How do you say sorry....
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...to a girl, whom you once broke her heart unknowingly.
And it was just because you were too ignorant of her feelings, and her feelings were something you cant really tell.
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People rather forget, then you come and say sorry to remind them of that crap again.
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Go up to her, and just say sorry, maybe a few words after that to let her know why you're apologizing. And if you're really sincere, that apology should show.
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Originally posted by ditzy:
People rather forget, then you come and say sorry to remind them of that crap again.
Or that.
Because I can only see two reasons why you want to apologize. You have a conscience and you really want to apologize for something so vile you did. Or you want to get back with her or something.
Hey I could be wrong, good luck.
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Both your reasons are right.
But firstly, I've never been with her, as in in a r/s.2ndly, I did not know she like me that much until I saw the look on her eyes. She was bewildered and just stared at me in disbelief when I was talking to (and chasing after) another girl which I was closer with.
Each time I want to try and get closer with her, I just have a hard time doing so as I dun see her tt often and really sometimes the things I really want to say to her doesn't come out.
Now, I'm stuck thinking about her often...... -
Originally posted by nanotech:
Both your reasons are right.
But firstly, I've never been with her, as in in a r/s.2ndly, I did not know she like me that much until I saw the look on her eyes. She was bewildered and just stared at me in disbelief when I was talking to (and chasing after) another girl which I was closer with.
Each time I want to try and get closer with her, I just have a hard time doing so as I dun see her tt often and really sometimes the things I really want to say to her doesn't come out.
Now, I'm stuck thinking about her often......Just make sure you're not taking advantage of her emotionally, just because you find out she likes you doesn't mean you should turn 180 degrees and reciprocate. Sure it'll make her happy, but will you be happy?
But if you want to sorta fix things and probably be friends after, then you have to stop trying to say what you want to say and just say it.
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Originally posted by nanotech:
Both your reasons are right.
But firstly, I've never been with her, as in in a r/s.2ndly, I did not know she like me that much until I saw the look on her eyes. She was bewildered and just stared at me in disbelief when I was talking to (and chasing after) another girl which I was closer with.
Each time I want to try and get closer with her, I just have a hard time doing so as I dun see her tt often and really sometimes the things I really want to say to her doesn't come out.
Now, I'm stuck thinking about her often......The question now is, are you thinking of her out of guilt, or are you thinking of her, because you have now fallen in love with her?
If it is out of guilt, just leave her be. If you apologise for not reciprocating her feelings, the only thing you will be doing is lightening your own guilt - but at the cost of her feelings. She would feel even worse than she is now, and you will have hurt her even deeper.
If you find yourself falling for her now, then go after her. There is no need to hold anything back, just tell her directly that you like her and want her to go out with you. But make sure you are serious about it, and not just fooling arond with her.
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Dedicate/sing a song to her. Apologise by Timberland. -ok but ive gotta admit, the lyrics might not really fit in with the situation/ desired outcome.
okok.. Here's a really good song to dedicate, and the song fits in to your situation.
Breakeven- by The Script.
*Im just helping TS out here by giving him some good means of apologising. Please contribute if you have any helpful ideas!
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Just apologise for hurting her feelings and tell her the whole truth why you were ignorant. BUT don't expect her to forgive you, for that right belongs to her and is hers alone to give.
Learn from it and next time, be a bit more sensitive towards others, espacially to females and whom show you attention that you may be able to reciprocate.
TImes will change, but even though we live in modern times, many, (not all though) are still traditionally bounded to demurness and shyness in brought up, even though some of them may look or act tough in work or studies.
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Thx all of u guys for the replies!
I believe the conscience path right now is to tell her how I honestly feel, and that would definitely bring the real guts out of me.
OHSheet's method of playing the song seems romantic, however it can be a bit too 'adventurous' for me. I do appreciate the sincere efforts though.
xtreyler is damn right about how most of us are traditionally bounded to demurness despite how tough we may be. It is apparent that I am one of them.To Keii & Forbiddensinner, I do not believe I am thinking of her out of guilt, as I initially did like her. Nonetheless, the reason I prefer not to be too 'open' about my feelings for her is because I am not certain whether these feelings I have for her are genuine, or permanent.
My guess is that It is unwise to ask her to jump into a relationship when I do not know her at a more personal level. Moreover, what I fear is to be in a relationship with her and to have the feelings die of later.
And that would have shown a very immature part of me. It is not nice to break a girl's heart, just because I was too stupid on my part.Oh well, I guess the right time will come. But with my crucial initiatives at least.
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Originally posted by nanotech:
Thx all of u guys for the replies!
I believe the conscience path right now is to tell her how I honestly feel, and that would definitely bring the real guts out of me.
OHSheet's method of playing the song seems romantic, however it can be a bit too 'adventurous' for me. I do appreciate the sincere efforts though.
xtreyler is damn right about how most of us are traditionally bounded to demurness despite how tough we may be. It is apparent that I am one of them.To Keii & Forbiddensinner, I do not believe I am thinking of her out of guilt, as I initially did like her. Nonetheless, the reason I prefer not to be too 'open' about my feelings for her is because I am not certain whether these feelings I have for her are genuine, or permanent.
My guess is that It is unwise to ask her to jump into a relationship when I do not know her at a more personal level. Moreover, what I fear is to be in a relationship with her and to have the feelings die of later.
And that would have shown a very immature part of me. It is not nice to break a girl's heart, just because I was too stupid on my part.Oh well, I guess the right time will come. But with my crucial initiatives at least.
It is good that you doubt yourself instead of jumping right into a relationship with her.
But don't wait too long, she might look for another guy for support, and once you comfirmed your feelings for her, it might be too late already.
Wait till you are sure and ready before you approach her; apologise to her, and ask her out with you.
As I said before, if you find yourself not to have any true feelings for her, then just leave her be. If you apologise to her and tell her that you do not want a relationship with her, it will only make her even more upset.
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Nanotech, your story is quiet a ... but maybe there may be something that stop you two being near. I don't think is that nice to apologize but instead "do" something nice to her, like find a reason to get her something she likes. If it's me, i would prefer a jewellery pieces rather than a “I’m sorry.” Don’t be Shock by the item’s name, Jewellery, as nowadays you can get something pretty nice for less than $100. It’s better than you send a bouquet of yellow roses. Be sincere when you meet her for perhaps a dinner, It’s the thought that she will “accept” you not how you say “sorry” to her. Perhaps a message card attach would be nice. If you can’t get her to meet up then
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give her some time to accept and absorb the facts. after a while if she's still showing u a cold shoulder or not acting normal, confront her. i do admire guys who got the guts to confront matters at hand, instead of avoiding the problem. if she's mature enough she'll try and tell you what she's angry about etc. if everything is good, u both might be back as friends again. :D
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Originally posted by Queenmedusalove:
You are advertising your goods. -__-
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and u are being smart by quoting it somemore
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Originally posted by FireIce:
and u are being smart by quoting it somemore
Thank you.