To be tactful..
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My gf... not so recently started talking about me quick finish NS and get a job so can have baby....
I want la but not so soon......
How to be tactful to make sure she wont anyhow do stunt ah? -
skip the get married part???
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Originally posted by FireIce:
skip the get married part???
Just say baby...
I'm still young and playful lol... -
then who feed??
PAP ah? -
go get another gf.
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thats y lo...
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She fully working le la...
Me NS liability.. -
Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
go get another gf.
I wont la.
If want also tough..
She almost chase all my female friends away liao.. -
oh... she might be hinting something?
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You can try talking to her about it hopefully she understands.
Sometimes it might be her parents who are placing stress level on her.
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you are still serving NS?
so i presume ur gf couldn't be that old. and she wants a baby at her age now? wth
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how to faster finish ns.......
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U ask: How to be tactful to make sure she wont anyhow do stunt ah?
She is going to be what she is n that is beyond your control and all that u need to be is responsible for what u are n do.
If u feel anxious n fearful of fatherhood, marriage or ... or even what is to come - all u can, perhaps, do is share what u really feel with her without blaming her for what u feel. She may not accept it or on the other hand she may appreciate u for expressing what u actually feel.
Self-honesty is a prerequisite before u speak to her and do anything, otherwise u are being unfair to her as well as to urself.
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Aiyo, even corporate working adults are thinking twice about having kids due to the high cost of living, you want to have one even before you finish NS?
Are you a scholar guaranteed a high paying job after you finish NS and confirmed going to some Ivy League college?
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While it is a fact that money, or the lack of it, is a major concern to some with regards to having babies, it certainly did not stop many more from having children, caring and nurturing them, sacrificing much for the most precious issue in a civlise society - the family unit.
But it is only when you matured that you will value family life and kids of your own, and know its true meaning.
However, you are still relatively young, with a full life ahead of you both, it may be worthy of consideration to weigh the pros and the cons of having kids now. The costs may be high, but our society will never abandon anyone who intends to start a family, rich or poor, scholar or worker, so long as they take responsibility for their own actions, by providing subsidized funds for child birth, rearing them, and education.
The only problem with having kids at your age is not about money, for if you are responsible and willing to work, you will never be a beggar in Singapore. It is the maturity you have that may be a stumbling block.
Child rearing is a major committment of effort and sacrifice. Are you seriously ready to commit now? Kids are not toys to play with. They are precious lives.As you both will need to work hard now, being new to the employment field, will you have precious time to spend and look after your kids? Do you have the necessary experience in life to handle kids, at each stage of their developement? These are just some of the many questions you will need to ask and share with her.
I would recommend you take her to a seminar on child rearing developement, conducted regularly at town councils or community centres, and discuss this important issue with professionals in such fields, to get a better idea, so that you both will have an idea of what you both will be getting into.
Adult live is never a bed of roses. But it is never a life of thorns either, so long as you always keep abreast of issues to make informed choices and decisions.
Good luck
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Tackful?
My dear friend, how long can you be tackful?
You can only delay the inevitable for 6 months, 1 year, then she gets pregnant.
Its best you be up and open to her. You have to convince her to plan for the baby. That means setting up your lives first. A baby can get in the way of a career, or even a job.
While you are thinking how to convince her, you can bet she will be goading you to have the baby regardless.
BTW, it will be some time before you can get an income that is sufficient to finance a home, a car, and still have enough left over for all things nice for yourselves and the baby.
Well she is your better half, sort it out yourself.
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My gf tells me those things to tie me down, or see my reaction i guess....
I agree with her.. only disagreement...
I want slow and steady..
I scared she too worried i unfaithful anyhow chut stunt -
Originally posted by ChingAlvin:
My gf tells me those things to tie me down, or see my reaction i guess....
I agree with her.. only disagreement...
I want slow and steady..
I scared she too worried i unfaithful anyhow chut stuntNo fears, buddy, yo da man!
After all, love is the sharing of both lives on the journey of life. Both must mutually agree on something, more so on serious issues that affect the lives of each other, otherwise you both will find difficulty to move on. True love is never a one sided affair, and takes both hands to clap.
Tell her to cut the mind games, and enjoy life together, for it is truly short for humanity.....
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Use contraceptive
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u lousy .
she abandone u, u also lang lang.
u r childish and u don't trust her.
u do stun by saying your uncertainty in sgforum.
u already betray her.
love is not about worry the about part doing stun. u are not in love, u just another asshole wanting a lady as companion.
u will lose her, and become lonely and no one to love.
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Originally posted by ChingAlvin:
thats y lo...
=(
She fully working le la...
Me NS liability..NS liability ==> army feed baby?