haiz.. its seems every job he find is not the type that is feasible yet he feels that i m against every job he find.
(1) insurance agent
yes. i am against that. & i believe alot of people do too. reason is alot.
(2) admin at some weird company in ulu place.
i m not really against that. i only say if he cant cope with the politics in the office which he told me, then leave. He says there is alot of politics, he don't want. becomes i m against. =.= fine.
(3) customer services at changi airport. (his mom intro)
yes. i m against the timing which i already told him since he start to find job. i already told him don't find night shift job. Because when he start schooling, he confirm lack of sleep and cannot focus. And yes, the planner is someone who does not care. last minute told him to cont the next shift due to miscommunication which is simply she doesnt even bother to ask the so call manager for his num. if the 1st day can like this, i don't see why there wont be any last min schedule.
i told him other jobs he refuse. either the pay low or the place too far. or he he can't work weekends. but the things is, cust svs at changi airport also require wkends.
he says he want a job that he can write on resume. well, cust svs at changi airport is more high class den kitchen helper in ikea???
u machiam mothering him leh...
give him ur comment and let him decide...
if he wanna go for shitty job, even after u warning him... then let him do it.... and let him take the shit, i f & when it hit him....
rather then saying, " i told u so" give him support to get out or clear the shit....
sometime, ppl just need to learn it the hard way.....
do it more then once and soon, he will value ur comment and see the wisdom in u. Rather then nagging and soon he own a ear that filter 90% of wat comes out of ur mouth.
go join the civil service lor... the government is stepping up hiring...
JOBS FOR SINGAPOREANS: GOVERNMENT WILL HIRE MORE NOW, BUDGET SPEECH 2009
The Minister for Finance mentioned in his Jan 09 Budget Speech that the Government will also expand recruitment across ministries and statutory boards, for all levels of employees, including mid-career professionals.
"In all, we expect a total of 18,000 public sector jobs to be made available over the next two years. (This includes government-supported jobs outside of the Government in areas such as childcare, tertiary education, and restructured hospitals.) "
To each his own lar - u are not him and he is not u, let him be, otherwise he will grow old, not grow up!
Originally posted by EarlNeo:u machiam mothering him leh...
give him ur comment and let him decide...
if he wanna go for shitty job, even after u warning him... then let him do it.... and let him take the shit, i f & when it hit him....
rather then saying, " i told u so" give him support to get out or clear the shit....
sometime, ppl just need to learn it the hard way.....
do it more then once and soon, he will value ur comment and see the wisdom in u. Rather then nagging and soon he own a ear that filter 90% of wat comes out of ur mouth.
Straight to the point as usual.
TS, no need to help your man clear his **** when the time comes; let him regret not listening to you.
Since he listen to his mum more than you, so be it.
sounds like a case of a bum for a boyfriend..
The problem is ...
he is not the right guy for you, and you are not the right girl for him.
Your constant criticism and lack of support will tear the relationship apart sooner or later.
Originally posted by countingdowntoORD:sounds like a case of a bum for a boyfriend..
I don't think so. It is good her man wants to get a job with as much pay as possible, and also one which will allow him to write in his resume for future jobs, but he seems to be a bad planner who could only plan half of the things.
Indeed, he tried to go for the jobs which he think will help him go according to his plans, but he did not study the jobs deep enough to realise what is required from him. As such, as most of the fellow forummers here will agree, this type of person is better of learning things the hard way.
As for labbish, I won't say she is being too naggy, she just care a lot for the person she loves. And to be honest, I will say she has better foresight than her other-half. She thought all about her lover's future, not only his present job-dilemma, but also his future studying need, and also his future career.
If her other-half think he could handle study and job together, I will say he will have "fun" enjoying his uni time. If he crack under pressure, the worst situation will be that he gave up both his studies and his part time job.
Indirectly, she worries about his future career, for if he couldn't do well in his studies, how could he get a good job in the future?
On the otherhand, having a 'customer service' is better than having a 'kitchen helper' on his resume. Here is where labbish is wrong. With experience in the customer service sector, it will be easier for her other-half to enter careers which require him to have frequent direct customer contact, such as counselling and marketing. The extra experience will also help him in dealing with difficult and troublesome customers in the future.
What could 'kitchen helper' on the resume do? Future kopitiam bowl-washer? I certainly hope not. ( Touchwood ).
Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:I don't think so. It is good her man wants to get a job with as much pay as possible, and also one which will allow him to write in his resume for future jobs, but he seems to be a bad planner who could only plan half of the things.
Indeed, he tried to go for the jobs which he think will help him go according to his plans, but he did not study the jobs deep enough to realise what is required from him. As such, as most of the fellow forummers here will agree, this type of person is better of learning things the hard way.
As for labbish, I won't say she is being too naggy, she just care a lot for the person she loves. And to be honest, I will say she has better foresight than her other-half. She thought all about her lover's future, not only his present job-dilemma, but also his future studying need, and also his future career.
If her other-half think he could handle study and job together, I will say he will have "fun" enjoying his uni time. If he crack under pressure, the worst situation will be that he gave up both his studies and his part time job.
Indirectly, she worries about his future career, for if he couldn't do well in his studies, how could he get a good job in the future?
On the otherhand, having a 'customer service' is better than having a 'kitchen helper' on his resume. Here is where labbish is wrong. With experience in the customer service sector, it will be easier for her other-half to enter careers which require him to have frequent direct customer contact, such as counselling and marketing. The extra experience will also help him in dealing with difficult and troublesome customers in the future.
What could 'kitchen helper' on the resume do? Future kopitiam bowl-washer? I certainly hope not. ( Touchwood ).
What good his current job depends on what he intends to be in the future.
If like most people who wish to climb the corporate ladder, a kitchen helper will do no good on his resume.
However.. if he aspires to be a chef or restauranteur... kitchen helper is a good start to his culinary future.
Then it depends on what kind of work the gf wants to marry into.
Does the gf wants to marry a culinary expert or she wants to marry a CEO ? But does it really matters ?
No matter what profession he ends up.. if the wife or partner is not supportive.. the marriage is doomed to fail anyway.
Originally posted by jojobeach:The problem is ...
he is not the right guy for you, and you are not the right girl for him.
Your constant criticism and lack of support will tear the relationship apart sooner or later.
WALAO. Don't ask people to tear down the bridge even before it is fully built.
Every relationship will have testing and doubtful times, it is just that how the couple face such periods of time.
Indeed she could cut down on her nagging, but I don't think she is not giving enough support to her other half.
It is obvious the choice her other half made are half-baked, and she would be literally driving him deeper into mud if she just leave him be and encourage him to continue his job.
Her nagging by itself is already a form of support, and here she is, seeking help from us to see what she could do for him. I support her in her decision to help get her other half get another job instead of the current one, even though customer serivce by itself isn't really a bad option.
BUT I will ask that she stands back this time in order to lessen the strains on her relationship, and let nature take its flow and bash her lover on his head.
By the time he realise he is in 'waist-levelled mud', I encourage her to talk to him, but NOT TO directly help him out, for here is where he will have to learn the complete process of how to get yourself out of **** after foolishly diving in.
Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:WALAO. Don't ask people to tear down the bridge even before it is fully built.
Every relationship will have testing and doubtful times, it is just that how the couple face such periods of time.
Indeed she could cut down on her nagging, but I don't think she is not giving enough support to her other half.
It is obvious the choice her other half made are half-baked, and she would be literally driving him deeper into mud if she just leave him be and encourage him to continue his job.
Her nagging by itself is already a form of support, and here she is, seeking help from us to see what she could do for him. I support her in her decision to help get her other half get another job instead of the current one, even though customer serivce by itself isn't really a bad option.
BUT I will ask that she stands back this time in order to lessen the strains on her relationship, and let nature take its flow and bash her lover on his head.
By the time he realise he is in 'waist-levelled mud', I encourage her to talk to him, but NOT TO directly help him out, for here is where he will have to learn the complete process of how to get yourself out of **** after foolishly diving in.
Customer service job is not always the right job for every body.
Some people are not cut out to handle customer service jobs.
If she force her bf to take up customer service job just because it's "good" for his future.. I think it will hinder him .. instead of help him in his career selection.
A successful career is not about getting the job that everyone is having.
It's about selecting the right job for the right candidate.
The way TS constantly interferes and criticise her man... it will ultimately cause him to lose his self-confidence. That will be the downfall of a man.
Let him figure it out. A man's gota do what a man's gota do.
TS
u r e 1 keeping to tight on him.
if problem persists, i bet u guys will fight over $.
you how old he how old?
Originally posted by jojobeach:Customer service job is not always the right job for every body.
Some people are not cut out to handle customer service jobs.
If she force her bf to take up customer service job just because it's "good" for his future.. I think it will hinder him .. instead of help him in his career selection.
A successful career is not about getting the job that everyone is having.
It's about selecting the right job for the right candidate.
The way TS constantly interferes and criticise her man... it will ultimately cause him to lose his self-confidence. That will be the downfall of a man.
Let him figure it out. A man's gota do what a man's gota do.
READ carefully.
labbish's possibly future mother-in-law was the one who asked her son to take up the job. Labbish herself wanted her other half to get another job as she worries this part-time job will affect his studies when school starts.
I merely corrected her as she thought this job would be no better than a kitchen-helper, which is very untrue.
As the two of us mentioned, the best thing to do now is for her to take a step and back and let him do what he wants.
Firstly, i m not the one that think its no better then the other. Its him. He feels that kitchen helper can't help him much. but i feel that at least there is no night shift. he can rest at home probably. manual work he refuse, he says he is tired of that from NS. kitchen helper cant help him in resume. the office job he says got politics. other job, pay too low. pay high, need work weekend. then what? this job he find also need work on weekend just that its at night. the pay is also same as other part time job. not lower, not higher.
And one thing, i never force him to take up this shift cust svs job. =.= read carefully. in fact, i prefer he take up other job that is day time. so at night he can rest probably.
And yes. i decided to let him handle on his own. and at this point in time, i am also tired. he cant even manage his... haiz... maybe we are just not meant to be. the way we do things is just different. i agree that i have been mothering him. even his dad told me not to always do things for him just because he want. let him learn to do things himself.
really thank you guys. i read through every post and after a day thinking by myself, i guess i ought to let him experience the choices he made himself and not keep.. haiz...
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