i'm troubled..
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i haven't been falling for any girl ever since my ex left me 3 yrs ago.
in the mean time, i don't intend to have any r/s throughout my uni life cus i wanna focus on my studies.recently, there's this special girl who i fall for the moment i saw her. whenever she's online, i have to urge to chat with her. whenever i see her in real life, i've the urge to talk to her. my mind just can't stop thinking abt her. i've been telling myself to wake up my idea but it doesn't seems to work.
y can't i control my emotions? -
You really seem to have alot of problems don't you...
Theres nothing wrong with being friends. Why do you have to resist it so much? Just chat and get to know her better to see whether shes really your type. Relationships might affect your studies but sometimes it can also motivate you to study even harder if your gf is also a studious person.
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Originally posted by dkcx:
You really seem to have alot of problems don't you...
Theres nothing wrong with being friends. Why do you have to resist it so much? Just chat and get to know her better to see whether shes really your type. Relationships might affect your studies but sometimes it can also motivate you to study even harder if your gf is also a studious person.
u talk like his dad like that
really make me laugh
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Originally posted by dkcx:
You really seem to have alot of problems don't you...
Theres nothing wrong with being friends. Why do you have to resist it so much? Just chat and get to know her better to see whether shes really your type. Relationships might affect your studies but sometimes it can also motivate you to study even harder if your gf is also a studious person.
yes. whenever i've prob, i'll be in Aunt Agony..
i know there's nothing wrong being friends. i'm afraid the closer i am with her, the more i want to make her mine and that'll be against my principle.
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
yes. whenever i've prob, i'll be in Aunt Agony..
i know there's nothing wrong being friends. i'm afraid the closer i am with her, the more i want to make her mine and that'll be against my principle.
think yr feeling that way is normal for youngster
even we married ppl sometime oso got that urge but we try to control ourself
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
i haven't been falling for any girl ever since my ex left me 3 yrs ago.
in the mean time, i don't intend to have any r/s throughout my uni life cus i wanna focus on my studies.recently, there's this special girl who i fall for the moment i saw her. whenever she's online, i have to urge to chat with her. whenever i see her in real life, i've the urge to talk to her. my mind just can't stop thinking abt her. i've been telling myself to wake up my idea but it doesn't seems to work.
y can't i control my emotions?That you had to ask why you cant control your emotions only proves you are not master of your own emotions, lacking in its control and management of it. What else will you 'lose control' of and blame it on something else? Afterall, you are an educated and matured grown adult already.
Today it is this 'uncontrollable' urge to chat with her. What next? I dare not contemplate.
Talk is easy and cheap. But still, it is within your power to control your emotions and not let it betray your sensibilities. Perhaps it may be time to train yourself up to control your emotions - never to give in to urges or impulses, but to follow strictly on fully rationalised course of what you want, what you hope to achieve and what must be done to see a successful conclusion or a stop gap 'cut loss' measure to such goals.
Make no mistake.That girl is only a secondary issue. Your emotions and its control is the primary concern.
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i haven't been falling for any girl ever since my ex left me 3 yrs ago.
in the mean time, i don't intend to have any r/s throughout my uni life cus i wanna focus on my studies.u r just not disciplined enuff. ha !
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go for it and fail like me
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The only sin is that of laziness. Lazy, too lazy to understand what emanates from within u - emotions, feelings.
One can control (emotions, feelings) - but it is repression. Sooner or later it will surface or it will erupt. One remains accidental. One has merely dealt with it superficially. Only what u understand and accept frees u. One is no longer accidental as one is moving to the centre or is being essential. One has plunged into the very depths of one's being and dealt with (or dealing) the roots.
As for ur 'falling in love' is it lust, needs, need for existential validation, flirting or love? Self-honesty and a porous ego may provide the answers.
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
i haven't been falling for any girl ever since my ex left me 3 yrs ago.
in the mean time, i don't intend to have any r/s throughout my uni life cus i wanna focus on my studies.recently, there's this special girl who i fall for the moment i saw her. whenever she's online, i have to urge to chat with her. whenever i see her in real life, i've the urge to talk to her. my mind just can't stop thinking abt her. i've been telling myself to wake up my idea but it doesn't seems to work.
y can't i control my emotions?Goes with the flow. Making love or friends is not a logical event.
They are governed mainly by hormones not neurons signals.
You dont need to think logically.
And if you all eventually make it to couple. Wish you well.
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you can try,i mean TRY,that is if the girl in mention does not give you a chance and then gives you a bit of hope,and in the end crushes your hopes.
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
yes. whenever i've prob, i'll be in Aunt Agony..
i know there's nothing wrong being friends. i'm afraid the closer i am with her, the more i want to make her mine and that'll be against my principle.
That will depend on your own self control and determination. It might just be a temporary thing for now but how it progress really depends on yourself and noone else really knows you better than yourself.
Sometimes people wait and regret later when they lose a person. Sometimes people can find even better 1s because they wait.
The new school semester starts tomorrow so it would be best you settle your thoughts fast and focus on your studies. Remember in an earlier thread you worried about your results and future so make sure you don't let this issue affect it.
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Cos your brain is empty...
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
even we married ppl sometime oso got that urge but we try to control ourself
"Try" ah... XD
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Originally posted by dkcx:
That will depend on your own self control and determination. It might just be a temporary thing for now but how it progress really depends on yourself and noone else really knows you better than yourself.
Sometimes people wait and regret later when they lose a person. Sometimes people can find even better 1s because they wait.
The new school semester starts tomorrow so it would be best you settle your thoughts fast and focus on your studies. Remember in an earlier thread you worried about your results and future so make sure you don't let this issue affect it.
u r right.
i've figured it out. it's better for me to focus on my studies. i cannot afford to lose concentration. so i guess we'll remain as friends for the time being.
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Originally posted by caleb_chiang:
Cos your brain is empty...
NO! i've thought abt it and i think it's better for me to treat her as a friend, nothing more than just a friend.
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
u r right.
i've figured it out. it's better for me to focus on my studies. i cannot afford to lose concentration. so i guess we'll remain as friends for the time being.
I'm glad you sort out your thoughts. School starting today le so remember to study hard.
You seem easily affected by things happening around you though and your studies might be easily affected. Do consider what i suggested to you before in PM though as that might help you more in the long run.
Good luck.
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Originally posted by lonestar86:
NO! i've thought abt it and i think it's better for me to treat her as a friend, nothing more than just a friend.
I meant... when you fall for someone, your brain emptied every thoughts... cos all you can think of is the person of your dream. -
If one purports to love another and at the same time feels fear of losing him/her or even wanting to possess the ... belies the lack of self - love. Hence, the fear. It is needs of many sorts parading as love. One's love is beggarly. One gives only to take or hoping for rewards.
It will soon entrap the other and oneself is enslaved. Freedom (of loving) has become bondage. And if both are in the same predicament ( fear-based love) the usual is of exploiting each other for the benefit of each ends. Only the word 'love' is used but certainly it is not.
Look around and observe - many walking graves lah.