i need help please
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i am a below average guy. i have liked this girl for a long time. she knows that i like her but she is not interested in me. i try to keep talking to her, but i am scared that i am disturbing her too much because she sometimes doesnt reply me. how can i make her fall in love with me?
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first post since 07.
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What you need is ____________
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U have a not very good head start but maybe u can continue to try it out.
Since yr time with her might be limited. Ask quality questions and not quantity questions. Find out her interest and likes, work on it. Most gals like surprise and romance. But don't overdo it.
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One thinks that one gets what one wants in life. The reality is one attracts what one is.
So what are you BEING? eg, kind, loving or .... A good start is self-honesty!
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Originally posted by mancha:
What you need is ......
what do i need?
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Originally posted by CannyOng:
U have a not very good head start but maybe u can continue to try it out.
Since yr time with her might be limited. Ask quality questions and not quantity questions. Find out her interest and likes, work on it. Most gals like surprise and romance. But don't overdo it.
but how to surprise her and be romantic?
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How old are you?
Why do you say you are below average. Who are you comparing yourself with and comparing base on?
Love is not something you can force and forcing it won't help you at all.
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The only way you can expect anyone to fall in love with you is:
1) Study real hard and is the top 3 percent of your school. Meaning: Perform well in your studies, hobbies & work.
2) Pick up skills that will interest her to you.
One: Learn Salsa dancing, at least hip hop, learn to speak french & a foreign language effectively, learn to be able to play a musical instrument. Get your riding, driving, diving & even flying licences.
3) Clean up your room & your wardrobe.
4) Correct your posture, diction, fashion sense & your health eg, mental, physical & your dental health.
5) Do not disturb the girl by talking or sms-sing to her. She has her time-table. And stop expecting that she should reply your sms, that will be your first start.
And until you get yourself in a position where you are sexy and attractive, no girl will fall in love with you.
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Yes, when you are 'attractive and sexy' and have acquired all that is supposedly necessary - she will fall for u, certainly, but sadly she must be a bimbo, a dense one lah.
U will be a means to her end. Beware the fall!
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age pls...
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Originally posted by dkcx:
How old are you?
Why do you say you are below average. Who are you comparing yourself with and comparing base on?
Love is not something you can force and forcing it won't help you at all.
does my age really matter? because everyone says it that way. below average or average. i don't mean i wanna force. my point is, i only wished that she could, at least, like me or wad.
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Originally posted by FukNoob:
does my age really matter? because everyone says it that way. below average or average. i don't mean i wanna force. my point is, i only wished that she could, at least, like me or wad.
Sometimes diff age group thinks differently and different solutions might be given.
What people say should have a reason for them to say so. Whats the reason or what have you done to make people say such things about you. Some examples?
I didn't mean physical force. What i meant was more that you cannot make someone like you overnight or immediately. Best to work on changing yourself first before trying to chase someone.
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sign on.
girls like men in uniform
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i suck
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firstly.. how close are you with her? are you even frens with her?
if you are still studying. its most likely just a puppy crush and will go away eventually
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Originally posted by dkcx:
Sometimes diff age group thinks differently and different solutions might be given.
What people say should have a reason for them to say so. Whats the reason or what have you done to make people say such things about you. Some examples?
I didn't mean physical force. What i meant was more that you cannot make someone like you overnight or immediately. Best to work on changing yourself first before trying to chase someone.
ok, im 18. i asked my friends for their opinions.
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Originally posted by <(0))><:
firstly.. how close are you with her? are you even frens with her?
if you are still studying. its most likely just a puppy crush and will go away eventually
dont tink too much or get too emotional over it.we are friends. regarding how close, i cannot confirm anything. because i don't know under wad circumstances then will it be considered close. the feeling has been with me for half a year already. ('-'ll)
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if you want an easy way,
be rich
20k ring will do.
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Originally posted by FukNoob:
ok, im 18. i asked my friends for their opinions.
Have you asked them why they rated you as average or below average? The way to change is to first know your flaws. If you cannot see it yourself then you will need your peers to 'highlight' it to you.
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18? If you going to serve army, best don't try yet. 3 months seperation, see only on weekly basis after that...gonna be a really long stretch of time of seperation, so social life with her will cfm be affected.
Unless of course, you ain't gonna serve the army or something.
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Originally posted by FukNoob:
does my age really matter? because everyone says it that way. below average or average. i don't mean i wanna force. my point is, i only wished that she could, at least, like me or wad.
And what are the points, that you think she should like you?1) You look good?
2) You study good? You work and earn money good?
3) You understand what she is saying and has no problem matching her?
4) You know more things then her? Have more skills then her? Does more activities then her? Is able to lead her instead of wasting her time and be her obstacle to achieving her desired lifestyle?
5) You got at least put in a effort to make yourself above average?
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Age is a number, maturity matters and it is obvious that u are BEING immature about this so-called liking and wha-not.
My suggetion - unlearn the conditioning (eg of what love is, what a girl should be, what a guy should be ---- all rubbbish) cos u are here (on earth) to be u and no one else. Uniqueness is what u are. I do not want to belabor on ...
Comparing is going to be ur undoing. U are though it is unconscious.
Become what u want to see in others and u are free. If u want a loving, kind, grateful gal or ... become that. Its within u buried under a mountain of conditioning, awaiting recognition and discovery. This is possible, of course, if u are willing to look on the 'inside' of u.
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Age do not matter... But if you are still schooling, I would advise you drop the idea and go back to your books.
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need help to make baby for you also?