Should i or should i cont this r/s?
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Honestly i realli dunno if i realli noe wat is love.. I have patched up with my ex for two months and our previous r/s was 2yrs plus.. We broke up is due to her noeing another guy she admire and be4 we patch up she had two r/s including tht guy she go with after our breakup.. In between our patchup is ard half a yr and we did contact here a there.. Lots of my frenz told mi not to patch up with her but my heart says the opp way and we are together now but i am kinda confused whether should i continue this r/s a not.. Sometimes i find her very demanding which she always is which i dont really like it and also find her not so wen ruo and stuff unlike all the other gals frenz how they treat their bf.. She is my first and only r/s tht i went thru be4 so i also dunno issit because i in need of a person so i went b for her or is because i love her.. Somemore my mum dun realli like her and is one of the problem that makes mi very frustrating.. She is those fickled minded gals which she has told mi when i first get together with her but one gd pt of her is she is very honest with mi.. She told mi everything from head to toe and during this two mths i can say sometimes we are happy but sometimes we are not.. But one thing is she loves to tok abt her ex.. I dunno izzit all gals are like this?? Seriously now i dunno wat should i do?? Hope the kind hearted or experience guys here can give mi some advices.. THanx a lot
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are u happy in this r/s?
obviously no
so dump her and move on.
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different people take things differently but if i were to doubt whether this relationship can continue or not, i think its a good hint that it prolly isnt worth it.
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well.. my gf dont like to talk bout her ex... never mention to me at all...
but i think ya gf isnt trueful to you in the first place because she fell in love for another guy when she is with ya.. then some more she stil can be involved with 2 guys at the same time... did she even have sex or pet with the other guy?
Well.. the decision is up to you.. sometimes a second chance can go a long way... dont listen to ya friends, listen to your heart... sometimes patching up can be a good thing... like my gf and I, we patched up too... and everything is fine between us now..
so good luck to you...
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i say move on.
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Well girls don't anyhow talk about our exes in to our guy. From what i read above, seems like your gf doesn't really appreciate you and your love. She broke up with you because she admired one guy. Are you sure it won't happen anymore?........and please listen to your mum cos somehow mothers always have this kind of 6th sense, they can tell if gf/bf is the right one for you or not.
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yeah i'm a girl too. She is not thoughtful of your feelings when she talked abt ex. Cos i too alway talk about ex and realised im not thoughtful gf. Beside she admire someone means she will be changing her target. That's why she fickle minded! I did like that so i dump my ex for a new one. get it? Find better one...
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Originally posted by sentinus:
Honestly i realli dunno if i realli noe wat is love.. I have patched up with my ex for two months and our previous r/s was 2yrs plus.. We broke up is due to her noeing another guy she admire and be4 we patch up she had two r/s including tht guy she go with after our breakup.. In between our patchup is ard half a yr and we did contact here a there.. Lots of my frenz told mi not to patch up with her but my heart says the opp way and we are together now but i am kinda confused whether should i continue this r/s a not.. Sometimes i find her very demanding which she always is which i dont really like it and also find her not so wen ruo and stuff unlike all the other gals frenz how they treat their bf.. She is my first and only r/s tht i went thru be4 so i also dunno issit because i in need of a person so i went b for her or is because i love her.. Somemore my mum dun realli like her and is one of the problem that makes mi very frustrating.. She is those fickled minded gals which she has told mi when i first get together with her but one gd pt of her is she is very honest with mi.. She told mi everything from head to toe and during this two mths i can say sometimes we are happy but sometimes we are not.. But one thing is she loves to tok abt her ex.. I dunno izzit all gals are like this?? Seriously now i dunno wat should i do?? Hope the kind hearted or experience guys here can give mi some advices.. THanx a lot
1. You must accept that no two humans will ever think alike. There will always be differences.
2. It is only how you bridge those differences, find a common ground and live with it.
3. Relationships thus are never easy. But why relationships are common and will continue to thrive is one person's need for companionship. The initial attraction causes a desire to know more about a person, and in time more of the other will be revealed.
4. Then it is time when one must either accept that person, warts, flaws and all or reject to find another.
5. In rejection, understand there is no perfection. It is only what we do with another's flaw and make the other perfect in our own eyes.
6. Understand too, we ourselves are not perfect, and must constantly reflect and accept criticisms, harsh or kind, and if true, we must change to evolve. Failure which we will only lead lonely and wasted lives.So should you continue or give up. Only you alone can determine for it is a life you live, no one else can. While it may difficult to change another person, all it needs is only to review oneself, and find how one can adapt to another's viewpoint and effect the change within, little steps and incremental, with patience, a lot of patience.
Only you alone can determine the value of your relationship with her. Do consider and reconsider pt.5 most seriously and carefully. -
She told you she is fickle and keeps talking to you about her ex.
If someone said this, u jolly well take it positively she is really fickle since her action already proved it. When a person keeps talking about her ex indicateds that she has not gotten over him yet.
Ask yourself do you want to spend your life with such a person. Moreover she is demanding. She is demanding now, after marriage she will be worse.
From what I see, this relationship is not worth the keep. This is just my thought. Decision lies with you.
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Originally posted by sentinus:
Honestly i realli dunno if i realli noe wat is love.. I have patched up with my ex for two months and our previous r/s was 2yrs plus.. We broke up is due to her noeing another guy she admire and be4 we patch up she had two r/s including tht guy she go with after our breakup.. In between our patchup is ard half a yr and we did contact here a there.. Lots of my frenz told mi not to patch up with her but my heart says the opp way and we are together now but i am kinda confused whether should i continue this r/s a not.. Sometimes i find her very demanding which she always is which i dont really like it and also find her not so wen ruo and stuff unlike all the other gals frenz how they treat their bf.. She is my first and only r/s tht i went thru be4 so i also dunno issit because i in need of a person so i went b for her or is because i love her.. Somemore my mum dun realli like her and is one of the problem that makes mi very frustrating.. She is those fickled minded gals which she has told mi when i first get together with her but one gd pt of her is she is very honest with mi.. She told mi everything from head to toe and during this two mths i can say sometimes we are happy but sometimes we are not.. But one thing is she loves to tok abt her ex.. I dunno izzit all gals are like this?? Seriously now i dunno wat should i do?? Hope the kind hearted or experience guys here can give mi some advices.. THanx a lot
Obviously not. A truly caring gf will not talk about her ex all the time instead of you.
Whether to dump her or not is your call, but I can tell you it is unlikely she is going to be faithful to you.
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NO
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She is burdened with the past (psychological/emotional HANGOVERS!) and to blame her for what u feel is utterly selfish on your part especially for how u feel. Man, u are responsible for what u feel, u own it, the 'cause' could be her, anyone, it does not matter - the reaction/response is what emanates from you. It comes from within you.
She(anyone) is on earth not to fulfil you or anyone but to attain to her destiny - rt/wrong is subjective/relative. To expect anyone - be it in a relationship, even in a marriage to fulfil another is being a burden on another>
Love in its highest form is empathy not sympathy, and it (love) does not seek out another to fulfil - it seeks to share , to appreciate. - To circumsribe love/freedom is encroaching on another's path = its akin to telling someone that you are only allowed to 'breathe' when you are with me.
One can extract promises to buy a car, a house, ... but to extract promises especially more so when it concerns matters of the heart is binding another and oneself to a cage.
If you are unfree inside - u will never free another - the love that frees another is love that everybody hankers for.
Lest its miscontrued, i m not implying that u are wrong n she is right or vice versa. Both of u, and all of us one time or another - succumb to such debilitating emotions and its part of the package.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
She is burdened with the past (psychological/emotional HANGOVERS!) and to blame her for what u feel is utterly selfish on your part especially for how u feel. Man, u are responsible for what u feel, u own it, the 'cause' could be her, anyone, it does not matter - the reaction/response is what emanates from you. It comes from within you.
She(anyone) is on earth not to fulfil you or anyone but to attain to her destiny - rt/wrong is subjective/relative. To expect anyone - be it in a relationship, even in a marriage to fulfil another is being a burden on another>
Love in its highest form is empathy not sympathy, and it (love) does not seek out another to fulfil - it seeks to share , to appreciate. - To circumsribe love/freedom is encroaching on another's path = its akin to telling someone that you are only allowed to 'breathe' when you are with me.
One can extract promises to buy a car, a house, ... but to extract promises especially more so when it concerns matters of the heart is binding another and oneself to a cage.
If you are unfree inside - u will never free another - the love that frees another is love that everybody hankers for.
Lest its miscontrued, i m not implying that u are wrong n she is right or vice versa. Both of u, and all of us one time or another - succumb to such debilitating emotions and its part of the package.
She is his first and only one. Please don't expect him to be a Einstein in relationships.
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I offered my views and opinions - he (anyone) is not obliged to subscribe to them.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
I offered my views and opinions - he (anyone) is not obliged to subscribe to them.
I know, but I wonder if he understand half of what you are talking about or not.
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The other guy dumped her because she keep on talking about you.
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Originally posted by mancha:
The other guy dumped her because she keep on talking about you.
YEA.probably.i hate talking about my ex.it's very insensitive to my now-bf too.tell her that.
you're not happy,so why force this?
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she is honest with you how she feels. are you? have you talk to her how you feel when she talks about her ex?
though people says girls are more sensitive, but there are some who are not. she might not have know that she is hurting you by talking about her ex. (i guess non of her ex have told her about it) she might just feel that its normal talking about it because its already over.
and are you happy with her? i feel that once there is a break up, a r/s can never be the same anymore. it can either be more treasured by both parties, or the feeling might have already faded more or less.