heard this story from a friend -
when his gf went through a rough patch last year (had an accident leaving her in a bad shape, dropped out of night school, got the sack at work), he stuck to her and supported her totally. he was there by her side almost everyday at the hospital and gave her all the love he had for her. just to help her recover and get back on her feet asap. gf got better, her life's more or less on track.
recently my friend ran into a rough patch. he got depressed and cranky, quite unlike his natural self. you know what ? instead of showing care and concern, she demanded from him the same attention. forever asking getting wanting needing him, instead of being gentle, loving, giving and understanding. she started to shun him, and even see other guys. in her eyes, my friend has no more value for her. 'love' is a noble word, behind it is ugly possessiveness for her selfish needs.
what a shallow callous girl... it's all about her, her, her
Originally posted by Thak:heard this story from a friend -
when his gf went through a rough patch last year (had an accident leaving her in a bad shape, dropped out of night school, got the sack at work), he stuck to her and supported her totally. he was there by her side almost everyday at the hospital and gave her all the love he had for her. just to help her recover and get back on her feet asap. gf got better, her life's more or less on track.
recently my friend ran into a rough patch. he got depressed and cranky, quite unlike his natural self. you know what ? instead of showing care and concern, she demanded from him the same attention. forever asking getting wanting needing him, instead of being gentle, loving, giving and understanding. she started to shun him, and even see other guys. in her eyes, my friend has no more value for her. 'love' is a noble word, behind it is ugly possessiveness for her selfish needs.
what a shallow callous girl... it's all about her, her, her
There are many different types of guys and girls out there in this world, though somehow those truly good guys often get stuck with horrible girls and vice-versa. ( I am not being a sexist here )
Ask your friend to forget about this girl and look for a new gf. It will probably hurt him to do so, but it will be better this way than for him to be harmed by this girl any further.
Ask your friend why he did what he did.
If it is because thats the way he is, then good for him. He should forget about what he has done. He has done a good deed while he is able, he should be proud of himself.
If it is because he wants something in return, like love and affection, then he has wasted his effort. He should have picked a better prospect.
that's the reality of life, not every person will be appreciative of what other people do for them. there are many selfish people around, and unfortunately your friend met one like that.
move on, look around for better friends
nah he didn't do it in return for anything. he loved her but at that time she was obsessed over her past to feel it. seeing the state she was in, how could he leave ?
he's not complaining. what's there to complain about ? it's just me looking at his story and being retrospective here. in fact, he has already moved on.
Kinda sucks to hear that but not all girls are like that.. In fact some guys are the ones doing that..
But in my opinion, just because he took care of her last time, he shouldn't expect an obligatory response from her this time around, although from a third person perspective, we would say she should. Love is unconditional and it should be sincere. If she is like that, then she's the one at fault. How much can your friend tolerate? If he can sacrifice then carry on the relationship if not, move on.
just tell her where to get off ....
Another bitch in da house~
Ask your friend to ditch her. I bet he can find better ones
Originally posted by Squirrel<3Nuts:Another bitch in da house~
Ask your friend to ditch her. I bet he can find better ones
Fortunately he has done that already, according to the TS.
Originally posted by Thak:heard this story from a friend -
when his gf went through a rough patch last year (had an accident leaving her in a bad shape, dropped out of night school, got the sack at work), he stuck to her and supported her totally. he was there by her side almost everyday at the hospital and gave her all the love he had for her. just to help her recover and get back on her feet asap. gf got better, her life's more or less on track.
recently my friend ran into a rough patch. he got depressed and cranky, quite unlike his natural self. you know what ? instead of showing care and concern, she demanded from him the same attention. forever asking getting wanting needing him, instead of being gentle, loving, giving and understanding. she started to shun him, and even see other guys. in her eyes, my friend has no more value for her. 'love' is a noble word, behind it is ugly possessiveness for her selfish needs.
what a shallow callous girl... it's all about her, her, her
Do things according to yr clear conscious and u will be able to hold yr head high even no matter what happen. If the gal can live with a accuse and guilty soul and her be and be away from such person.
Love is about what u can give and not able what u received.
Originally posted by dinky1409:Kinda sucks to hear that but not all girls are like that.. In fact some guys are the ones doing that..
But in my opinion, just because he took care of her last time, he shouldn't expect an obligatory response from her this time around, although from a third person perspective, we would say she should. Love is unconditional and it should be sincere. If she is like that, then she's the one at fault. How much can your friend tolerate? If he can sacrifice then carry on the relationship if not, move on.
like i said, he wasn't expecting anything in return when he gave. u don't know him. do not taint his character or intent at the time when he did what he did.
even so, who are u to judge?
big wayang show put up by her friends. there's no need to go to such a length.
there are a few who talked about love - well, i don't think u know much about it yourself. so ditch the empty talk till u can do it urself.
Originally posted by FireIce:even so, who are u to judge?
if i, as his friend, can't judge like u said, who are strangers to judge ?
Originally posted by Thak:like i said, he wasn't expecting anything in return when he gave. u don't know him. do not taint his character or intent at the time when he did what he did.
my apologies, i didnt read your post above mine. I replied to your first post. if thats the case then, its the girl's loss. gd thing for the guy to move on.
why is the guy suffering from depressiona and cranky?