No light at end of the tunnel..
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Hi everyone, i am currently 1 yr+ in ns and am starting to get tired of it.. so much stuff to do and not much ppl to share my load with.. sometimes when im back home, i dun feel like going back but i guess there is not much choice in that matter.. somemore after ord got ippt ict i think already also sian.
Furthermore, there are lots of foreign workers arnd. Even some sbs drivers are china nationals.. Makes me wonder if i will ever even get a good job in the future. Also heard lots of negative things about the uni course i am entering.. sigh
Weekend also v lonely.. scroll thru my hp contact list and there is literally no one i could call out for a drink or to hang out with.. things that i used to enjoy doing does not interest me anymore.. i feel v empty.. feel hopeless..
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u deserve a mega mac
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Just focus on your NS.. after ORD.. then free your mind. Then decide where you want approach..
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wat if the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train???
u got to learn to be more optimistic......... -
who needs frens when you've got the "Bar forum" during weekend?
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Originally posted by Sure-Fire:
Hi everyone, i am currently 1 yr+ in ns and am starting to get tired of it.. so much stuff to do and not much ppl to share my load with.. sometimes when im back home, i dun feel like going back but i guess there is not much choice in that matter.. somemore after ord got ippt ict i think already also sian.
Furthermore, there are lots of foreign workers arnd. Even some sbs drivers are china nationals.. Makes me wonder if i will ever even get a good job in the future. Also heard lots of negative things about the uni course i am entering.. sigh
Weekend also v lonely.. scroll thru my hp contact list and there is literally no one i could call out for a drink or to hang out with.. things that i used to enjoy doing does not interest me anymore.. i feel v empty.. feel hopeless..
Hi Sure-Fire,
It is good that you are thinking ahead about your future, but you are being too pessimistic already. No doubt the competition for a job in Singapore is getting tougher by the day, but have faith that as long as you try, you will be sure to find yourself a job. As for IPPT and ICT, who knows? You may just get posted to a less active unit in the future.
But putting that aside, you should focus on finishing your NS first. Though there is no one to share your load with you, you are free to rant all you want here. It will make you feel better.
If you are to continue thinking negatively, I am worried that you may get depression sooner or later. So please do cheer up, and look forward to finish the 8/10 months left.
Cheers
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One step at a time lar. All these futurizing, comparing, wishing and worrying - utter waste of energy.
Accept and go with the flow. Of course, acceptance of yourself first - warts and all. Otherwise it is this: Idealizing, Futurizing and Demoralizing - IFD trap and a vicious one at that.
Be a light unto yourself - no need to think of tunnels or ... lights lar!
PS - If u feel inclined to read: DR WAYNE DYER'S - 'your erroneous zones' and 'pulling ur own strings' worth reading.
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Hey Sure Fire, do not think too much about your future... as what Fugazzi said, just take one step at a time... i am now in NS also and left around 8 months to complete it... i have been in a loss before so i can imagine how you feel... no point worrying over something that you cannot control... take things that u can control and manage them well... that is what i am doing...
sometimes, being alone is not a bad thing... slowly build up your social circle... it takes time bro...
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Hey its not tht bad la at least u are worrying about future, some ppl in other country worry about how they can get thru the next day. Just cheer up, NS u need to help others so they can help u when its your turn... need to start accepting ppl cause in future when u work surely need to use some interpersonal relation one.
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u can bet on Toto or 4D
it give u some hope ma
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honestly, what you need is girls now...you're just lonely and think too much to stress yourself. try to relax and go some pub or club to know some new people...
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TS can ask me out for a drink or chit chat.
Unfortunately I am a guy so we can only be friends. lol
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u need to do something that interest u...whats ur interest? play games? sing k? movies? play gals?
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well.... u definitely not alone.... many of us guys gone thru this...
think on the bright side... during my NS time.. I got so little to do until i bored bored bored & continue felt bored......got to stroll the camp with my buddy in the middle of the nite... stood at the gate for 2 hrs in very 6 hrs period.... this was the other end of what u going thru....
after ORD... in camps were a break from work life.... the only bad thing was IPPT....haha.... u can get through IPPT by just continue working out.....
it is not that bad.... now i got no more In Camps then i miss the in camp days....
just take time to do some work out & u surely can get over.....
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is there any way to not go ns? except for migration.
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It's hard to be without friends real ones especially.
You should try to find a hobby start from there. Don't fill your thoughts about what's the future is going to become because frankly you don't know even what's tomorrow going to bring!
Be passionate about life. Find something that you love doing. If you don't know what yet then explore! So many interesting things out there. Even reading a good book could be very entertaining.
Don't be afraid of life. It's an adventure! enjoy the ride as much as you could! Celebrate your life! everyday! I don't mean partying out each night lol but try to enjoy yourself and everything about yourself. -
sure fire ^^. cheer up ok. do u literally mean that u are lonely? there's bound to be someone that u want to hang out with
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Achieve your dreams. not listening to negative comments.
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Hi there, I can SO relate to you, man. It feels like everything is so black and white, so "routine". Well, let me tell u how I overcame this:
I am still serving my ns like urself. Am in the service support side. Altho most service support are stay out, mine's stay in. So Im spending 80% of my waking hour in camp. It feels stupid and reduntant just to be in camp waiting for time to pass by and that feeling of booking in really ruins the mood at home. It was like, my only purpose was to rot and die.
I told myself, I don't want to continue living like this. So I made some changes. I decided, why not use the time to pursuit something I want? I always wanted to learn to play guitar.. so i bought a guitar in camp. At first I sucked alot, but to shorten the story, I am a proud to tell others I am a guitarist =) Also, I've always admired people who are fit, so I am currently undergoing a fitness regime. As my unit is not the combat side, we don't really receive much exercise. So those who O.T.O.T exercise on their own gets respect. And with that respect breeds confidence. Its a good feeling.
I am thinking of picking up mandarin as well. Got a few smart chinese fella's here that can help. I still have a year to go to ORD. But knowing that when I ORD, I be fit, shred "November Rain"'s solo on guitar and perhaps, even learn some mandarin, its hard to be depressed.. -
Originally posted by FireIce:
wat if the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train???
u got to learn to be more optimistic.........
is that the way to talk to Ah Ti....?if you wanna be the President you must learned positive encouragement.
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one thing about me is i always had poor judgement.. always making mistakes, making bad decisions.. once or twice is okay but doing it too often is bound to piss some ppl off.. i dun wanna make so many mistakes, but i always do.. sigh.. everything looks like a mess now...
btw, its nice to see ppl coming here providing advice and encouragement. thnks 4 that!
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Hmm, know how you feel... hope now every thing is fine for you