They think they love me.
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Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:
Why are you surprised?
Lots of shallow people around - if someone can 'fall in love' cos of a person's looks ONLY then there is a lot more reason to 'fall in love' with some one cos he/she has limited interaction with you that is almost always pleasant.
The virtual world is an artificial utopia where interaction is almost always by choice, you only need to be bugged by those you feel like being bugged by (just click BLOCK or IGNORE if you don't feel like talking to someone), no exposure to real life bad habits, and everything else is a fill in the blank DIY Imaginary Friend.
Occasionally the imaginary friend built up in the people's minds can be close to the real thing so that's lucky. But how many of us are single faceted people who can be expressed merely through words on the screen? If 90% of our meaning is through body language, and 5 % is through tone - then someone you know on screen really only knows 5% of you - from your words only.
My point being that whatever love they claim is for the 5% they know online. Whether or not it will sustain when they get to know the other 95% - well, who knows? So take it as what its worth - 5%.
which is a lengthy version of wat i said.
XD
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Originally posted by yiha093:
which is a lengthy version of wat i said.
XD
Is it? I didn't read your post.
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Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:
Is it? I didn't read your post.
ya. u should read it, its short, really. LOL
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:
i think "falling in love" with a girl online is easier to arrange... but not for me
yau prefer the physical transaction
hahaaa
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i think most of the 'Zai Nan' (å®…ç”·) like to dream alot show abit of care they will thought they had fall in love wif that person
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PenQ, you're just boasting to air off how popular or well received you are - you like the attention and you know it - how did they declare their affection for you? show us some proof... they probably didn't and you're just assuming! I don't believe u.
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Originally posted by spade1:
PenQ, you're just boasting to air off how popular or well received you are - you like the attention and you know it - how did they declare their affection for you? show us some proof... they probably didn't and you're just assuming! I don't believe u.
I'm not bragging. I'm very mediocre both online and offline. I'm just buffle by how deep the guys think they like u just by online interaction. Nothing more. The only reason i can think of is because I'm sincere. Thats all. -
Originally posted by Noahtay:
i think most of the 'Zai Nan' (å®…ç”·) like to dream alot show abit of care they will thought they had fall in love wif that person
go to show how desperate they are.hahahaa
think too much, do too little
remind me of the si gina from singles club
like never seen a woman b4, hahaaha
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Originally posted by Penqueen:
I'm not bragging. I'm very mediocre both online and offline. I'm just buffle by how deep the guys think they like u just by online interaction. Nothing more. The only reason i can think of is because I'm sincere. Thats all.
don't worry, most of us won't think u r braggingonly those who are so bo liao will think u r bragging
cos we don't even care at all, hahaa
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Originally posted by Penqueen:
I like to make virtual friends because I like to chat. I like to listen to diverse perspectives, how ppl feel on certain issue. I wont debate or argue if their view is different from mine. I wont imposed my values on others. I just like to listen and maybe gain new insights from the chat. It happened a few times when the interaction sparks off and the other party thinks they fall for me. I was taken aback by their "affection" for me. Flattered but taken aback nonetheless. The three guys are young adults. Nice people and the last thing I want to do is to mislead them, I'm single but still, this is a virtual world. They din even see my photo before. So it appear strange that they could fall for me just by chatting online.
What's your view on this.
I guess most men who goes online are lonely souls or may have issues to deal with. When a person such as you comes along, whom can spend time with them, a hope developes in their hearts, at times even without looking at your face, for your words, if communicates well, comes to life and goes beyond physical perceptions.
Some may believe you are the one they had been looking for and will want to see in person to confirm the fact. But when reality hits them, they will back off. These are the shallow ones. Some will seek instant gratification, even after seeing you, and love is the last thing on their mind.
There will be a few whom willl actually mean their words even in person.
But no none truly knows. So long as you are upfront, honest and sincere in what you are doing online, misleading no one, then have a clear conscience, no matter the praises or brickbats you get.
Just be yourself, and let others decide. The choice for F2F is still your decision alone.
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online waste time lah.
that's why i am online, i got time to waste
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Originally posted by xtreyier:
I guess most men who goes online are lonely souls or may have issues to deal with. When a person such as you comes along, whom can spend time with them, a hope developes in their hearts, at times even without looking at your face, for your words, if communicates well, comes to life and goes beyond physical perceptions.
Some may believe you are the one they had been looking for and will want to see in person to confirm the fact. But when reality hits them, they will back off. These are the shallow ones. Some will seek instant gratification, even after seeing you, and love is the last thing on their mind.
There will be a few whom willl actually mean their words even in person.
But no none truly knows. So long as you are upfront, honest and sincere in what you are doing online, misleading no one, then have a clear conscience, no matter the praises or brickbats you get.
Just be yourself, and let others decide. The choice for F2F is still your decision alone.
Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it. =)
But I'm not into online dating. I'm trying to gauge and work out why they feel that way and try to salvage the situation.. I truely value our friendship even if its a virtual one.
They are nice and by no mean lewd. I've nv been able to make friend off mirc because most are pretty upright with their desire. They are different.
Kopiosatu. Very funny.
hahaha
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Originally posted by Kenashi:
don't worry, most of us won't think u r braggingonly those who are so bo liao will think u r bragging
cos we don't even care at all, hahaa
I'm glad. Please dont let me take up too much of your time.
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Originally posted by Call4ljw:
Why do you think that appearance matters?
u think a person with very very good personalities but is ugly got more bf or a person with below average personalities but with a super super pretty face and devil figure got more bf?
first impression is everything, and b4 u know a person, we judge the person by their looks, if they are ugly, we have a rough gauge of the person, while if the person is pretty, we have a low expectation of the personalities since she is pretty... boys with raging hormones should know best, well i am one of them tho..
if u think appearance dont matters, u are just very pretty/beautiful/sexy or u are very lucky.. congrats then!IA
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Originally posted by ItchyArmpit:
u think a person with very very good personalities but is ugly got more bf or a person with below average personalities but with a super super pretty face and devil figure got more bf?
first impression is everything, and b4 u know a person, we judge the person by their looks, if they are ugly, we have a rough gauge of the person, while if the person is pretty, we have a low expectation of the personalities since she is pretty... boys with raging hormones should know best, well i am one of them tho..
if u think appearance dont matters, u are just very pretty/beautiful/sexy or u are very lucky.. congrats then!IA
what is the use of so many bf?if they come n go, no point loh. haaha