W.Ong of a PI company located in the North next to a petrol station had been hiding being a henpeck while the wife became the spokeman of him.
I'm pregnant and doctor told me I need to induce the baby out due to my health condition. I'm at the lost and being stupid to call him as he's the father of the child. End up I got scolded by his wife D.Lim being shameless. I was thinking if she capable enough why will her husband went out cheating and yet refused to allow her husband to go for a DNA test. What does this proof? Claimed believe in her husband but yet refused her husband to go for DNA test.
They had a son and a daughter, am I very evil to think that hope there's karma fall against them. I'm so confused.
Originally posted by chipmuck:W.Ong of a PI company located in the North next to a petrol station had been hiding being a henpeck while the wife became the spokeman of him.
I'm pregnant and doctor told me I need to induce the baby out due to my health condition. I'm at the lost and being stupid to call him as he's the father of the child. End up I got scolded by his wife D.Lim being shameless. I was thinking if she capable enough why will her husband went out cheating and yet refused to allow her husband to go for a DNA test. What does this proof? Claimed believe in her husband but yet refused her husband to go for DNA test.
They had a son and a daughter, am I very evil to think that hope there's karma fall against them. I'm so confused.
It is perfectly normal for a wife to be fired up at such events. The fault of a person having an affair does not lies on the other party. No one will want the their significant other to cheat on them outside their relationship.
Like most of the forumers had commented on the other threads, you should know what the road would leads eventually. I know that during the relationship, of course the father of your child would coax you and I understand that you would not think rational enough to see the situation as a by stander that it is only a affair as no divorce was filed even though there was like repeated breaks and pact in this relationship.
Don't be confuse, you are not alone in the world and you still need to be strong and take care of your new born child.
Relax, girl.
What's done is done. Too late for anything. You had been living in a dream, deluded yourself that your bf will magically acknowledge you and your kid, divorce his wife and marry you.
That's the stuff of taiwanese and korean movies. It sure is a rude shock to your young immatured mind. I really and sincerly wish your awakening would be gentle, but reality is often harsh, painfull and hard to bear.
Still, you must face up to the truth. I can feel your pain, but there is nothing that I can do that can give you consolation....
You may feel alone, and perhaps with feelings of being an outcaste, labelled by some uncaring friends or relatives, for what you did, knowingly or unknowingly is deeply wrong. People are quick to judge.
But that is all they can do - judge. You still have control over your life, for it's your gift and right to live as you choose to. It's already too late for abortion, not that I would reccomend it any way. Choose wisely, for now you have a precious life in your hands.
You are not alone, for there are single mothers in existance, even in Spore, and are respected for the courage and love for their child had shown. You too, can be like one of them.
There are events that you can no longer control. Walk away. You may be seeking vengence, but do not do it. Retribution is sure in life, and come in many forms. I know, and had experienced it. No human is immune to it. So too will your bf.
These are events beyond your mortal control, best leave it, walk away, and focus on living your life now, with a precious child on the way. These are events that you can still control, and we as a society will help you, as long as you dont give up on yourself and more important, your innocent child.
Wipe that tear away and make it your last drop. Have a good sleep and face the new day, with courage and not fear, for you are in reality, not alone. We are Singaporeans, know what is pain and fear, but that had never gotten us down, only made us more resilient, strong and courageous to live for a better tomorrow. You are one of us, through the blood of your forefathers.
Originally posted by chipmuck:W.Ong of a PI company located in the North next to a petrol station had been hiding being a henpeck while the wife became the spokeman of him.
I'm pregnant and doctor told me I need to induce the baby out due to my health condition. I'm at the lost and being stupid to call him as he's the father of the child. End up I got scolded by his wife D.Lim being shameless. I was thinking if she capable enough why will her husband went out cheating and yet refused to allow her husband to go for a DNA test. What does this proof? Claimed believe in her husband but yet refused her husband to go for DNA test.
They had a son and a daughter, am I very evil to think that hope there's karma fall against them. I'm so confused.
Surely you are not expecting his wife to open her arms and embrace you into her family , are you ?
She is afraid of the DNA test, because she is afraid of finding out the truth.
As a woman, she needs to put up a brave front for everyone else to see.
Deep inside, she has fears just like any human beings.
Because of one man's selfish act, so many lives goes into disarray.
Cheating on his wife is already a cowardly act, what more can you expect from a person as dishonorable as he ?
speaking about karma, you having a child out of wedlock is the result of an affair...as much as the blame is on the man, you should have known better.....best wishes...
Poor innocent kid (if it survives the induction). All because of his/her parents' follies.
Since the man does not intend to own up, just keep on pestering him for money to help bring up the kid. No point arguing and fighting, focus on the important thing and that is ensure that you get money from him to bring up the kid properly. If ge doesn't pay, just keep on pestering him at home and everywhere else he goes.
life's is full of surprise,n also full of shit
anyway love is blind too
life's is full of surprise,n also full of shit
anyway love is blind too
Simple and yet edifying
Sometimes in life you don't get what you want.
Everything isn't unfair.
Such is life.
Learn to deal with it ,
Learn to live with it.
I actually felt very sorry for you and ur child.
All those suffering and pain you when through,
but it's not over yet.
It will be pass on to ur child.
How are you going to face ur child, is the lesson you had to learn in life....
Remember always, the child you are carrying in your womb is a life, precious and innocent.
The child did not asked to be born, but it was a blessing to you, even though you may think otherwise now. Not many are even capable of bearing a child, or those in your situation, would even consider bearing it for so long.
The child is innocent, and is dependant on you for sustenance. Weak, tiny, but breathing, he/she needs you even more now, for a chance to live, for your protection against the elements.
No matter what happens, he/she is innocent. The child has done no wrong, and is not a burden to you, only because he/she is weak,uncomprehending, knows nothing of our world. You must protect her/him till he/she can fend for herself.
The child needs you. Please do not deny her/him of love and concern, the way you had been denied by your bf. You know how it feels, how more will your baby feel, if left abandoned and alone?
The child is innocent and is yours too, a part of you lives in him/her. You are not alone in being a single mother. Pragmatism dictates the necessity for money, but as long as you live within a civilised society such as ours, with pillars of family, relatives and friends for support as well as your own brains, hands and legs, you need not beg and are fully capable of earning money to support yourself and child.
You innocent baby within you needs you now, more than ever. Be strong, for your baby and yourself,just as the rest of us have to be, for no one amongst us have no problems or find life a bed of roses daily. We all can overcome our woes, and a better tomorrow exists.
Your greatest reward is not bags of gold, for it only brings more problems and worries than comfort. Your greatest reward is the shining pure joy from her eyes when she sees you, the sweet smile that will radiate from her/his mouth as his/her tiny hands reaches out to hug you, all unconditional a love no other human can give or you can ever hope to experience in life. He/she is your child.
Originally posted by chipmuck:They had a son and a daughter, am I very evil to think that hope there's karma fall against them. I'm so confused.
Love is the most insane, most delusive and most transient of passions.