Confused!!
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Hey people, im kind of new here but i sincerly hope i can get some advice from u people over here... Im in a serious confusion as im unsure what to do with some sort of a relationship problem.. It all starts like this... Well, im kind of attracted to a gal i just know and im starting to have feelings for her... But, she is having lots of problems now and she wants to borrow money from me.. My mind tells me im a fool if i lend her the money but my heart wants to... I knoe for sure if i lend her the money, the chances of getting the money back are slim...The amount is not very large but neither is it a small amount. But im not very stable myself and im really at a lost.. I sort of admitted to her that i like her and she says we need time for love to grow.. I fully understand that but now.. im really confused over this money issue... I know for sure that if i dont lend her the money, i dont think i will have the heart to face her anymore...But if i lend her the money, she can just turn the tables around and pretend that nothing has happened. She has no one to turn to accept me n i really feel bad if i dont help her... But if i help her... am i a fool?? im really confused guys and i really hope u guys will help me with some advice... ThkS
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Love is blind...
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You think so..... but i feel that im really blind..... but i dunno wat to do..
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When since you are limited in cash too don't throw everything to her. You can give her some money, only some. You may need to find out the reason she needs the money for too.
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She claims that she has to help her fren settle a debt if not she will get into trouble... How true is that i really dunno and i myself dunno if she is lying or not.. Thats the reason why i am confused... N i really dont want to see her being in such a pathethic state lor...
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here's an idea.......
lend her some money and offer her your help in getting around borrowing money whatsoever to see if she is bluffing or whatsoever........
it also allows chance for u and her to interact.....then u can see better what to do next.....to lend her more money etc..... -
then u got to ask urself, are u willing to take the gamble. let mi help u foresee some results. the good ending, she will start to have good impression of u, start to fond of u in the end u two r together. by this way , u have actually exchange love by money but u still get wat u want..... for the bad one, she taken ur money, first thing she did, change her hp no. or ran off with other guys or maybe tell her friends " see! i knew i am able to bluff his money" now the problem for u is that are u able to handle the truth.....Originally posted by Johnny Bravo:Hey people, im kind of new here but i sincerly hope i can get some advice from u people over here... Im in a serious confusion as im unsure what to do with some sort of a relationship problem.. It all starts like this... Well, im kind of attracted to a gal i just know and im starting to have feelings for her... But, she is having lots of problems now and she wants to borrow money from me.. My mind tells me im a fool if i lend her the money but my heart wants to... I knoe for sure if i lend her the money, the chances of getting the money back are slim... But im not very stable myself and im really at a lost.. I sort of admitted to her that i like her and she says we need time for love to grow.. I fully understand that but now.. im really confused over this money issue... I know for sure that if i dont lend her the money, i dont think i will have the heart to face her anymore... She has no one to turn to accept me n i really feel bad if i dont help her... But if i help her... am i a fool?? -
The bad ending is wat im afraid of..... Bu there is a high chance of that happenin but on the other hand, there is also a chance to succeed in your first point.. I myself am unsure if i am able to handle the truth or not and make myself a laughing stock... Im trying to think positively and trying to tell myself that i really have to follow my mind and not my heart... but i cant.....Originally posted by >mAn<:then u got to ask urself, are u willing to take the gamble. let mi help u foresee some results. the good ending, she will start to have good impression of u, start to fond of u in the end u two r together. by this way , u have actually exchange love by money but u still get wat u want..... for the bad one, she taken ur money, first thing she did, change her hp no. or ran off with other guys or maybe tell her friends " see! i knew i am able to bluff his money" now the problem for u is that are u able to handle the truth..... -
Thats a good idea but the the problem is that i dont really know her frens and its not possible for me to ask my frens for help... Everyone is tight with cash nowadays.. I can lend her the money.. but the problem is the chances of me getting it back is very slim and its not as if i am stingy but i really feel foolish to let my heart control my mind...Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:here's an idea.......
lend her some money and offer her your help in getting around borrowing money whatsoever to see if she is bluffing or whatsoever........
it also allows chance for u and her to interact.....then u can see better what to do next.....to lend her more money etc..... -
i do not mean ask her friends for help. What i mean is let's say she and her friend go around looking for money(run errands, etc....), u can say u wanna offer your help and also be present so that u can do whatever u can help as well as understand the situation. Your intention is to help her, if she dun want, it most probably means she not very interested in u also or something fishy or whatsover.....Originally posted by Johnny Bravo:Thats a good idea but the the problem is that i dont really know her frens and its not possible for me to ask my frens for help... Everyone is tight with cash nowadays.. I can lend her the money.. but the problem is the chances of me getting it back is very slim and its not as if i am stingy but i really feel foolish to let my heart control my mind... -
oIc... sorry for the misconception... But the problem is im not really close to her frens yet.... i see your point but she needs the money urgently and i really have to make a decision fast and its really killing me...Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:i do not mean ask her friends for help. What i mean is let's say she and her friend go around looking for money(run errands, etc....), u can say u wanna offer your help and also be present so that u can do whatever u can help as well as understand the situation. Your intention is to help her, if she dun want, it most probably means she not very interested in u also or something fishy or whatsover..... -
if i were u, go with her to give money u lend to her friend and get to noe her friend also. Join them for a meal or 2.......Originally posted by Johnny Bravo:oIc... sorry for the misconception... But the problem is im not really close to her frens yet.... i see your point but she needs the money urgently and i really have to make a decision fast and its really killing me...
test her reaction also lor......see how she reacts to all these. U can also better understand her mah...... -
but wat kind of girl is she??
Lian type?
Guai type?
Notti type(punish!
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½guai ½lian?
most prob lian type will give u a sad ending..... -
Originally posted by J-reeee:
½guai ½lian.... or i would say Ex lian.... YUp... thats why im worried....
but wat kind of girl is she??
Lian type?
Guai type?
Notti type([b]punish! )?
½guai ½lian?
most prob lian type will give u a sad ending.....[/b] -
½gsdg
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Good idea buddy but the prob is her friend left her with a debt according to her... Now she cant contact her friend.... Thats why she has to settle the debt for her friend.... Quite a complicated issue... Haiz.... I dont have much time left to make my decision...Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:if i were u, go with her to give money u lend to her friend and get to noe her friend also. Join them for a meal or 2.......
test her reaction also lor......see how she reacts to all these. U can also better understand her mah...... -
Wad you mean bro??Originally posted by Lim Chu Kang:½gsdg
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like that is ma jiam her friend go loansharkOriginally posted by Johnny Bravo:Good idea buddy but the prob is her friend left her with a debt according to her... Now she cant contact her friend.... Thats why she has to settle the debt for her friend.... Quite a complicated issue... Haiz.... I dont have much time left to make my decision...
then she is guarantor then her friend siam
so she have to pay.....
a bit wee u weee.......
i tell u what u can do. be the man to protect her. go with her to settle the debt all that. U R THE MAN!!!! -
bro how's her feeling for u?
ask her somehow be4 making decision.
man i dun wish to see guys got cheat by girls!
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Bro, i did express to her before and she said its to fast which i agree to... I also think its to fast to ask but my mouth itchy la... I also dun wish to be cheated but there again, its a big gamble i have to take... I really dont have much time left and im racking my brains to make a decision quick...Originally posted by J-reeee:bro how's her feeling for u?
ask her somehow be4 making decision.
man i dun wish to see guys got cheat by girls! -
Actually i dont mind to lend her if she is really paying for her friend, but the prob is i dont know if that is the *real* reason for wanting to borrow money from me.. Honestly, i really cant bear to let her down.. And im kind of soft hearted, but i also cant let my emotions control my mind.. What im afraid off is that she will continue to borrow from me and i have 2 end it one day rite?? Haizzz.. isnt it better to end it before it starts....Originally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:like that is ma jiam her friend go loanshark
then she is guarantor then her friend siam
so she have to pay.....
a bit wee u weee.......
i tell u what u can do. be the man to protect her. go with her to settle the debt all that. U R THE MAN!!!! -
if u tell her u like her and then she wanna borrow $$ from u after that, u have to be carefulOriginally posted by Johnny Bravo:Actually i dont mind to lend her if she is really paying for her friend, but the prob is i dont know if that is the *real* reason for wanting to borrow money from me.. Honestly, i really cant bear to let her down.. And im kind of soft hearted, but i also cant let my emotions control my mind.. What im afraid off is that she will continue to borrow from me and i have 2 end it one day rite?? Haizzz.. isnt it better to end it before it starts....
if not, maybe can risk it a bit
depends on your degree of liking her lor -
Thats whats bothering me the most... WHether i should risk it or not... I can say i like her 50% but for the other 50 percent, i cant be to sure yet.. Cos she seems like a very very complicated girl.. Im not attracted to her because of her looks(She's not pretty) but there is just something about her character and her style that i like.... I dont want to slap myself in the future for not tryingOriginally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:if u tell her u like her and then she wanna borrow $$ from u after that, u have to be careful
if not, maybe can risk it a bit
depends on your degree of liking her lor -
Smells a rat liaoOriginally posted by Johnny Bravo:½guai ½lian.... or i would say Ex lian.... YUp... thats why im worried.... -
Corrections ! Luv is very very very BLINDOriginally posted by WinBoi84:Love is blind...