depress me often when i think of her. Is it because of the stupid NS which made us apart, For one i know that i will never forgive SAF for ruining my life like that.
What is the best approach i can take now?. Depressed.
She was a decent, and homely girl. She only used to trust and hang out with me, the only guy she knew..
She was already working and i noticed she has changed a lot. She is no more the same person i used to know. She now knows other guys as well ( working colleagues). even our looks are mismatched now. She looks older and mature while i still look like a teenager like how i used to 6 years ago. Her talking has also changed quite a bit. I felt awakward and somehow i think she has been influenced by others.
What the phuck............ You think what?
She only hangs around with just 1 guy and thats you? Of course she also gets to know other guys la. It's not like your the only guy in the world.
The way you phrase your words tells a lot about you. "Looks mismatched" - whats that?
She looks older while you still look like a teenager - that is your problem la....And you say she has changed and blame NS.
It is not that she has changed a lot or that she has been influeced by others, it is you who did not change. 6 years leh. More or less also got change what.
And dont blame NS, for i dont see the problem with it.
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People and situation changed along with time. Some relationship died off and some relationship evolved to become better but eventually there will be a separation in death as such.
You need to grow up too and widen ur circle of friends. I don't see why she can't get to know more guy friends. Though you might have 'like her' or being a very close friend, i don't think you should limit her getting to know more guy friends since both of you are not official an item.
Anyway review your attitude towards her and clearly understand what went wrong.
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Originally posted by Lorry`:
She was a decent, and homely girl. She only used to trust and hang out with me, the only guy she knew..
She was already working and i noticed she has changed a lot. She is no more the same person i used to know. She now knows other guys as well ( working colleagues). even our looks are mismatched now. She looks older and mature while i still look like a teenager like how i used to 6 years ago. Her talking has also changed quite a bit. I felt awakward and somehow i think she has been influenced by others.
What the phuck............ You think what?
She only hangs around with just 1 guy and thats you? Of course she also gets to know other guys la. It's not like your the only guy in the world.
The way you phrase your words tells a lot about you. "Looks mismatched" - whats that?
She looks older while you still look like a teenager - that is your problem la....And you say she has changed and blame NS.
It is not that she has changed a lot or that she has been influeced by others, it is you who did not change. 6 years leh. More or less also got change what.
And dont blame NS, for i dont see the problem with it.
lolor was it TS chg-ed n not her gf?
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everyone will change as time pass... u r nt as innocent as when u r a baby
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Originally posted by gasband:
what u should do now is to get reallt angry and become incredible hulk and kill everyone in SAF.... or at least die from trying.
There is no point in killing people who are not involved and also forced to serve 2 years of their lives.
TS, many people will never forget their 1st. But even so, you must learn to move on.