r u new 2 relatnshp? or r u very young?Originally posted by pocketful _of _starz:I am in a relationship with this guy for more than 8 months. And i muz say i really love him.
But recently , we are having more n more quarreling... and it never seems to stop.
The problem is .... he thinks i did not give him enough freedom, or rather possesive over him. i din noe tat the love i have been giving to him has cause him to feel this way.
we are from the same JC of the same course. we study together for test. however, after the test result was out. and i actually score better than him. he told mi that we shouldn't be studying together anymore as he thinks that i'm distracting him. in actual fact, i din disturb him at all, and infact i was helping him with questions which din noe how to do... and i was really hurt.
and after this incidence, he confront mi that i'm being too possesive... and i told him its becoz i love him and care for him too much... it might sound lame, but its really from the bottom of my heart.
i tried to change for him... but how can i at the same time care for him and yet not seems to be possesive...
i really need help... someone please give mi advice...
i awiz believe tt along e way in our life.. we LEARN.. bits by bits.. al e probs r juz lessons.. tt we learn...Originally posted by pocketful _of _starz:we are both 20 this year...but i must admit that i still have a childish thinking of handling relationship. i used to think that i wan to meet him everyday, so i spend all my time wif him.
however,my friend told mi to put myself into his shoe, or see the whole situation as a third person. and came to realise that if i were my bf, i can't it long ago.
we just sorted things out and both felt bery relieve now. we came to an conclusion, i.e. couples need not have to meet everyday; distances makes one to know how much it meants to each.
i really felt regreted tat i din realise the foolish/childish act of mi.
~~i will try my bery bery best in our new MATURE relationship. BUT I"M AFRIAD TAT I"M NOT USE TO IT??? will quarrel starts again??~~
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Sorry, I forgot to smile... That's why got this extra post...?Originally posted by joanne:well, gona try again.. diff couples haf diff ways to deal wif their r/s n problems. some couples wan to meet everyday, while some prefer to meet once a week? i mean, too much of anything is bad.. too much of ur love might 'suffocate' him too. dun ask too much from him, but be truthful i supposed. dun be just too afraid of losing him then keep all your sorows n unhappiness to urself, it is more important to share your views wif him. well, dun give yourself too much pressure on wat to do or wat not to do, if not the r/s will be more like a burden...
anyway, i believe that since u 2 are willing to change in order to salvage the situation, u 2 can surely come out wif a solution that helps both of you.. all e best!
Originally posted by joanne:well, gona try again.. diff couples haf diff ways to deal wif their r/s n problems. some couples wan to meet everyday, while some prefer to meet once a week? i mean, too much of anything is bad.. too much of ur love might 'suffocate' him too. dun ask too much from him, but be truthful i supposed. dun be just too afraid of losing him then keep all your sorows n unhappiness to urself, it is more important to share your views wif him. well, dun give yourself too much pressure on wat to do or wat not to do, if not the r/s will be more like a burden...
anyway, i believe that since u 2 are willing to change in order to salvage the situation, u 2 can surely come out wif a solution that helps both of you.. all e best!
Hahahahaha.... then be more mature !!! Take things easily , love is not every thing , juz treat love as a dessert . You can do or do without , but with love ard , it can sweeten ur life. Being in love should be a happy thing , you should enjoy every bit of it as it will not stay for long.Originally posted by pocketful _of _starz:we are both 20 this year...but i must admit that i still have a childish thinking of handling relationship. i used to think that i wan to meet him everyday, so i spend all my time wif him.
however,my friend told mi to put myself into his shoe, or see the whole situation as a third person. and came to realise that if i were my bf, i can't it long ago.
we just sorted things out and both felt bery relieve now. we came to an conclusion, i.e. couples need not have to meet everyday; distances makes one to know how much it meants to each.
i really felt regreted tat i din realise the foolish/childish act of mi.
~~i will try my bery bery best in our new MATURE relationship. BUT I"M AFRIAD TAT I"M NOT USE TO IT??? will quarrel starts again??~~
[This message has been edited by pocketful _of _starz (edited 20 March 2002).]
Very often that dessert can become part of that 3 meals a day...?Originally posted by urbanstrawie:Hahahahaha.... then be more mature !!! Take things easily , love is not every thing , juz treat love as a dessert . You can do or do without , but with love ard , it can sweeten ur life. Being in love should be a happy thing , you should enjoy every bit of it as it will not stay for long.
Very often that dessert can become part of that 3 meals a day...?Originally posted by Devil1976:[QUOTE]Originally posted by urbanstrawie:
[b] Hahahahaha.... then be more mature !!! Take things easily , love is not every thing , juz treat love as a dessert . You can do or do without , but with love ard , it can sweeten ur life. Being in love should be a happy thing , you should enjoy every bit of it as it will not stay for long.
Originally posted by urbanstrawie:3 meals a day??? hahahahahaha 5 meals a day oso no problem , so long as you dun depend on it to SURVIVE...