Help! I hate going back to school.
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Well next week is the beginning of another school term and I really find it depressing, It's just that... in school, I have come to the conclusion that people DO hate me in my class. And well, it's really because of I don't smile and I spoil their moods whenever I come close as well as being unable to fit into the environment. And now, I really can't take it anymore. Due to this problem, I lost interest in my studies and has since been doing really badly since the start of school. Hence, I wish to seek advices on two issues.
1) I need tips on how to solve the crisis between me and my classmates.
2) If the crisis remains unsolvable, is there any ways to bring up the interest level and motivation in studying so that at least my grades will not be affected.
I'm really having the kind of feeling like you want to cry, but you can't. And now, I'm being isolated from parties and cliques . Things are not going so well, and I'm being shun away. At this rate, I do feel like transfering to a poly next year and I find it redundant to continue my route after the mid years as I can't really cope with my studies.
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Originally posted by Fighter kill:
Well next week is the beginning of another school term and I really find it depressing, It's just that... in school, I have come to the conclusion that people DO hate me in my class. And well, it's really because of I don't smile and I spoil their moods whenever I come close as well as being unable to fit into the environment. And now, I really can't take it anymore. Due to this problem, I lost interest in my studies and has since been doing really badly since the start of school. Hence, I wish to seek advices on two issues.
1) I need tips on how to solve the crisis between me and my classmates.
2) If the crisis remains unsolvable, is there any ways to bring up the interest level and motivation in studying so that at least my grades will not be affected.
I'm really having the kind of feeling like you want to cry, but you can't. And now, I'm being isolated from parties and cliques . Things are not going so well, and I'm being shun away. At this rate, I do feel like transfering to a poly next year and I find it redundant to continue my route after the mid years as I can't really cope with my studies.
Thanks for your advices!1) Since you are in poly, group works and projects could not be avoided. Social relationship and networking are VERY important. You need assistance from one another, no matter how smart and capable you are (this applies in working life too). Hence building up your social circle is very important. You do not have to please everyone, just make sure you have enough peeps to rely on in times on crisis. Looks like you didn't manage to do so.
Ever wonder if you had appeared snobbish or arrogant in front of them?
Are you naturally a straight-forward person that speaks without thinking?
Are you the initiative type?
Because people won't hate you for nothing. There must be something. Some reasons.
Did they actually tell you that they hate you? Or is it just in your mind? Cuz they didn't talk to you or something, and that makes you think that they hate you?
And how do you spoil their mood, like what did you do? Did they actually make a comment about it?
How about try approaching them instead (initiate lunch, dinner, etc) and remember to put up a smile?2) Sure there are.
Just think of the money you gotta pay for poly courses.
Are you going to let some random, insignificant people to affect your studies?
Do you want to repeat your modules? (paying extra $ and time to graduate etc)
The main problem is due to social relationship, not the course you are taking.
Just keep in mind that you are there to study. You have interest in your course, you want to do well, graduate, and f.o. You are not there to please people. You can survive being a lone-ranger. (definitely not a healthy thought, but that is if the problem remained unsolved) Even if you switch poly, could you confirm that the same problem won't happen again? Whatsmore, when you switch poly, everything is back to square one. You need to make new friends, adapt to new environment, etc.... Do you really want this?
.... Hope this helps.
Dont worry too much.... Everything will be fine.
What year are you in now btw?
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I believe TS is a JC student since he mentioned transferring to a poly and not changing to another poly.
You have to find and understand the cause of people'e behavior to you. People don't become hostile and ignore a person for no reason so review all your past actions and try to think of what you might have done to make people dislike you. Another alternative is to just openly ask them what they dislike about you. You can never change unless you know what is wrong.
As mentioned, poly has alot of project and group base work so you really need to be able to make friends and keep friends to make it easier for you to manage all your projects and stuff since poly is not a place where you can finish the entire course on your own without any group work
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Honestly, its not any different if you're working, there will still be people who hate you, even in your workplace. Can't please everyone.
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you case is typical.
YOU R LAZY.
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Great to know that school reopens next week. ha ha ha!
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are you ...
fat?
ugly?
stupid?
annoying?
or a combination of the above mentioned?
if your answer is yes to any one, therein lies the problem. If its a definite no, then your friends are all fucked up, and you should change class ASAP
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Well, life still have to goes on and the globe is still spinning no matter what you decide. But if you were to dwell in your own world, your life will certainly not change... so, go out there and change your friends' perception on you ba.
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sighs... me going back to sch oso sibeh stress... =(
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Originally posted by ihatepink:
sighs… me going back to sch oso sibeh stress… =(
really ? i get 2 camp at my fren hse cause my family come bak need quarantine for7 days? -.-''
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limpeh need to book in more sian right. School is good ok...
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Thanks for the suggestions! I am sorry I didn't make it clear that I am in jc.
Well I did considered the suggestions before,but I guess they have cemented their very first impressions and it seems really hard to change it. Due some circumstances after orientation, I was switched out of my orientation group into my present class. I wasn't able to join one of their cliques. Well I guess it might be due that I constantly give out a negative atmosphere making me unapproachable.
I think because of the already-cemented first impression, It seems that they would rather ignore me or simply shun me away. I like to make people smile (but I can't make myself) and I like to better their feelings. But sadly, none of the people in my class need this kind of spare tyres.
I have tried to remedy the situation, even going out to watch a movie with them. But we can't seem to even find a common topic to chat about (except well school).
Truthfully, I am facing such a situation for my first time and I am not really sure how to deal with it. Well the problem only lies in school thus I was able to find support from my friends outside. But nevertheless, I bet they would find it a chore when I constantly rant about what is happening in school.
Well once again thanks for any advices!
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Originally posted by Fighter kill:
Thanks for the suggestions! I am sorry I didn't make it clear that I am in jc.
Well I did considered the suggestions before,but I guess they have cemented their very first impressions and it seems really hard to change it. Due some circumstances after orientation, I was switched out of my orientation group into my present class. I wasn't able to join one of their cliques. Well I guess it might be due that I constantly give out a negative atmosphere making me unapproachable.
I think because of the already-cemented first impression, It seems that they would rather ignore me or simply shun me away. I like to make people smile (but I can't make myself) and I like to better their feelings. But sadly, none of the people in my class need this kind of spare tyres.
I have tried to remedy the situation, even going out to watch a movie with them. But we can't seem to even find a common topic to chat about (except well school).
Truthfully, I am facing such a situation for my first time and I am not really sure how to deal with it. Well the problem only lies in school thus I was able to find support from my friends outside. But nevertheless, I bet they would find it a chore when I constantly rant about what is happening in school.
Well once again thanks for any advices!
Your 'cemented' impressions might have been a barrier to help you move forward since part of you already 'givenup' on any hope and improvement and now you are already planning to run away by going to poly.
There should be different cliques in your class, have you tried to mingle with all of them or just 1 or 2 and given up expecting all to the same? 1 Outing is never enough to make people know you well enough to have lots to chat, you should not give up so quickly and give others and yourself more chance to get to know each other and maybe make friends.
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Originally posted by Fantagf:
Great to know that school reopens next week. ha ha ha!
No more clones.