Is popularity and reputation really all?
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Is popularity and reputation really all?
I mean people rather agree with popular and famous kids than to agree with me.
It's like they dont understand what is the problem and choice and whatever, but prefered to go along with the more popular and reputation kid.
I dont get a damm say in anything, i am forced to follow and listen and get scolded by people at my age for nothing. -
Popularity and reputation are but over-stated terms of defination.
Find out why a person is popular or carries a reputation that others trust, and you will understand such terms more clearly.
No human would like to associate with negative or sad people. Life is already tough enough without that added burden from them seeking to be friends. It's not that one is not caring, but humans need a source of strength, role models, to push and propel themselves above their daily woes, and learn from them.
You too can be popular and have a good solid reputation. All you need is to be a bit more caring, listen more than you talk, be honest and sincere to your friends at all times good or bad, and your circle of relationships will grow automatically.
Do not attempt to be a square peg in a world of round holes. You will never be able to fit. Attempts to be aloof, unique or acting cool will get you nowhere. Rather, be yourself, a caring person whom others can trust and rely on. This is something you too will admire in others, why not you become your own ideal and live it?
True friendships are precious in life, treasure it if you have to opportunity to make them.
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Hmm, i really hate much about it yet i also dont know about it!
I am like filled with so much doubts even about what am i.
I cant even see properly what am i doing everything for this and that. Friends just dont like me, i really dont know why! I tried being myself, tried being cool, tried being emo and everything. But ppl still just dont like me, i really cant get myself to understand why!
When it comes to having group work, no ppl likes to choose me, nobody wanna work with me! I am always that kind of outcast by ppl, rejected and removed from them. -
Originally posted by Lonely.:
Hmm, i really hate much about it yet i also dont know about it!
I am like filled with so much doubts even about what am i.
I cant even see properly what am i doing everything for this and that. Friends just dont like me, i really dont know why! I tried being myself, tried being cool, tried being emo and everything. But ppl still just dont like me, i really cant get myself to understand why!
When it comes to having group work, no ppl likes to choose me, nobody wanna work with me! I am always that kind of outcast by ppl, rejected and removed from them.Sorry, but you really need to see a psychiatrist to psychoanalyse your personality and problems. You need professional help. Seriously. Better to be aware of it now, deal with it, during your formative years than to deal with it later when you are more set in your ways.
(Dont grow up to be another bitter Uncle Chia...hehehe....)
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Originally posted by xtreyier:
(Dont grow up to be another bitter Uncle Chia...hehehe....)
aawwwww.........
>group hug< -
Originally posted by FireIce:
aawwwww.........
>group hug<
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Originally posted by Lonely.:
Hmm, i really hate much about it yet i also dont know about it!
I am like filled with so much doubts even about what am i.
I cant even see properly what am i doing everything for this and that. Friends just dont like me, i really dont know why! I tried being myself, tried being cool, tried being emo and everything. But ppl still just dont like me, i really cant get myself to understand why!
When it comes to having group work, no ppl likes to choose me, nobody wanna work with me! I am always that kind of outcast by ppl, rejected and removed from them.Are you an approachable person ?
Do you sit around waiting for love to come ?
Are you helpful to others and frequently offers your help to people in need ?
Do you have any skill you excel in ?
You're an outcast because of how you carry yourself in front of others.
If you expect everyone around you to agree with your thoughts, then you are in fact, quite a big jerk. And most likely an argumentative one which drives everyone away from you.
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Reputation n popularity is in the hands of others. That is what these are.
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You cannot control that but u can certainly what u are.
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Originally posted by Lonely.:
Hmm, i really hate much about it yet i also dont know about it!
I am like filled with so much doubts even about what am i.
I cant even see properly what am i doing everything for this and that. Friends just dont like me, i really dont know why! I tried being myself, tried being cool, tried being emo and everything. But ppl still just dont like me, i really cant get myself to understand why!
When it comes to having group work, no ppl likes to choose me, nobody wanna work with me! I am always that kind of outcast by ppl, rejected and removed from them.do u really need others?have you not thought of that they are much shallower as they only follow?dont you have any unique selling points about yourself?care for them and aid them when they need you..otherwise u can always be by urself ya..
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Hi TS,
perhaps u can try to be neutral and look from the other side.
1 more thing, no one is always rite. perhaps u might b wrg but u fail to see it. can it be pride? well, perhaps :)
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Originally posted by Lonely.:
Is popularity and reputation really all?
I mean people rather agree with popular and famous kids than to agree with me.
It's like they dont understand what is the problem and choice and whatever, but prefered to go along with the more popular and reputation kid.
I dont get a damm say in anything, i am forced to follow and listen and get scolded by people at my age for nothing.Every wonder why they are popular ? And why u are not ?
lol
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Ai yo... it just show that you dun fit into that group... get out while you still alive.
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if you are born ugly don't blame your parents.
if your life is tough don't blame the government...
instead of seating there, why not go out and make friends?
when you love people, people will come and love you.
normally a person who is popular has a great amount of confidence that can influence other and has a postive will, and ppl love to hang around ppl his/her type.
remember this
Confidence is the greatest luxury a man can ever have. -
Originally posted by xtreyier:
Sorry, but you really need to see a psychiatrist to psychoanalyse your personality and problems. You need professional help. Seriously. Better to be aware of it now, deal with it, during your formative years than to deal with it later when you are more set in your ways.
(Dont grow up to be another bitter Uncle Chia...hehehe....)
hahaha yeah you're spot on..besides Uncle Chia, that Uncle Yap also needs urgent psychiatric treatment from IMH.
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Originally posted by xtreyier:
No human would like to associate with negative or sad people. Life is already tough enough without that added burden from them seeking to be friends. It's not that one is not caring, but humans need a source of strength, role models, to push and propel themselves above their daily woes, and learn from them.
Haha that was true in my and your generations but in the younger generation, being angsty and looking troubled have its cool cachet
isn't that why some of those kids cut themselves? -
Originally posted by TheMissus:
Haha that was true in my and your generations but in the younger generation, being angsty and looking troubled have its cool cachet
isn't that why some of those kids cut themselves?It's really an irony. Why would anyone think those who look troubled are cool? I find it hard to comprehend.
There were times in my life when woes overwhelmed me, and I had attempted not to care about anything or anyone, for none seemed to care about me. I would walk alone, dine alone, drink in a pub alone, keeping to myself, and even if the world was falling apart, I wouldnt bat an eyelid.
I was cold to anyone and didnt wish to talk to anyone. I still did my job, frighteningly cool and detachedly professional, more like a machine than a human. Some shunned me, but others thought I was 'cool'.
But deep down inside me burned a pain no one could help. It was a lonely period. It is not something a human should endure, but in my pain, rather than to lash at others, i bottled it deep inside, and tried so hard to put on a smile, which was difficult, and only worsen the hurt and loneliness when if only i had just talk to someone who cared and understood, the pain would be lessened thru constructive criticism and advice.
The irony of it all was that there were others who think such attitude are good role model behaviour to adopt, perhaps in the hope to illicit sympathy. They don't realized that they wont get any, more so if it was just an 'act' and would be derided outright when found out. None would want to feel foolish in helping an 'actor'.
Then there are those who put on angsty unnecessary behaviour on their own young shoulders. Youth is only once and should be enjoyed and not suffered, so long as expectations are kept reasonable.
Every problem, regardless if we are young or old, has a solution. We have to solve it, and move on to enjoy our limited time on Earth. No one needs to be in pain, more so the need to 'act' out pain, which makes one's life more miserable when others avoid such people.
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Originally posted by xtreyier:
It's really an irony. Why would anyone think those who look troubled are cool? I find it hard to comprehend.
There were times in my life when woes overwhelmed me, and I had attempted not to care about anything or anyone, for none seemed to care about me. I would walk alone, dine alone, drink in a pub alone, keeping to myself, and even if the world was falling apart, I wouldnt bat an eyelid.
I was cold to anyone and didnt wish to talk to anyone. I still did my job, frighteningly cool and detachedly professional, more like a machine than a human. Some shunned me, but others thought I was 'cool'.
But deep down inside me burned a pain no one could help. It was a lonely period. It is not something a human should endure, but in my pain, rather than to lash at others, i bottled it deep inside, and tried so hard to put on a smile, which was difficult, and only worsen the hurt and loneliness when if only i had just talk to someone who cared and understood, the pain would be lessened thru constructive criticism and advice.
The irony of it all was that there were others who think such attitude are good role model behaviour to adopt, perhaps in the hope to illicit sympathy. They don't realized that they wont get any, more so if it was just an 'act' and would be derided outright when found out. None would want to feel foolish in helping an 'actor'.
Then there are those who put on angsty unnecessary behaviour on their own young shoulders. Youth is only once and should be enjoyed and not suffered, so long as expectations are kept reasonable.
Every problem, regardless if we are young or old, has a solution. We have to solve it, and move on to enjoy our limited time on Earth. No one needs to be in pain, more so the need to 'act' out pain, which makes one's life more miserable when others avoid such people.
I agree. Both TS and xtreyier should look to Jesus for help. Jesus is the answer to all problems you have, and only He can provide us with true content and joy that is not fleeting and temporal.
xtreyier, Jesus will also answer you for all you want in a life partner. This is definitely true. I have seen countless acts of miracles, in which people who got exactly what they wanted in a life partner, the odds of which would be totally improbable by human capacity.
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Depends how you see life, some people want to be surrounded by people and alot of attention. Some people prefer a simple life and honest relationships with people around them. What do you want?
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